My husband of 3 years who in his 40's moved 250 miles to my home when we got married. His best friend (who is married also) lives in the old town and I have gone with to visit him but he treats me like I am not welcome. Now he tries to get my husband to go visit him on holiday's etc. and leave me at home when I tried to discuss it with the friend, he now told my husband I am not welcome at his house anymore. He is very controlling and wants his party buddy back. At any rate my husband will still leave for the weekend to go see this person and tells me since he doesn't like me and they were friends for 10 years I need to stay home. Any advice would be welcome?
2006-06-29 10:32:19 · 5 answers · asked by cprice1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my gosh if my best friend can't respect that I am married to and then they no longer my friend I don't care if 10 30 years of best friend. But they will never be around long enough.. My marriage will be around long time until I died and She is my best friend also my wife too. both in one.
I think that he didn't even care how you feel and like other people saying do he know what marriage all about????
2006-07-10 05:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. Honestly, he is not much of a friend and your husband is not showing much respect for you by still leaving to see him without you. He is simply letting the "friend" win. My husband's best friend since childhood moved back home 2 years ago. After doing so he wanted to hang out with my husband more. I was fine with it till he wanted to move in with us. When I said that would not be a good idea, he became angry with me and told my husband I had flirted with him and "wanted" him. Moral of the story is, my husband realized no matter how hard he tried to keep him as a friend, the friend was still not going to be happy till I was out of the picture. You really should sit your husband down and explain to him that his leaving you behind is disrepecting to you and letting this friend know that he can get what he wants, when he wants. 10 years of friendship can never compete with an everlasting marriage and should not have to but some people in this world have an issue with sharing and respect.
2006-06-29 11:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor dear. Your husband's best friend (jerk) needs to grow up. He sounds like a spoiled brat. It doesn't help that your husband will go along with the idea of not taking you with him. He needs to have a talk with his friend and let him know that he needs to accept reality. He can't be his "party buddy" forever.
You'll need to talk with your husband and let him know that this cannot go on forever.
2006-06-29 11:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what?? does your husband know what marriage is all about? in my opinion, the spouse should become one's best friend and is the first person who you should make happy.
2006-06-29 10:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by sarea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is in his 40's and should really weigh his options carefully.
2006-07-11 08:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by crzinluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋