GUY I WAS DATING SEEMS TO LUV ME ALOT MAKES PLANS WITH ME ALL THE TIME GETS A LIL JEALOUS WHEN GUYS TALK TO ME-NOTHING BAD BUT WHEN I BRING UP LETS SETTLE DOWN HE ADMITS HE'S AN *** FOR NOT SETTLING SOONER BUT WHEN HE'S OUT WITH GUYS HE TURNS VICIOUS ON ME .. AS IF I'M THE BAD PERSON HE SOMETIMES ACTS PANIC STRICKEN AS IF I'M TRYING TO TAKE AWAY HIS LIFE OR CONTROL IT STARTS BLAMING ME FOR STUFF HE GETS ANGRY AND WILL TURN THINGS AROUND .I'LL KEEP MY DISTANCE BUT WHEN HECOMES AROUND & SEE'S MY FACE HE SAYS I'M SORRY ALL THE TIME HE SAYS THINGS LIKE I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WAS THINKING , I LOVE YOU, I NEVER WANT TO LOSE YOU, EVERYTIME HE SEE'S MY FACE. BUT WHEN WERE NOT IN THE SAME ROOM OR PLACE TOGATHER , I GET THIS JERK, IT'S HARD BECAUSE HE CRY'S OVER HIS ACTIONS OF BEING MEAN TO ME ,SEEMS LIKE HE FEELS BAD, HE ALSO DROPS TO BOTH OF HIS KNEES, SAYS HE'S SORRY, NOW I'M WORN OUT, I'M NOT EFFECTED ANYMORE BUY HIS PITTY PARTY BUT WHY THE ANGRY & PANIC TOWARD ME.... PLEASE HELP
2006-06-29 10:30:35 · 13 answers · asked by darkartistproductions 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would suggest letting him know that you are tired of this back and forth game. Give him the freedom he is certain he doesn't want to give up. Leave him alone. When he does (and he will) come back around, and you take him back (and you will) don't expect him to roll over and do what you want.
He seems to think your position in his life is to take his freedom away. Prove to him otherwise.
2006-06-29 10:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he's not ready to get married and if you are, maybe you need to look for someone else to marry. I really don't understand women who let men treat them this way. Why let them hurt you so much, but then take them back and it's all over - over and over again? I just don't get it! Anyway, he may not be ready for marriage for a lot reasons. Some may be:
One - if you're sleeping together and/or living together, why get married? What changes? Why not just live a life where he's free to sleep with anyone else he chooses or just leave you when he's done with you?
Two - our society has told men that women take away their freedom when they get married and she's an old ball & chain....he's just believing what he's been told his whole life
Three - when he's with his friends, he's trying to be all macho and crap and now he's gotten himself in the trap of, if he does marry you what is he going to say to his friends that saw the way he was about it
2006-06-29 10:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by hondapcgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he is very immature and totally not ready.
why would you want to settle down with someone who is not respecting you when decides hes friends are the number one priority. All his is doing is trying to play the part, and he knows how to get your forgiveness, blames you for his stupidity goes out with his buddies and it works out just find for him because you then end up feeling guilty and confused, and that is exactly what he wants, and sorry to say but you are giving it to him.
next time he acts like a jerk, make him really beg for your forgiveness, let him work for more then just a pity cry and a lousy tear. Be mad for at least a day or two, and if he cares he will come around. FUC....RS THEY ALL DO.
2006-06-29 10:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men. My husband couldn't wait to marry me. I was the one stalling.
Some men are just ready for commitment and others are just far from it. It is the luck of the draw what kind of man you get. But a word of advice, if in the beginning he is against marriage, leave. He is not going to change his mind later. You would just be wasting your time.
2006-06-29 11:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this cycle will start up yet back as quickly as his ex spouse discovers that he's relationship YOU back. there is no reason a grown guy without toddlers remarries a woman he has divorced . . . relatives rigidity, at his age, come on. ought to or no longer this is that he replaced into never extremely divorced interior the 1st place yet in basic terms 'separated' from his spouse?
2016-10-31 22:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men need a period of time between getting educated and settling down to get the foot loose and fancy free out of their systems. That is not this guy's problem. This guy is majorly abusive waiting to happen. Get away from him and stay away from him. forget he even exists!
2006-06-29 10:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, duh, freedom! Making that leap from boyfriend to common-law or married guy is HUGE! All I can say, if you've been going out with a guy more than a year and it's not progressing forward, dump the guy. He isn't going to change his mind on settling down at this point in his life.
2006-06-29 10:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him hang out with his little boy friends. Obviuosly you're wasting your time trying to hitch your star to his wagon.
He sounds like a horse's backside.
Sorry sweetie but you are too if you let this relationship go on any further. that is of course if you enjoy being treated like a doormat.
2006-06-29 10:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you will be the most likely person he will settle down but maybe he looking for a mommy.
2006-06-29 10:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by SHARRON N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are afraid of commitment also responsibility. Meet who grow up in family where father respects responsibilities are not like that though
2006-06-29 10:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by fancy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋