Don't tell them until it's over and done with. No need to bring more upon your self.
You need to find some groups to join, enjoy life more. Go travel and see the world, eventually along the way you will look up and see the right man come along.
2006-06-29 10:21:04
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answer #1
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answered by Anonymous
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first and foremost, if you two do truly still love one another, make the marriage work. You CAN NOT make it work with a separation! Stay together and work through your problems. Running away will not solve a darn thing. You can't begin to imagine what separation or divorce will do to the two of you. Your entire world is changed forever and can never be returned. I say fight for your love TOGETHER.
With that said, if you can't make it work and you find yourself starting over, then I strongly suggest you take time to look inside yourself and figure out where YOU made mistakes ( learn from them) after that EMBRACE YOUR FREEDOM!! Make new friends go places you have never gone before. Enjoy your life as a single woman. I have been divorced for 11 years now, the first couple of years were a little rough but, I have loved being single. I honestly can not imagine ever being married again. I love taking vacations to places HE never wanted to go, meeting new and interesting people, but I also cherish my alone time. I am free to do what I want, when I want and I never have to worry about getting home in time to cook or clean or answer for where I have been or why I am a few minutes late . Marriage is great and has alot to offer but so does the single life, it all comes down to how bad you want it.
2006-06-29 10:57:50
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answered by Anonymous
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I am going through a divorce and my only worry is financial with two small kids. To get away from the stress of a unhealthy relationship, trying to please someone that was unwilling to be kind it was exhausting. Loneliness isn't about who you are with but more about yourself. Being comfortable being alone will allow you to be better at the next relationship you are in. You should never be with someone for fear of loneliness, look at it as a fresh start to find the person that truly you deserve. A new adventure for you! Take all that negativity and turn it around to a chance to be yourself and breathe again! If your family does not understand that is hard. I would think if it was a unhappy and unhealthy situation then they may not agree but support you as they should want what is best for you...they will get over it, focus on yourself now!
2006-06-29 10:25:52
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answered by Anonymous
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Being contained in the defense force i comprehend what that is like being lonely. My relationships will not in any respect very last previous a three hundred and sixty 5 days because i'm continually transferring. i'm getting stationed in international places the position one receives singled out by using way they offer the impact of being. I actually have strict guidelines on who i am going to carry out with and who i am going to't. My kin is back contained in the states. many cases i believe remoted. i comprehend what that is to be lonely. the desirable advice i am going to grant you with is to stay busy. try employing some time doing issues that make you chuffed. for instance, take some college courses, hit the health middle, or try new interests. no longer in straight forward words try this stuff make a better or in good structure you, they could be great for assembly new human beings. you could meet new acquaintances or a sparkling guy that has a similar pastimes as you. The busier you stay the extra you imagine about your self and the a lot less you imagine about him.
2016-11-30 00:10:42
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answered by brezee 3
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Hello Happy, first let me say that if the two of you are still in love, you have hope! You also recognized that the two of you fell into ruts or unhealthy patterns as you said. To deal with the lonliness you need to spend time with your friends. Have some sleep over occasionally and you can sleep over with them sometimes too! Learn to stay positive and realize that there is hope. As for your family, they are going to have their opinions and remember that that is just what they are, OPINIONS! You don't have to do anything they say if you don't want to. They may say things to you that aren't that nice or that you may not like but family sometimes does this. Tell them that you are going to stay positive and you BOTH have hope of getting back together. Next, set up a date with your husband. Pick a date about 2-3 weeks from now and meet for dinner at a restaurant that you both like. Once there, stay POSITIVE and talk about the good times you two have had together. Don't talk about your issues during this dinner, you BOTH want to keep things positive tonight. After dinner, if things go well, agree on another date soon. NOTHING ELSE ON THIS EVENING! You just want to have dinner as man and wife and enjoy each others company. Next time you two can SLOWLY get into the issues the two of you have. BOTH of you need to make compromises.
Stay positive and see if you two can start to come to some agreements on the small things that have caused you both problems. Agree to meet at least once a week after this and just talk, keep things positive and both of you need to be willing to make compromises. If you can do this, the two of you will be back together within 2-3 months. No guarantees but if you both stay positive and make an effort, it can happen.
Good luck!
2006-06-29 10:32:59
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answered by Ekimo 5
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Well your family will find out soon enough...Just tell them you have been working really hard to make it work out...But nothing you do is good enough and its just not working ..
As for you its hard at first what a change...Take charge of yourself live for you take time think about life and what makes you happy..Before you know it you will be better off and happier than you have for the last four years..
2006-06-29 11:11:00
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answered by canuticklemepink 5
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I know it could be really scary to go back to single again after 5 years. When I divorced my husband I set a goal (finish school and work out) I was so focus on those things that I kind of forgot about my divorce. I don't know if it would work for you but it sure worked for me .
2006-06-29 10:24:25
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answered by donatella_millian 1
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Separation is very scary thing indeed but sometimes it is essential. If you avoid short time of separation because of fear, you may have bigger problem in the future. I would tell my family even though they don't believe in it. (unless it is going to give them heart attack) If they are my family, they should respect my happiness and trust in my judgement that I am making the decision for my own happiness.
2006-06-29 10:25:33
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answered by whattodo898 1
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just take time apart for now maybe you guys will realize that you are ment to be with each other. It is hard for a lon time but you never know what life has in store for you maybe something better will soon come along.my girlfriend broke up with me after 3 years i imall messed up at home and at work
2006-06-29 10:26:58
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answered by Anonymous
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the best way is to get out more and ask men out make the first move that take the eag off
2006-06-29 10:32:35
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answered by john boy 1
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