How do I get on with my life now that I am divorced after 32 yrs of marriage?

Question

I was married for 32 yrs now iam divorced i don't know how to get started with my life again.

Answer 1

you just keep going!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

If you expect it to be an easy answer then you are setting yourself up for another failure. Start by accepting the fact that you are no longer together. Then try a change of scenery, either move to another house. Or even just rearrange all of your furniture, it sounds weird but it helps with things being different. It will take some time to get life going again, but it will happen, you might get depressed, so yes church is a good thing to start going to if you don't already.
Be careful not to start this new life by going out and sleeping with other people right away though. You might just feel guilty and you don't need other stress right now.
Get together with old friends and party like it is going out of style.
It is risky, but before the government took control psychologists were using extacy to help cope with difficult situations if life. So that could be an option as well, just be smart and use it as a tool.

Answer 3

You can look at it two ways! You can sit on the couch and eat icecream and cry and be depressed, and have to take meds,, and then gain weight....and really have a problem meeting people!

Or:
You can go to your local craft store and join a class, join a church group... meet people on Yahoo... or really just live day to day like you did when you were married! Don't think that you have to meet somebody,,,when the time is right,,he will fall into your lap!!!

Go on a singles cruise if you have the funds.. ask your friends to do things w/ you.
If u have grandchildren.....take a night on the weekend and have fun w/ them.

volunteer at your local hospital...

Go eat breakfast on weekend then go to the bookstore,,,they always have single men there!

Watch what you want to on t.v.
Cook just what you at night.

Throw yourself a "Happy Divorce" party if u are glad, or if you aren't..then throw a "New beginnings" party w/ balloons, party hats,,,and tell someone to bring a single man,, or just grab a friend and maybe you can turn this into a montly get together at each others home.


I am married,,but I am telling you what I would do... llol.

If you don't work,,,get a part time job that you enjoy....

but,, make the best of it,,,give your self time to miss himm, ( it had to be good in the beginning,,and if it was bad in the end,,,it is human nature to miss soomeone),, but after a while..... move on!

Answer 4

There's lots of things to do. If you don't have a job start looking, that's something to be excited about, you'll meet new people, and learn a lot of new things. If you do have a job get reacquanted with your co-workers plan a happy hour after work or invite a few of them for dinner over the weekend. Call old friends that you haven't seen in a while and catch up, join a yoga class or gym, or walk everyday through a park, re-decorate your house, change your look, go back to school. I can go on forever but the point is this is your time to do what you've always wanted to do.

Answer 5

I'm sure you have friends.....start going out with them. If your not going to church, start. Alot of kewl people can be met there! My Mother In Law had to end a 33 yr marriage to a man who had mentally abused her all her life. Its been three years now and she is like a whole other person! The first couple were rough on her, and my husband and I helped her alot emotionally. But now she has a few jobs here and there that keep her busy and happy, she bought her OWN home from the divorce monies, and she just had her very first DATE a couple weeks ago! There is life for you out there, stay in it girl. The right man is out there if your wanting that. However, your not going to find him, or any fun hangin close to home every night, you know? Try and shake it off, shake your fanny and get out there and get LIVIN! It is something you CAN do girl!!!

Answer 6

How hard this must be for you. First put you first, being married for 36 years I know how hard that is to do but you must. There is a country song about this very thing and the woman began to really live for the first time in her life, she got her hair done changed her clothes, her make up and got a new lease on life. Do this if you have the means take a vacation, somewhere you have always wanted to go just to clear your head and have fun. Join a singles group at a good church this will put you in touch with others in your age group and make sure it is a group that plans trips and fun things to do not just bible study. Start to socialize with people at work, don't go wild and go to bars and things because you might not like what you become but go out to meals, movies, parties with friends. Get in touch with yourself for the first time in your life. Just become the best you, you can and that is a wonderful revenge and a great beginning. Good luck.

Answer 7

It's almost like being reborned or being a virgin to life. If you have support from family and friends I'm sure they can help you along. Sounds like you lost you're own individuality in the marriage, so many of us do. Think about something you've always wanted to do, think about things you are passionate about. Don't be afraid because there was life before your marriage and now there is life after your marriage. Embrace the wonderment of discovery!

Answer 8

I'm just getting divorce too while i been separated I been taking some dancing classes (salsa) I really enjoy it. I'm not in the age to go clubbing but its nice to meet nice young girls. Also sign in one of those matting services so you can chat with somebody local or overseas. I met some nice people from china, Brazil, Colombia etc. try it its fun, you may find a companion you want

Answer 9

I'm very sorry to hear that. Go to church, start doing things that you like to do not just one a couple at a time and you will soon find new friends and a new life.

I suggest the book Growing Through Divorce. It is a fabulous book, I've read it myself.

Answer 10

That is like being by yourself after a lifetime of being with people.That is why you dont know what to do but I dont think you had to do the divorce thing after 32 YEARS?!
Believe it or not I doubt you will even be able to have another life. Whatever you decide to do, dont get in trouble.

Answer 11

Well, think of things you like to do (yoga, reading, theater, movies, etc...) and find groups that do them (take a class, join a book club, go to the library).

Also, going to Church/Synogugue/other place of worship would be a good place to meet like-minded people that you can form friendships with.

Don't stay home all day and play on the computer, though. Get out and do stuff, and GOOD LUCK!