Question for parents of a young female child?

Question

In my work, I work with people of all ages.
I was at an elementary school recently, and noticed that this one child was surrounded by a large number of her friends (male and female).

I assume this is probibly normal. I noticed that not only was this girl taller than the rest, but that her body was further developed that the other girls her age. She was a 6th grader, and about 5'6", and had the body of a slender 18 year old with what appeared to be a C cup chest.

I wondered what this girl thought about the attention she receives?
What did her friends think?
What does this childs parents tell her about all of the attention that she is receiving?
Has she been told some hard truths about the attention that she will get from boys?

I see questions from young people on here, all the time, and wonder what their parents are telling them.

I am interested in knowing what advise a parent might give to her daughter about all of this?
When is it age appropriate?

Answer 1

Unfortunately I was one of those poor girls in school who was blessed with C cups at a young age. Actually when I left 6th grade I was like a 32C. Along with that a females period begins...I think it has something to do with the larger mammory glands. My daughter is the same way, and I just talked to her and told her what to expect. You have to guide her thru highschool.....because the kids now are relentless. Really have to be there for her.

Answer 2

Early bloomers get the attention of all the boys, which is understandable and the attention of the girls because the girls are wanting to know what is going on. The girls are wanting to be just like the early bloomer so they will one day receive the same amount of attention and they are wanting to know how to act. The parents of the early bloomer; some see it as a godsend regarding popularity and other see it as trouble with all the boy loose. The 6th grade is the puberty years for most children and would be the best time to give advise.

Answer 3

I, too, developed at a very early age. In fourth grade, I was taller and much bigger in the chest area than even most of the girls in the grade above me. The attention I got from the boys made me feel uncomfortable because I was joked about and made fun of quite a bit. Looking back, the way I dealt with it was to just hide. I was so shy to begin with that it caused me so much discomfort that I wished that I would just disappear. As my daughters grew up (I have three) I always taught them to be proud of themselves and to stand up straight and to never listen to anything negative that people might say about them. Kids go through a "discovery" stage where they are noticing the changes in themselves and those around them. I think that it is natural to be curious about these changes. I believe that there is no "age appropriate" time to talk to them. It is so individualized that when the time comes and you start to notice the changes happening in your child that I think you should talk to them. It is all part of growing up. I agree that we, as parents, should be concerned about our daughters and the attention they get from male peers. They need to be informed about the changes going on with themselves and with the opposite sex.
I don't know if I really answered your question, but it was something that I experienced and thought I would share my point of view,

Answer 4

The problem is that alot of parents don't talk to there young teens and preteens. They figure if they don't tell them things then they won't find out just yet. I had a very open relationships with my daughters and they came to me with EVERYTHING. Thats not always good for me but its good that they come to me. Girls are developing too early. The parents of this girl probably don't know of the attention she is getting because she doesn't tell them.

Answer 5

Oh god the things I have to worry about in a few years! I hope that she will be a well rounded girl who can speak freely to myself and my wife. I think that a child should be taught that they can always come to their parent and ask the *hard* questions and not be embarrassed or feel ashamed. As to when the parent should have these discussions with their daughter, I guess that depends on their child's intellectual development. And if it was up to me I would hope that my daughter has enough respect for herself to wait before becoming sexually active, there is no rush to jump in the sack. Sex is better when it's someone that you love.

Cheer's
(from one nervous dad)

Answer 6

I thought that was a kind of strange thing for a guy your age to be wondering, however...I'm sure any parent of a young girl that is developed early, would be worried about the atention she may get,and would talk to her about it. Most girls love attention...and there will never be a shortage of admirers to a slim, pretty,sexy young girl....but still, I thought your question was strange.

Answer 7

Why are you looking at an 11 year old girls chest? I have three daughters and your question really concerns me. I am also wondering why you were at an elementary school and why you are asking questions about young girls.

I know that I speak with my girls quite regularly about their changing bodies and what goes through the minds of boys and men when they look at girls. I have taught them to have respect for themselves and how to protect themselves from perverts. You sound to me like somebody I would warn them about.

Answer 8

My guess is that this girl enjoys the attention AND she is CRAZY over boys.

Yes, girls at that age are far more interested in "dating" (i.e. attracted to the opposite sex) than boys are.

I know girls that age who have already had a couple of "steady boyfriends." They can't go a day without a boyfriend.

By the way, many girls that age LOVE to dress to "highlight" their features and get even more attention.

Answer 9

A lot of girls with a body like that are aware of the attention that they will recieve and i assume her parents have talked to her about what boys younger and older will do!!!

Answer 10

As a girl who developed early (5th) in school I know where you are coming from. Quite honestly, when a girl begins to develope you need to sit and talk with her. Make her realize that boys might be nicer or sleazier because she now has a figure. Girls might tease because they are jealous. It isn't easy. One of my oldest friends had me speak with her daughter beacuse like me she has bloomed early unlike her mum who is flat as a board.

It not easy - but you can help them understand.