I know a guy we have been talkin an texting each other for past 7 months practically everday.I have fallen for him but said nothing cos he told me way back how his heart is broken an I never questioned just was his friend until today.You see today I wanted answers a few weeks back an ex of his asked him to a concert I heard about it got upset and he didnt go I dont think it was because of me but suffice it to say things have been a bit akward since well I have felt it he doesnt seem to have been effected at all,today I told him I liked him, I was jealous of his ex that I felt I wasnt in her league an that I knew he didnt think this way about me an it was ok that I just told him how I felt so he could understand my reactions over his ex.I know I shouldnt contact him but I really dont want to loose his friendship an I did tell him Id get over it an would he please not go all akward on me.The ex is from 12 years ago ,he is 34 I am 35 Please help
2006-06-29 09:20:19 · 7 answers · asked by bermur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You've left the ball in his court. If I were you Id let him make the first contact. Gives him time to think and if he doesnt acknowledge your last text, he has kind answered how he feels about you and you havent lost anything. He wouldnt text you for 7 months and then never text you again. Your friendship must be important to him to waste his credit on you.
2006-06-29 09:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, having stronger feelings for this guy will change the relationship with you two. It is normal to feel jealous when he sees someone else be it an ex or someone new. I agree you should try not to let it affect your friendship with him but you were right to be honest and open with him.
Now that you have put the thought in his mind and opened the possibility of a relationship with you, wait a bit to see if he voluntarily reacts to your confession. If he doesn't still feel out the situation and then ask him if there's any possibility of you sharing more than a friendship.
If he says no and he wants to be your friend, etc then you do your best to be happy for him and pull yourself together and find someone who wants to pursue a romantic relationship with you.
Whatever you do, DO NOT try making him jealous routine or play childish games. That's where you may more than likely end up without a lover and a friend.
Good luck
2006-06-29 16:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit analyzing and smothering, you are just going to push him away...
I mean c'mon..an ex from 12 years ago!!! there will always be an ex somewhere...quit living in the past with the ex's and live for today and look forward to tomorrow.
take each day as it comes....when he's ready to tell you he'll let you know...if you try to force him...he'll turn and run.
2006-06-29 16:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok the best thing to do is to go ahead and tell him your feelings and see if he feels the same, hey maybe he does you never know go for it.
2006-06-29 17:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kasanrda T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, tell him about your feelings and ask him about his.
2006-06-29 16:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask and you shall recive
2006-06-29 16:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by tinybuddafly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK
2006-06-29 16:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋