I just lost the closest friend i have ever had for five years because, he didn't value the friendship we had. How do I deal with the pain. He makes me just wanna crawl into a hole. How coukd he not care when only six months ago he said he loved me and that I wa a great friend and we woukd always be friends. What did i do to lose him as a friend???
2006-06-29 09:13:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He loved me as a friend. And he started dating this girl who hates me and he is just not the same person he was then.
2006-06-29 09:36:19 · update #1
u neva lost him, ive been in the same kind of situations and all it is, is that either he is hiding something from u that he dosent want u to kno about or u made him feel bad somehow. if he has been your closest friend for five years u will only hurt for a little while because he values it more then u kno and eventually he will come around. now, u dont ever get to deal with the pain or get over it because u only r feeling it cuz he knows all ur secrets and sorrows n u dont know how to handle losing the one person who picks u up when ur down. everything will be back to normal soon but either way it goes u will lose him again people change and his decisions r one that u alone cannot change!!! think about it!!!
2006-06-29 09:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by LaLo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated this wonderful girl for 4 years and then all of a sudden she broke it off...that left me heartless. I couldn't even stand up straight because I felt so sick thinking of what we had. Trust me it sucks, not only did I lose my girl friend but it felt like I lost my best friend as well. For me I know why it happened why she left me. But you can never understand why they do it. Even I was saying the same thing. We were telling each other we loved one another and then that happens...and all of sudden you can't even hold their hand cause they feel uncomfortable.
Well i'll tell you; You didn't do anything to cause this. It's something that they need to go through in life alone and well in my case I just wasn't a part of it. As much as that sucks to hear my advice to you is this...cherish the memories you had with him, keep your head held high and you will feel that love again from another. I promise you that.
2006-06-29 09:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by deais74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find in life that change is hard. But never give up. You have to question yourself, was he really a true friend to begin with if he was willing to let you go. Tommorow is a new day, and for everything you lose you gain something new. And soon enough there will be someone new that comes into your life, and they will love you for you. Don't wait for him , pick your chin up, and move on. And most of all love yourself.
2006-06-29 09:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by worldpeace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't get ovet losing a friend. it can take a while for the pain to settle. when you lose someone close to you its hard to just forget about it and say"pain go away" b/c we're human. just give it time and before you know it you will be fine. just always remember that your not the only going through this...so your never alone.
2006-06-29 09:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his gf is telling him to send a "back off" attitude to u. i think his gf feels threatened by u, cuz she wants him for herself. and u havent lost him, not yet. take action, but not drastic action. o yeah, and dont do anythin to him and his gf dat would make his gf break up with him, cuz then he mite just ignore u sum more. if u feel painful about losing this friendship, patch it up and become frends again. and maybe think about it from his view, cuz ur just feelin pity for urself. buck up, and try to see what he sees.
2006-07-01 10:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by michie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends DON'T LOVE YOU
may be you misunderstood the friendship with love
why are you so tragic ,is just a friend ,not your husband ,of family
cheer up and next time be shore you are JUST a GOOD friend
2006-06-29 09:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by qwq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have you thought of going to your friend and asked what happen that i would like to know at least you have that right then you can find out what this is all about and maybe you or both of you can fix it if thats what come out of it
2006-06-29 09:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by finnlecarb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres really not enough info to help you on this one. Why did you stop being friends? He loved you how? Try again.
2006-06-29 09:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hunny i am sorry to hear this. i am going through a hard time with my friend too (well she WAS my friend). i lost her too cuz i basically trated her like crap and didn't value what was important. all you can do is give him time and he will come round i hope.
2006-06-29 09:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't value the friendship you two had he wasn't much of a friend.......
2006-06-29 09:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋