Someone once told me because I'm a shy person that a lot of people feel uncomfortable or frusterated when they are around shy people including myself.
So, I was wondering, if there is any logic in regards to people feeling uncomfortable or frusterated when they are around shy people? If, that is the case, then why do people feel this way?
2006-06-29 09:02:18 · 6 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yeah people do. im really shy like you. i like people who have very dominate personalities. that way i never have to make decisions, or spark up the conversation, or ever be in the spotlight. they jsut do it all for me. when im vround people who arent extremely domminate and just kind of passive. it sucks because we both dont realy talk, we dont know whos going to make the decisions. i dont mind people who are shy and ueit like me. because i dont mind just sitting around with a friend and not talking. but people who are more outgoing do. SO. i dont think extremely dominating people care to much about shy people because they can handle carrying the load. but people who arent as dominating do because thye like sharing the "what do we talk about? what should we do? where should we go load" and shy people dont so they get irratated.
2006-06-29 09:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shelbzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of human communication is determined by social conventions -- you say one thing, the other person replies in an expected manner.
A shy person puts this communication norm into question, because the other conversant does not know what to expect, either in terms of initiating conversation (ie. the shy person does not reply back in an expected manner) or in terms of reacting (the unexpected answer or lack of an answer puts from the shy person makes the other conversant confused).
One more reason: when you have a conversation with someone, you are also looking at yourself in a mirror, assessing how the other person is "reading" you based on their responses. A shy person radiated discomfort, so your "mirror" is telling you that something is wrong about you.
2006-06-29 09:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lynne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to stick to myself in groups of people I don't know. For this reason, a lot of people have told me that they think I'm stuck up or snobby, because it seems as though I think I'm better than them or think they're not worth talking to. Really, I'm just afraid I'll say something silly or they won't like me.
My husband is very quiet, and usually only speaks up once or twice during dinner with friends. He says it's because he never knows where to contribute to the conversation. It sometimes frustrates me because I wish he'd talk more with my friends and family the way he does with his friends.
2006-06-29 09:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to carry on a conversation with someone who will not talk back. Don't settle for being shy your whole life, work on it. Start by forcing yourself to maintain eye contact when you are talking to people. Don't look away. buy some self help books and read them. You will be great!!!
2006-06-29 09:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by whatdoiknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes me feel as if there is something wrong with me, and that is why the shy person is not engaging me.
2006-06-29 09:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by Brofo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are not necessarily frustrated;they most often like others attention.when they don`t draw all of your attention they start to believe your uninterested.
2006-06-29 09:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋