How do you talk to a friend that has a 2 1/2 year old terror?

Question

I have a friend that has a 2 1/2 year old boy. I get nervous when they come to my house sometimes because the boy is very rambunctious. I understand that they can be and I don't mind for the most part, but he decides not to listen to her a lot. He has broken one of my bowls that I have, it was a nice bowl that belonged to my Great-Grandmother and it came from Finland. He will throw his food all over my floor and once it is picked up he will do it again. He loves my baby girl but gets way too rough wih her. He does not listen to his mother, he will hit her and throw fits. My friend is having a real rough time with him and I understand that it can be difficult. I may be in the same type of situation with my baby some day. But I don't want him ruining things in my house anymore. What could I say to her and how can I help? I want to be understanding and I don't want it to look like I am judging her. But I believe she needs to be in a little more control. Thanks!!

Answer 1

How do you talk to a friend that has a 2 1/2 year old terror?
loudly

sounds like you mind for the most part, tell your friend how it's going to be.
Get straight with that kid, square up with him, while you squat down, no baby, no bull$#*%. When parents or any adults give commands that they won't back up, any hellian can spot that like a TURD on the putting green, so here's how you do this.

little boy needs to know that you just don't play that $#*% anymore. If she's one of those parents that doesn't whoop her kids, though, then you've got bigger problems than you should have to deal with, considering it's not your little boy. And the mom's got more issues than you do...

Interesting-- the son of Dr. Spock, the foremost doctor and writer that supports and encourages no spanking, killed himself. If that's not irony from God then I don't know what is...

The Bible is very specific, spare the rod, spoil the child,

tell him that you will not allow him to throw food on the ground in YOUR house and that the next time he does, you're going to spank him.
Next time he does it, take him into a room away from everyone else, like your bedroom, and explain to him that you're going to spank him, because he disobeyed you.


When you show him that you are not afraid to discipline him when he disobeys the rules in YOUR house, his attitude will change.
WHOOP HIS @$$ WHEN HE STARTS THROWIN $#*%.

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Answer 2

Well you are a seem like a very good friend but sometimes you need to speak your feelings a little more it is wonderful that you don't want to hurt your friend but you have to think that if her child gets too out of hand he could hurt you or even worse your baby so I think you should sit down with her and talk about the situation. You need to let her know how you feel. And if she doesn't take it understandingly then i'm sorry but you really need to talk to her about it. Again you are a very wonderful person for thinking about how she would feel if you told her something but our children need to come first in our lives

Answer 3

When he is at your house - it is by your rules. If she does not discipline the boy then you do it. When I was younger and a new mom - I didn't want to step on any toes. If she is not going to stop her son from throwing food - then take the food away.
I know she is your friend by she is not respecting your home. It is simply rude. By you laying down the law - eventually he will stop of she will stop coming over. Either way you problem is solved.

Or to avoid the confrontation - meet at the park. Anywhere else could be stressful.

I know she is your friend but she has to teach her son to respect the property of others - even if not their own.

Answer 4

One thing is try to keep your valuables up out of his reach, you;ll have to child proof your home some day when your little girl will be reaching for things. And your right, mom needs be more firm in his behavior or it will just get worse. It's a touchy subject to talk to someone else about their child's behavior. Perhaps show your concern more to her when you talk to her about the little boys behavior of hitting her, for it needs to come to an end.
The fit throwing that he does, sorry I am still a firm believer in a smack on the rear and a time out bench. Of course that's her place to correct the problem.
As your daughter gets older she will be picking up what he does and then you have more problems.

Answer 5

Since its already gotten this out of control, you either make time with your friend without the kids for a while till it gets better or you enforce your house rules on her child when they are there,, not many alternatives,, help her understand that discipline (I am not talking spanking or hitting) is something a child needs to grow up healthy happy and secure.

Answer 6

That is your house and your friend is not showing any respect for it or to you by allowing her child to tear it up. You're going to have to speak up to put a stop to this. She'll probably get mad but oh well. If she does then you won't have to endure this anymore and she will know this is something you won't put up with. As your baby grows, teach your child to be respectful of other people's things and to act that way in someone else's house is not acceptale to you and that you won't tolerate it. If you do that, people will brag about how well behaved your child is, give all the praise to you and will not hestiate to invite you and your child to their home.

Answer 7

The best thing to do is be honest with your friend and tell her how you feel..maybe you guys can go to parks or somewhere outdoors..also you may want to tell your friend to take him to see a doctor..he could have some hyperactive disorder (don't know the name of it) it will help her..I don't think this is normal behavior and especially since he isn't listening to her she really needs to talk to a doctor and have him checked out..Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 8

Is there somewhere else you two can go talk? Kid-friendly place like a playland, chuck e cheese's, even a park, etc? There is not one perfect answer to this question...I know alot of people that become distant when they have kids for similar reasons. Don't let it happen to you. Best suggestion is to find a place where her boy can play and go run.

Answer 9

i have a cousin who has the same kind of child. i hate seeing them come over so i just made up my mind that she wont disapline her child i would. so i just put him in time out for 2 min and if she said anything i would just be honest with her and say listen this is my house i like u coming over and i adore ur little one but i cant have my things broke. some things i have cant be replaced.

Answer 10

Just tell her straight up to keep her kid on a leash while in your house. If your friendship is not strong enough to survuve telling eachother how it is, then just don't invite her over or take advantage of the summer and say something like "let's go sit outside"