what do u do when you husband says no to counseling??

Question

he said that its stupid. he doesnt need counseling.is we go to counseling he'll end up being the bad guy the whole time and he dont want to go.

Answer 1

That reminds me of my first marriage. My wife firmly believed that I had a problem that could use counseling. I had never been to a counselor before, but I didn't mind doing it. No harm as far as I could see. Actually it was a psychologist. I enjoyed the visits and learned alot that stayed with me thruogh the years. But the time came when the therapist wanted my wife to come in and start with a private session. She did, but lasted only one session before walking out in a huff. She was not able to accept the therapist's frankness that her own behavior could be a contributing cause of our difficultines, and she refused to return to counseling. I continued though and was glad that I did. We later divorced, I remarried, and I'm quite content in my new life. But back to your question. Seriously, if your husband is dead set against going, I feel it's a mistake on his part. It almost suggests that he's already determined that he's not going to get a good review, so doesn't want to expose himself to the objective opinion of a third party. There's really no down-side to going though, even if to educate oneself to how to deal with a life crisis better.

Answer 2

Well he obviously knows that he's the problem. Is this problem worth staying for? If so, then you get counseling, just say that you're going shopping with a friend, and have that friend accompany you, if she can't make it, make sure that your cell phone conveniently began roaming once you've reached your destination, "shopping". Oh come on guys, that's not bad advice , the lady's suffering here. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Yeah go by yourself. You can figure out how to deal with the situation you're in and how to make it better. Maybe he'll join you after he realizes is not so bad.

Answer 4

There is no way to make some one do something they don't want to do. You can only change yourself, so do that. Go to counseling yourself, learn what you can do better and do it. You will loose nothing.
Also, pray, pray, pray, it doesn't matter what you believe, it will help, do it. (Don't get mad at me even Oprah says that.)

Answer 5

you cannot push him into counseling. It will only push him further away from you. Suggest a male counselor.

Answer 6

Go yourself. Take initiative to make your life better even if he refuses to improve his.

Answer 7

Oh my gosh this sounds like my situation!

Answer 8

i would slap him on the face..and tell him that this is what would happen if he did'nt go there at all..

Answer 9

leave