i've been married for 6 years. we've had our problems he gets it way but i don't get mine. he has a social life and i don't. we have 2 kids and i'm alway stuck at home doing mommy thing while he's out doing what he wants to do. when i do what i want to do he gets mad. and now i've fallen in love with his cousin. we haven't done anything together. we pretty much just talk on the phone every day. he makes me very happy to be me. and we have a better relationship than me and my husband have had ever!!! What do I do????
2006-06-29 08:44:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oooo boy, whatever choice you make I back you up 100%.
2006-06-29 08:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Migity696 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To indulge yourself with the cousin would be jumping from the frying pan into the fire. You need to resolve the issues with your husband first. Communication is the key and you need to write down your feelings and tell him on a relaxed setting without the kids etc. It seems like a nice escape to hear the cousin sweet talk you etc but it is just an escape. If your marriage is not salvageable then the cousin is an option. But you will also need to look at the "rebound" factor if you go to him. It is crazy I know but it is better to resolve the difficult issues like adults- talk to him and tell him what you want in the relationship then compromise. I wish you good luck and guidance.
2006-06-29 15:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah right...
Talk is cheap..and talking on the phone and tell you stuff is easy... you are just loving the attention he is giving you and you are contemplating going further... In order to cross the line, you need justification on why you want to cheat by amplifying your husband's faults.
But darling, lets get real, he ain't going to support you if you get separated from your husband, he just wants the thrill of this and have his way with you but want nothing else... or what? do you think the cousin is going to support your non-working self plus two kids...Come on! Get real..
You will never leave your spouse because of financial reasons.
Don't play with fire if you don't want to get burned. Get a job and have a life outside your home and occupie your mind in other things other than flirting with your spouse's family members.
Good luck
2006-06-29 15:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue talking to his cousin you will go all the way eventually, its leading up to that point. You feel neglected by your husband and now you're getting all this attention from another guy, you're only human those are completely normal feelings. Have you thought about just taking time for yourself go away to a friend or relative's house and think things through. Until your husband realizes that he's about to lose you things aren't going to change. When he does its up to you to decide if its too late or if you wanna work things out.
2006-06-29 15:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you let him get away with this type of behaviour? You both need to find a compromise to satisfy you both. For example, he will watch the children on a certain night of the week while you do your thing.
Forget about the cousin. I see this as only trouble brewing. Involve yourself with hobbies, women's groups, exercise classes, etc.
2006-06-29 16:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get marriage counseling or face the fact your marriage is in trouble and heading for more when your now falling for his cousin.
I wouldn't consider my husband cousin trying to talk to me something to rank him high on his character is suspect.
Would you find your husband a decent man if you found out he was trying to be with your sister, aunt, cousin, or whomever you would consider being off limits.
Many times woman will fall for the first man to give them attention because they feel neglected by another man whether it be boyfriend or husband.
This allows us to be open to others playing on our weakness
because unless the cousin is willing to come out and be with you openly, I would be leery of what he truly wants out of you.
2006-06-29 15:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...this aint gonna turn out well...you turned to his cousin cause you needed someone, anyone to pay attention to you, to talk to you, to take an interest...once the relationship with your husband ends...and it will end...you will turn to the cousin to fill the husband role you seek and he will not want or be able to do this....you won't, but you need to distance yourself from both men and start a new life for yourself
2006-06-29 15:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN A MARRIED FAMILY MAN GOES OUT ALONE A LOT ONLY MEANS ONE THING ..OUT WITH THE OLD IN WITH THE NEW...THE ONLY REASON WHY A MAN GETS MAD BECAUSE HE IS DOING WRONG HIM SELF... WHEN YOU HAVE NO TRUST IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON GO OUT AND ENJOY YOUR SELF WITH YOUR CHILDREN... BE CARE FULL ABOUT FALLING IN LOVE TOO FAST... IS IT LOVE OR IT IS LONELINESS
2006-06-29 16:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first- DUMP this IDIOT of yours and get a life first girl. if you still think that the other guy is the right one for you than OK, do it.
2006-06-29 15:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see You need LOVE!
he needs to come and LOVE YOUR BODY!
BLOW UP THE PHONE NOW!
smileS & hugzzz!
me!
2006-06-29 15:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by ZEUS! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋