if u are a nice person then u will help me!!!?

Question

my best friend is want to get pregnant and she think that we both should get pregnant at the same time, but i was like heck no!! but is it wrong for me to say no to her? i mean im still young and i dont wanna throw my life away by having a kid. i dont know what t do

Answer 1

Do it, if you want to be on welfare your whole entire life.

Answer 2

I know that must be hard. I got pregnant at 18 and I had just graduated high school. I don't know how old you are but I can tell you it is a lifetime of responsibility.

Now that I have 2 children and one is a teenager, I certainly hope that my child will wait to make that kind of decision. You will be responsible for that human being the rest of their life. Not just until they are 18. The world may say that but your heart will tell you otherwise. There is no such thing anymore as you coming first. All decisions have to be made according to who will watch the baby if you can't take it with you, changing plans at the last minute when the baby has an ear infection and those are just a few things. It is financially, emotionally and physically a job all it's own.

I don't feel that I threw my life away having my child when I did but I can tell you that having a husband that helps with them both is awesome. I feel that my life just went in a different direction.

If your friend has truly thought about all of these things and feels she is ready that is her decision but I doubt seriously she will be around in the middle of the night when your baby cries or for the money for those doctor visits and medicine when they come up unexpected. Please do what is best for you. Don't let your friend live your live for you. She will not raise this child for you and she runs a huge risk (if she is young enough) that someone (likely a relative or close friend) will wind up raising her child for her.

You sound as through you have a better head on your shoulders than that.

Blessings to you and your friend.

Answer 3

Okay, This is what I think you should do. Tell your friend to get a clue. First of all, when you do get pregnant what do you think your parents will say? How will you tell them? Next, Having a baby hurts soooo bad. Take period cramps and times them by 1,000,000. Then, Who is going to pay for all of the docor bills? And last, You will throw your life away.... Do you want to get up 6 times a night to feed your baby on a Friday night or do you want to go to your prom? Do you want to put your baby in daycare so another person can raise it so you can finish school? Do you think the father will stick around??? No, because he's a kid too! Tell your friend that your smart to say no and she should get a clue!

Answer 4

I personally don't think that you should. Also, since this person is a suposed friend she shouldn't force you into doing anything that you don't want to! I was raised to believe in true love waits ..... in other words wait until you are married to have kids. Life will be muchmore dificult for you if you decide to become pregnant! One of my very dear friends made this decision & her life has spiraled down ever since! She had to quite school & find some way to support herself & her child w/out insurance for one because it is more costly at the time of being a young adult w/ no one to help support you, no job, no high school or collage diploma ...... to any insurance company you can & will be considered a huge liability. Secondly, to find a job where you can work part or full time & it be flexible so you can lv. for your child is very unlikely & get paid good money w/out even a high school education is extremely unlikely. I highly reccomend that you NOT go along w/ your friend on this decision & wait until you are out of school & married & have insurance before you dare think about having any children. I don't want you to end up like my dear friend & have to give up your child, a gift from god, & go live in a homeless shelter & try attending school again & work. You might end up like she did & try to kill yourself because of all the trauma. So please I am begging you as a caring person should .... PLEASE DO NOT throw your life away.

Sincerly,
Giggles

Answer 5

Do exactly what you said the first time! Hell NO! You are smart by understanding that by having a baby is a major major commitment and often a major burdon if you are young. Babies should be something that someone wants and has thought about a long long time before committing themselves to such an endeavor so the children of this world can have good lives and proper upbringing. Proper upbringing meaning that they have enough food and clothing and two parents that love them very much. I don't mean by snobbery. You stand your ground and dare to be different and you will thank yourself later, trust me!

Answer 6

Okay hun you did to have an adult talk to your friend. Dont ever let someone pressure you into doing something you dont want to do, especially having a child at a young age. Children are not just dolls that you can stop playing with when you get bored. Tell your friend that you care about her and encourage her to think this out and talk to someone.

Answer 7

Me and my sister always promised eachother that if one get pregnant the other will also. Well my sister is pregnant now and sh'es looking at me to be next. Now that i've grown older i have plans for myself and at this point in life a child is not included. So please don't feel bad or anything! If you feel like you're not ready then don't because when it all boils down no one is going to be there to help care for your child but you. Make sure that's something you're ready for, because once you have a child trust me you can't give it back!!!!!! Enjoy life first

Answer 8

Don't have a kid, it will ruin your whole entire life!!! My sister was 15 when she had a kid and my parents, very understanding, helped her through it and found a nice family that could take care of her son, which is now 6. She gained alot of wieght first she weighed 120 then when she had her kid she wieghed 150, and after her boobs sagged and she had a lot of extra skin when she lost the wieght... it really sucked so remember you have to right to say NO to your friend and to me she doesn't sound like a very good friend if she wants you to have to go through the same thing she is.... so don't do it you have your whole life ahead of you... I am 14 and I wouldn't dream of getting pregnant right now... theres to many parties to go to, to many boys to flirt with, to many cars to drive and reck, to many groundings to go through, soooooo much learning to do, and at my age my body isn't ready to give birth... SO DON'T PLZ!!!

Answer 9

u were right 2 say no. if u have kid @ a young age then u will regret it 4 the rest of ur life. u need 2 help ur friend understand that

Answer 10

You take your time with life don't be in a hurry to get pregnant. It isn't a game this is a decision that will effect the rest of your life. Donut be in a hurry. If this person is your true friend then she wont push the issue.

Answer 11

first off .. having a kid just to be pregnant together is very wrong on so many levels. take it from me on the pregnancy thing.... i just turned 17 i'm pregnant, i am on medicade and living with my future in laws(only because i was lucky enough to have a guy to stay with me) i can t get food stamps or welfare even though i need it because acording to the gov. his parents make too much $$$ . me and my fiance cant find a job and my baby is due in sept. i cant walk up stairs with out my hip killing me and the prenatals make me constipated... there ...did that help your desicion?