Do you think people still marry out of love or necessity?

Question

People are getting married for all the wrong reasons nowadays for example you impregnate another woman now you have to marry her, you need someone to cook your dinner and wash you boxers so you marry someone, and e.t.c... and then they end up getting divorced. So what's the reason for getting married if you just become the other person's property and end up being taken for granted over the years? So is it out of love or necessity since everyone else does it and "it's the way of life"? What do you think and why?

Would YOU marry out of love or necessity and why?

Answer 1

i think both of those reasons are valid...out of necessity and love.

It is easy to take things for granted. In a marriage, you do not have to become the other persons property. You are an individual and should be thinking just that.

Not all marriages result in divorce, although the divorce rate is high. The beginning years of a marriage can be tough because you are learning more and more about each other. Compromise is good, just don't let him overshadow who you are and what your needs are.

Answer 2

I think its out of both, some people marry for love and some because they have to; its always a different case.

But like you said, most people made mistake by impregnating others before they are ready and they get marry. However this outcome is alot better than not getting marry and now the girl is a single mother.

I have friends that are married because they loved each other, I also have friends that got marry for all the wrong reason in the world, struggling to stay together...

I guess it really comes down to how much you think about your action before doing it...

Answer 3

I think people do both. I have known people who married people to help the stay in the USA and others who married people because they needed a place to stay after they got out of the military.

I mean marriage has little to no value now a days. I married my husband because I loved him. I knew him for ten years before we got married. I am twenty seven and I think I made a good choice.

I read in a magazine that fifty percent of marriages today will end in divorce. Not saying much is it!

Answer 4

My opinion is you get married for both reasons. You are attracted to each other and love each other, as well as you need each other to live with. You do things that he doesn't, and he does things that you don't. It needs to be a 50/50 relationship for the most part, at times it will be like 30/70 or vice versa. Marriage can be wonderful or it can be a major pain. It depends on if you are truly ready for marriage. Some people get married because they feel as if they should because every one else is doing it. Others for love and companionship. I did it because it says in the Bible that I should and not live in sin, love, and companionship.

Answer 5

both, necessity-cause of the children if there are any. love-cause they fall in love with each other. not sure which has out weighed the other but i did it for love.
my grandmother says that marriage ruins a relationship. well she has been with the same guy for almost 20 years and now they seem to fight a lot and she washes and cooks for him and cleans so it is not much different than being with someone for many years than being married for a few. sooner or later it all feels like a marriage wonderful or not.

Answer 6

A few marry out of love, most marry out of necessity. Every one around you of marriageble age is getting married, so you feel left out if you dont marry. It is really a way of life. I would not have married if i had a nice girl friend to go around or some possible living-in realationship with a person of my choice.

Answer 7

People marry out of love will not last any more than those who marry for convinience.

Starry eyed youths, who think that the World revolve around thier partners, soon find out the reallity of life, as tough times comes through the window, love goes out the door.

Those who actually marry out of 'respect for each other" have a better chance of making it, because they first became friends, and have good communications skills for each of them to talk to.

You dont have to "marry" anymore, because you have a 'child'. That was the "old days" when your Parents would "force" you to marry if you knocked up the girl... Now days, its such a loose secular society, that they dont repect the "old values" and make fun of them, as ancient, an non existence...

And, then you have the immigrants who marry out of "neccesity" so they can have a permenant visa into this Country. But, with the illegals now, its no longer even necesary for that either ...

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 8

Oh I think people still marry for love and some for necessity. It all depends on their situation. I married for love 12yrs ago and even threw all the rough times and arguements and such we still love each other very much. My niece who is pregnant loves her boyfriend very much. They are planning on getting married but not right away. They don't feel just because they are having a baby together that they need to rush into marriage. You can see that they love each other and that is why they are getting married. So again you can see that people still do love getting married for love.

Answer 9

Lots of people get married because they find someone who has the right job or will be a good provider and think it's time to settle down. But those are not good reasons. I think most people get married now out of convenience. But not me! I married for love and my whole family told me I was crazy because my man was poor, but this was 8 years ago and we are doing all right and will be for the rest of our lives.

Answer 10

I think you're right. People are getting married for all the wrong reasons and end up getting divorced. It's like everyone is still at school hooking up with someone, breaking up with them, cheating on them, sleeping around. Everyone is staring to act like little kids! Grow up and stop getting married for stupid things!