I asked a question like that (see other questions from me). Friend of mine uses me. She doesn't respect me....But I have no balls to tell her that. She demands to face her right away...I can't!!!
I can't tell her "Stop talking to me that way"...because she can beat me. Should I just not be friends with her because she has problems in communicating with people without hurting them?
But she is the only friend I have in the USA, she helped me a lot when I first moved here... She is an interesting person to talk with. SHe helped me understand God. But I can't be friends with her anymore...I feel uncomfortable, distressed....
I understand that nobody can help me... but at least can somebady give an advice how to have balls and start telling her that she hurts me?!
Oh how can I stop our friendship without hurting her?
2006-06-29 08:26:05 · 13 answers · asked by Young_woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
dam why worry about hurting her. she aint worring about your feelings.
2006-06-29 08:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by chevy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really hurts when a good friendship goes bad, but it isn't your fault. If she is hurting you continuously and causing you distress- I'm assuming your writing this because it's a serious problem, although all friendships have quirks and misunderstandings- you need to distance yourself from her. Ultimately the only way to do this is to stop talking to her. If she calls, tell her you're busy. Hopefully one day you can look back at the good times you shared once without focusing too much on how it ended.
2006-06-29 08:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have said that you should tell her how you feel... but not when she's threatening you.
Write a note... Tell her that although you have the utmost respect and thanks for all she's done, you feel that she has no respect for you as a person and that you are afraid to tell her to her face because she doesn't seem very open to it. Tell her that what she does not only hurts you, but your friendship.
If she stresses you out that bad, it's not a healthy friendship. End it. If she comes back, give her guidelines. Stand up for yourself.
I'd suggest getting out and finding new friends. There are so many great people in the world.
2006-06-29 08:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Meghan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same shoes as you are. Maybe you could write her an email. I can't tell you how to face her because I just avoid and hide when I am in that situation. You say that she is the only friend that you have here in the US but if she doesn't respect you, she is NOT your friend. There are nice people here. Maybe you could meet some people at church...I wish that I could help you but I just wanted to tell you that although she is that way with you, there are people here that are much different than that. Just make an effort to meet new people.
2006-06-29 08:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u mean without hurting her??? shes hurting u
well my advice wud b to treat her the same way and then when she brings it up ...ask her how she felt and let her know u feel the same way when she treats u like that and that in order for the both of you 2 remain friends she has 2 change...
if this doesnt work out .... u need a better friend....some1 who respects you
2006-06-29 08:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by icehot_pk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of her. If you are afraid of her abusing you she is no friend. Friends don't physically abuse their friends and certainly don't threaten them or disrespect them on a daily basis. Either tell her how you feel and that you don't want to be friends or just distance yourself from her and stop being her friend that way.
2006-06-29 08:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really wanted to stop being her friend you would just build the balls to tell her just how you feel it has to come form inside you have to want to say i am tired i can't do this anymore
2006-06-29 08:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to find the courage to tell her that you can not be friends with her any more until she learns to respect you. then, she needs to go to anger management classes to help with her anger issues.
2006-06-29 08:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have hade a freindship like that before and I just said to her if your going to always boss me around you could ask niceley and say please or somthing and somtimes you could do things your self because if you just boss everybody around you wil never have any friends because you will be way to bossey if you get what I am saying.
2006-06-29 08:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by kelaine92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Find another friend. Your being ridiculous!
2006-06-29 08:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋