I'm always trying to help people, show them a better way or give advice and it's only driving people away. I'm realy good at solving problems, but my friends just don't want to have anything to do with me. I was working at a job and they asked for my opinion. I gave them lot's of advice and pointed out many things they were doing wrong. They fired me soon afterwards, but they actually used a lot of my advice. Why do I feel the need to be so critical of everyone?
2006-06-29 08:25:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't think it is that. I think your friend should be happy to have someone who cares for them so much that you will stick by them through thick and thin.
The fact alone of you sticking with your friend and helping them over and over with ideas on how to solve their problem is very cool of you. Believe me to whomever you worship will give you blessing for it.
2006-06-29 08:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Vonicatripod 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the way you see yourself and the way others see you are totally different. You may see yourself as being helpful by giving advice. Others may see you as critical and overbearing. Ask yourself if you are talking just to hear yourself talk or are you taking time to listen and hear what the other person is saying. You may be surprised and want to make some changes so this doesn't continue to happen in your career and your life.
2006-06-29 15:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it's in the way you're presenting your "advice". It would be an instant turn-off if you were arrogant or condescending, regardless of if the advice is good or bad. Only offer advice/solutions to those people who ask for them, and preface it with something like "well, this is just what I would do in your situation..." Don't make it sound like law, or that the subjects are crazy if they don't follow your advice.
2006-06-29 15:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by brunchbuddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is because people now a days can't appreciate the beauty of advice they turn it into something so negative when all you are doing is something positive for them or for yourself.
They must have low self-esteem if they fire or hate you for it. I wouldn't stop its you. And that is more important then putting up with their negative crap.
2006-06-29 15:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by lovebug1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister who "knows" the right way to do everything, and isn't afraid to tell us all about it. We all find her unbearable and arrogant, and try to limit our contact with her.
You may know how to solve others' problems, but you are obviously not 'reading' the people around you to see whether or not they want to hear about your solutions.
2006-06-29 15:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess because nobody really likes a "know-it-all", even though you mean well. You just have to learn to summarize what you want to say and just filter out the stuff that isn't as important. Good luck!
2006-06-29 15:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably you are saying something with your criticism. Are you trying to tell people how smart you are by pointing out how dumb they are?
Or are you trying to hide some weakness?
Remember there is strength in being weak
and more in admitting it.
2006-06-29 15:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by vintage_one2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find your nitch in life and start your own business.
Everyone secretly loves a person with a silver lining.
Stay the way you are. There aren't many people that way!!!
2006-07-06 10:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People hate good advice and home truths
2006-06-29 15:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by limey_not_lime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if people are wrong, they don't like hearing it. The truth hurts and people can't take it.
2006-06-29 15:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋