I live with my parents-in-law! Thats not the worst part! My husband is in iraq and wont be home for a couple more months! I love my husband and sometimes like the parents-in-law!! they expect me to know when they want me to clean!! They think that i should know what they want me to clean and how am i supposed to know when they dont say anything! well they think im desrespectful because when they yell at me i yell back! just to let you know they yell at me infront of my friends and treat me like im their slave! they like to be controlling!! what should i do?? how can i make this more pleasant??
2006-06-29 08:23:58 · 19 answers · asked by whateva 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
another thing!! i pay alittle bit and i clean the kitchen before she gets home from work! and on mothers day i was called a ******* ***** because i wasnt listening to what my father in law was saying cause i was on the phone and didnt here him! so you guys think i should do this list a day..
1.kitchen
2.all floors
3.flower bed
4.clean up after them
5.make sure after their grand kids trash their place clean up after them!!
remember they have a big house and i have a 4 month old!
2006-06-29 08:37:37 · update #1
When you get up, ask them what they would like you to clean for the day. That way you know what is expected of you. And make sure to clean up after yourself. Good luck.
2006-06-29 08:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The section that bothers me the most notwithstanding, is that she reads his texts each of the time and he's not allowed to talk with any females, or any of his acquaintances she does notlike. He makes use of his Msn to talk with the persons he's not allowed to, yet she will be in a position to always come to the computing gadget an ask who he's talking to an start up interpreting the conversations. this is no longer proper. He hasn't ever been out, not in any respect drank, nor ever finished any type, or been round human beings doing drugs. He has no longer something to hide, yet she wont comprehend that. it really is even as it receives to the point the position a verify has to step back an supply the baby a existence. Especialy in view that he stayed domicile for 6 months after his dad had a heart atack an watched him, that there proves sufficient adulthood the position a verify might want to no longer be interpreting his texts nor Msn conversations.i am going to comprehend the problems of a verify, and typically, curiousity can get to human beings. this is no longer a demanding crime, notwithstanding that is a breach of have self assurance in a experience. i imagine that there is not any replacing something like this - because this is all in accordance to man or woman behaviour and personality. some moms and dads gained't difficulty, some moms and dads would pass farther than purely interpreting their childrens' emails, notwithstanding the base line is, inspite of they do - there won't be able to be a diverse boundary that determines as to how a options they could pass. i imagine each kin has their personal approach, and it isn't something which will be completely managed. with the objective to respond to the question, that is a immediately NO.
2016-11-29 23:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words...GROW UP! What are you contributing to the house? I don't think expecting you to clean everyday isn't much to ask of a person. It is called earn your keep. You shouldn't be yelling at your parents in laws, have you ever thought that they are yelling out of frustration with you??? They have opened their home to you and your child. Where are your parents? Why can't you live on your own? I would think if someone gave me room and board the least I could do is clean.
OK, talk to them and CALMLY ASK what it is that they would like for you to do around the house. If you can't do it (without being in a huff about it) or think it is unfair then move out of their house!
2006-06-29 08:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by valerjoh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... how old are you? Do you have a job? Do you contribute financially to the household? If you are young and said no to either of the other 2 questions you need to shut the **** up and clean whatever is dirty. You should be happy someone is allowing you to stay in their home. If you don't contribute any money then get your *** the **** out of their damn house if you can't so much as clean a little without being told when and where to do so.
2006-06-29 08:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure #1 that you always pick up after yourself and keep your living space clean. Ask them in the morning what they need done. Do you work? Are you paying to stay there? Why is everyone yelling? You can't change them. You can only change the way you interact with them.
2006-06-29 08:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by hello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and ask many questions. When you moved in they should of said from the begining what they expected of you to do and your husband. Maybe you can stay with one of your friends and let your husband what is going on. He already has alot on his mind. Tell your husband thank you for serving our country. My prays are with you. Maybe a support group. I am sure there are other ladies who are going through the same thing.
2006-06-29 08:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by cajunlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a power struggle it seems. They would like you to show thanks and respect by helping out and if you don't you get the cold shoulder. They are assuming you have the knowledge that if you're family you can help out. If you chose to stay in this arrangement I would suggest a frank talk with them about what is expcet of you in this arrangement so it's all out in the open. However if you decide this is not what you had in mind, I suggest you bow out gracefully, find a new place and thank them for their hospatility and leave while the welcome is still there. Best of luck.
2006-06-29 08:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by Vixxxen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying your best to get along and realize that it probably won't work. People need their space. I don't know very many people that would enjoy living with their in-laws, or move out. I don't know if you can afford to, but that would save you a lot of stress.
2006-06-29 08:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by BeccaBoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you helping around the house? Is it obvious when things need to be cleaned? If they are truly hateful to you, you need to talk with them about it. It sounds like a very uncomfortable situation. Have you talked to your husband about this?
2006-06-29 08:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get your own place, you have to help in the house. One hand wash the other as they can watch your children, if you have time do the cleaning and the cooking.
2006-06-29 08:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Microbes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋