i hate my mom?

Question

my mother is so mean to me its unbelievable. this is going to be long so if u dont want to read u dotn have to but i really need help.


my mom and dad seperated when i was 8. and my mom took us, tho my dad wanted to take us to, but we stayed with my mom. she got amrried and i hate my step dad. always have till this very moment. he treats me like **** calls me names and same to my brother. but to HIS SON hes an angel. i tell my mom but she doesnt believe me she says that hes joking. and ever since shes been so MEAN. whenever she gets mad at my brother she GETS MAD AT ME. for no reason at all. and then i go to school in a BAD MOOD EVERYDAY im 17 and ill be 18 in 6 months. im a senior and im treated like this!?!? so now i tell my dad all my problems but he cant do anything becuase he says its not under his control. and recently my brother was failing every class in 6th grade so my mom was ALL INTO HIM she didnt even bother to ask about my grades or anything. to be continued.....

i had this clas chemistry and i had a D all year. IT WAS REALLY HARD and it was something that did not come easy to me. so i got my final grades AND SHE PUNISHES ME !! and this is my last highschool summer bad enough shes leaving on vacation and i have to go live with my dad for the summer 2 hrs from everything my frnds and my boyfriend YOU DONT THINK THTS PUNISHMENT ENOUGH but since my brother was doing so bad she expected more from me. thats not the only problem i strees so much becuase i always have to watch my brother when she leaves to work becuase my stepdad doesnt feel like watching him HE KNEW WHAT HE WAS GETTING HIMSELF INTO WHEN HE MARRIED HER AND WE ARE HIS RESPONSIBILITY. i have no one to take care of me unless im at my dads. i feed myself take care of myself here at my moms. i do not talk to my stepdad AT ALL. and doubt i ever will. then to have to take care of my brother?? im so stressed im DEPRESSED and i just dont do anything but cry becuase i dont know what else to do

i wrote her a letter with everything i jsut said and all she could do was come bck AND YELL AT MEand say im not moving out when i turn 18 i HAVE to live there and i HAVE to do what she says. which im not. i honestly feel that she has asked for it. andput this all upon herself. i feel nothing but anger towards her becuase my childhood has consisted of responsibilities is hould have had int he first place.




i have more but im sorry it was so long i needed to vent and i feel bad venting to my boyfriend and dad.

Answer 1

Tell your mom that you want to visit with your dad, and take your brother with you! Your almost 18. You can be on your own then. Your mom is trying to please your step-dad. It's important to have a mentor, that can help you find solutions. See a counselor too,it will help you with getting your stress under control.

Answer 2

I feel so sorry for you i swear i felt every little pain your in from that writing, i wish i was there to help. But i am not there so i will help you a little from here. First when you turn 18 i would'nt blame you for moving out, before you do that get a job right now and save up as much as possiable and when your 18 you would have enough money to at least support your self for a few months then when your 18 there will be higher paying jobs. Let me say it's going to be tough when your 18. For anything else email me i am 17 by the way. I will always try to help you... i dont know why i am saying this but when someone is in need am there for some reason i dont even know why..

Answer 3

Well sweetie sometimes when you are going through what you feel is hell it seems worse then it really is and when it is over you look back and see how you have grown. Hate is a VERY strong word and believe you me I used it when I was a teenager too but now I understand my Mom was trying to prepare me.

I know that you probably feel like the whole world is against you and no one understands you but its important that you step out of your situation and kind of look at the big picture. I know you really don't want to hear this but you should try and focus on the good things in your life because it could be a whole lot worse.

It sounds like your Mom is not giving you the attention that you think you need and honestly Moms are not perfect but I do believe that they try their best and their mistakes hurt a little. Try and find a really good book and if you are struggling in the class stay late with the teacher or find someone in your class that can help you. I bet if you make that extra effort to ensure that you pass next time your Mom will recognize that and see that you tried to do your very best. Keep your head up and try and find fun positive people to help keep you in a good mood.

Answer 4

Legally, since you're almost eighteen, you will become your own legal guardian and can attempt to take custody of your brother.
Why isn't ur father alowed full custody of you?
My mom acted the same way during my senior year.. everything is usually my fault. Are you a good student?? Its possible that she didn't ask about ur grades because she has confidence in your abilities. My parents ragged on my bro to keep his grades up, and I was a little pissed cuz my calculus grades were bad.

Have you considered seeing a psychologist? I did. It was mainly nice to get things off my chest, and they meet with ur parents every once in a while to communicate problems you're having instead of you directly talking to your mom and her TOTALLY disregarding you. And it doesn't have to be expensive; I saw a psychologist through our local mental health program.
Trust me... the psychologist will take SO much stress off of you.

**EDIT
Although we dont' have the same sitch (my parents are together but argue A LOT) We have really similar stories... My mom totally disregarded everything I ever attempted.
And it isn't easy when you have parents like that. I'm not allowed to go out till whenever I want, I can't stay at my boyfriend's house (we've been together for a year)... To those of you who say that it'll be easeir when you turn 18... IT'S NOT!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

its seems that you and your brother to me...would need to take matters into your own hands....
if the custody of you and your brother was settled in court.. then i can only tell you what i would do...
because your already about to leave the house anyways... this may not help you at all but i would still want to get out of the situation.
if i were you i would run away to my dads house as soon as i could... leave a note with my mom telling her that if the way your stepdad treats you doesnt change then you will be forced to take action...
once you are 18 you can move out anyways so why not move out as soon as possible and then get a job to support you and your bro....
im sure your dad wouldnt mind helping you out to pay for stuff...
so think about some ways to get things together for you and your bro...dont put up with there ****...im 18 and i know how i would feel if that would happen to me... just try your best to stay calm with them.

Answer 6

You are going to be 18 in 6months so just hang in there. Talk to your dad about you moving in with him as soon as you turn 18 - he may not be able to do anything now, but when you are 18 you can live wherever you want, so you would be able to move with him.
Until then, you can either lay low and ride it out or you can try talking to your mom and step dad. Tell them how you feel and let them know how they treat you. This might not do anything - but if you feel you need to get things off your chest you have the right to talk to them.

Answer 7

i was in your position, a little different but mostly the same. my mother worked full time all the time, my dad was working driving those trucks that go all over the united states so i only saw him for a week or so every month. i have a brother that is 5 years younger than me and at the time all this started i was 13 and so he was like 8 or 9. i had to come home and do my homework pluss help him with his, feed him and me, give him a bath and watch him and tuck him into bed 6 times a week mostly. and when my dad was there he did not help at all, he only talked to us when he was angry or wanted something, i would make dinner and he would throw it across the kitchen if he did not feel like eating it, he even kicked a hole in the microwave. nothing i ever did till this day was ever good enough for him, i was working a full time job and he kicked me out so many times. my mom was powerless against him and so she could do nothing about it. i am 25 now and married, but nothing i ever went threw was good, i was in and out of counseling all the time, and they would always take my dads side even though they new that he was in the wrong, i mean he mentaly abused us and he should have been taken away from us but they didnt even bother. i was so depressed that the only person in the world that i thought realy loved me was my little brother the one i was raising. my grades were not good and i needed help and could not get any, so i was punished for it. i finaly dropped out of school in the 10 grade and started working as a curtisy clerk for vons, that was the only thing i could do at that point to try and get out of the situation that i was in, but then i felt bad for my brother i was not being there for him , so i new that he was alone cause they werent either. so i moved back in with my parents my dad let me and i was still working this time for big lots it was close to the house and no matter how many meals i cooked or how good i was working all the time it was never good enough, so he kicked me out again. i was so still depressed just as much as ever. i cried all the time, ate alot, it was like i was not even in my own body. to this day no matter how much i forgive him and know that it was not my mothers fault she had to work, i still look back on it and it hurts. so here is my advise for you, please take this seriously. get yourself into a place when you are 18 called Job Corps, go to Job Corps.com and find one that is near you and sign up . you get free room and board. you share a room with another girl so you have a roommate, and you can get your high school if you dont have it, and you get trained in a vocation, wich is nursing, medical office support, cement, electrical, receptionist work, and there is more, but it is all free, they give you an money every two weeks for what ever you need like shampoo and stuff like that, and they have free tampons, and pads, and toilet paper there you dont have to pay for. they have a free laundry and the soap free too. everything is free, you have a cafateria where you get your three meals a day and you can go back for more as much as you want. lots of water juice and soda. they have a rec room with pool table and tv , games ect... they take trips places, it is realy nice ,even a gym! i got my high school and certified in medical office support when i left them, they even give you clothing money, a check that you can use at variouse stores every three months. it saved me literaly, i found people just like me that i have as friends till this day. they got me threw my depression and taught me to be independant. i hope that you take this into consideration. when you are 18 your mother can not make you stay by law. good luck, you know where to find me if you need to.

Answer 8

Baby Girl: You're almost there!!!! Do what you have to do to move out. Find a good friend that's willing to share an apartment with you. Don't lose focus on school if you're planning to go to college but start from now so you can be prepared when you hit 18.

Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 9

I'm so sorry your life has turned out like that.
Your nearly 18 so can't you move out? You could stay with your dad, and save to get your own lil flat.
I hope everything goes okay.
And sorry to say but your mom needs a slap lol

Answer 10

Go move in wit ur dad if its dat bad. I was in ur same place b4 but da marriage didnt last long enuff 4 it 2 get dat bad(9 mos.). Their divorcing now ne way.