I'm afraid of having sex because of this..Pls help!?

Question

i'm 18 years old, i have a good body, beautiful legs and told that i'm pretty. I like boys and i have no problem in dating. my problem is that i have saggy breasts. i know, it's disgusting. i've always had saggy **** and it got worse after losing weight and just the whole growing up thing made them worse. I love their size and everything else. When i'm wearing clothes, guys compliment me on their size but i'm afraid of ever revealing them because i think it will totally turn them off and disappoint them too..
I can't afford the money and the pain too to be honest for a breasts lift. not to mention the risks. so in the next 2-4 years it's totally impossible for me to do it..other treatments won't give them the lift they need.
Please don't think it's silly..this thing is a serious problem for me..

Answer 1

honestly in my experienced when men see a woman they're interested in naked they don't see the "flaws" you see; they're more thrilled with the fact that you're with them. I've read articles and books about psychology and all that and statistically (regarding your concern specifically) all women have that fear of being naked in front of a guy because of what they might think or be turned off or whatever. And statistically whatever those flaws might be that the women are worried about (whatever they may be) the men honestly don't even notice, or better yet the "flaws" the women worry about actually turn the guy on more and they like it.

I know what you mean and I can relate in the opposite way; I'm the total opposite of your size. I'm like super small chested, like I don't even need a bra most of the time. I'm always worried that if a guy sees me naked that will turn them off. But I haven't had an instance yet where they've been turned off. Most of the guys I've dated or boyfriends, etc actually like them and think they're "perfect". Whether they're lying or not I don't know (I doubt they were because I can usually read people very well and know if they're lying), but they were DEFINATELY not turned off about seeing me naked.

I think you should just relax and not worry about it. If a guy is lucky enough to be able to have sex with you, I don't think you have a care in the world to worry about that. And worse case scenario, if the guy is turned off or whatever (I seriously doubt this will ever happen to you), he doesn't deserve you. And to verbally "kick him in the nuts", you can do the same thing to him and punch his ego down a few notches; you could come back with something like, "Well honey, if you don't like my breasts I can feel free now to be honest with you too and tell you that your dick is WAY too small/you're a terrible kisser/comment on his muscle size(most guys are insecure about being too skinny and not having big enough muscles)/etc" Then tell him to get the hell out because he's not good enough for you. I know that sounds mean but if he has the nerve to insult you like that in any way, you should not tolerate that and treat him just how he treated you.

I hope this helps and makes sense. Relax! It'll be scary for you since you're so insecure about it, but once you're "in the situation" where you're topless in front of him or whatever, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised with his reaction.

Answer 2

Sagging comes from not having enough support, whether you did not wear a bra soon enough or you don't wear the right size that gives you the support you need. Breast tissue contains no muscle and is held in place by ligaments. So there is no way to reverse sagging except surgery. I am a breast care consultant and I work with all types from breast cancer patients and anything else. I will tell you from what I have seen personally NO surgery is worth the results. The positive side... date guys for personality, not sex! When you find the one you are suppost to be with you will love him and he will love you for who you both are! Then when it is time for sex, He will already see you as beautiful, and trust me, he can look past anything you think is not beautiful! One more thing, all the creams and other rub ons will not work. There are some that firm the breast but they have to be used constantly, and when you stop them you not only lose the firmness, but sometimes are worse than what you started with.

Answer 3

OK - If you're no longer being your self on account that you believe you'll be rejected, then you're most likely no longer residing a pleased existence. Also, if you do not think at ease sharing your demands together with your accomplice, she might not be the character for you. You must no longer be embarrassed about your flip-ons or fetishes (Hell, there are individuals who love to piss/crap on every different throughout intercourse) and you'll be larger off discovering any individual who's into your kind of intercourse. But, if the target is to preserve the woman, you must have an open and sincere dialog approximately your sexual fantasies. You need to inform her. If she will get freaked out and pushes you away, then you definately transfer on. BUT, she might just like the equal matters too. You on no account recognize till you confront the difficulty.

Answer 4

Be Confident!
A real man who loves you for everything you are both INSIDE & OUTSIDE shouldn't not care 1 part about you- even if you or him doesn't think its perfect!

Screw the plastic surgery crap- not everyone is in the dirty Hollywood business or load with a couple extra $1k to throw away. I know many man out there doesn't care about "saggy breast." So what they're saggy? At long as they're healthy, soft, tender, clean, it doesn't matter its perfectly firm and perky or saggy, its ok!

You'd love your body no matter what. If you a guy runs off after seeing your breast- he'd be fired forever and don't accept him later or trying to go after him- Its Not Worth it!
If you already posses many exterior beauty (face, leg, friendly, loving attitude), you shouldn't worry about your saggy breast. Many, many women (with no perfect breast) out there lived fine their whole life with their husband/ boyfriend totally fine, and why should it bother? A man should never love you or treat as a sex object or some kind of "nice body" doll. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

First of all don't be in a rush to have sex. You don't want to just have sex with anyone, you should really care for the person and know that they care for you the same, and respect you. I know you have probably heard that alot. So, how do you know you have found the right one? When you get to the point when you are both ready to have sex (when you are in love and have been with that person for a while) you shouldn't even be thinking about how your breasts look. If the person is right for you they won't be thinking about that either. Sex isn't about what you look like! It's about sharing the most sacred part of you with the person you love. If that person does have a problem with how you look, you shouldn't be with that person. Oh yeah, and be safe!

Answer 6

I think you're having a bigger problem than the guys will. Don't be ashamed of yourself or any part of you. No two people are the same physically, mentally or emotionally. You are unique. Don't hide it. Surgery should be considered only if you're having problems that are affecting your health. No guy will complain and if you choose mature intelligent guys to be with, they won't even notice.
I'm not sure what this 2 - 4 year thing is, but don't hold yourself back because of low self-esteem.

Answer 7

Hi I must tell u the first step sex is love, if somebody loves u (not ur body but ur inner sole and attitude) then this problem doesn't matter for the person, he will enjoy the every momemnt of it as he is with u no matter how ur body is. May be u didn't get Mr. right yet so wait for Mr. right to come in ur life and be proud of urself as what u r and as god made u. Comment on [e-mail]

Answer 8

It's not disgusting!!!

It's entirely normal!!!

Expecting perfection from any human is what's weird.

Any man worth having sex with will find all parts of you beautiful.

And, for the most part, even guys who AREN'T worth having sex with will not pass up the chance for sex just because your breasts aren't like the ones Hollywood says we should all have.

Whatever you do, DON'T have surgery. It will all be wasted when you get pregnant anyway (that is, of course, assuming that you'll get married and have kids at some point). ALL of us humans have imperfections...The only thing we can do is love ourselves BECAUSE of these, and allow others to love us for the same reasons.

Answer 9

If a guy likes you enough to have you in bed with your shirt off I can guarantee on my life that he is not going to leave when he sees your breasts, if they are even as saggy as you describe. I think your best bet is to find a guy who likes them saggy rather than have an expensive surgery to lift them.

Answer 10

Why would you want to change your body to suit a guy you wanna sleep with. If he's got a problem with your breasts then he's not really worth sharing that part of yourself with.

I can understand this can affect your confidence. However, ask yourself this. Who would you be doing this for? Yourself or the guys.

Women out there have had to have there breasts removed because of Cancer and have even died. I think they would be very grateful to be where you are...alive!