Why do women use vibrators and is it something the man should be worried about?

Question

im in the military and am away sometimes, should i be okay with my wife using a vibrator

Answer 1

Listen, if you aren't comfortable with it then there's a "comfort zone" issue that needs to be discussed calmly w/ your wife.

Do you masterbate in her absence? If you answered yes, then it should be no different for her. The same rules should apply.

For instance, women CAN use their fingers instead of a toy...but a toy makes quick work out of it....remember, women take longer to "finish" than men *usually* so for her, it's a quick stress relief when her true love is away. Same for you I assume.

When you are home however, try encorporating toys into the relationship that you BOTH can use WITH each other...that way you won't feel as "replaced" when you are home.

A vibrator is a safe addition to your bedroom, however, I would NEVER recommend replacing a partner with one... It's one thing to have you gone and use it, it's another to refuse your advances to use a toy while you are ready and willing.

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Answer 2

Well it's human nature. When u love her girl and she falls in love with u, she expects things from u the same way u expect things from her (like not to cheat while ur away). She might expect things like u being there when she really needs u, but instead u have to be somewhere far away (and its not ur fault). But when u get intimate with her and u have to leave her for war, after a while she'll be looking for a replacement that can give her the same things u gave her. It's not that she didn't love cause if u were at home, u two would have stayed together. I know its sad but its reality. To all of the cases where wives/gfs did not cheat and say it was her fault, there will always be some exceptions. I know it's hard but u should try to forgive her. I hope this helps and things work out for u.

Answer 3

Women use Vibrators to get them self's off, we have needs and if we don't have someone there to full fill the needs we either us them or someone else and you being married by what you say you should be happy that she has a vibrator instead of someone else and there's nuthing to worry about with a vibrator it jus gives us orgasims and get us going, making everything better, dont worry nuthing can happen and no cheating involved.

Answer 4

I rather you allow her to use a play thing instead of a real thing while your away.

When or if she uses a vibrator she's basically letting you know that she is being faithful to you while your away to satisfy her needs. Her sexual hormones don't take a leave of absence just because you have too.

Answer 5

I would not be worried. Sometimes we need some loving and the men are not available so we use a toy. It is better then using someone else. She could ask you if she should be ok with you using your hand. Its the same thing

Answer 6

Let the truth be told if your wife uses a vibrator her virgina will expand to the size of the vibrator. A man told me that 'cause I was celibate and desired sx; he told me not to insert anything cause it would expand me and hopefully I would find somebody to accomodate me. She can use her limbs it's just a 15min. desire after 15mins the urge goes away

Answer 7

You should be worried.
You can "BE REPLACED".
Just j/king
At least she is being true to you.
She could be out there getting STD"s and cheating on you.
Be glad she found a sensible alternative and was honest enough to tell you.
Be happy about the matter.

Answer 8

I'm sure she feels that it is better that cheating on you. Not as good as having you there - but some relief at very least.

Don't be paranoid - they are fun. But not worth giving up the real thing for.

Answer 9

a man should be worried if he's awful in the sack and their significant other would rather use a silicone toy.

Answer 10

Of course. It's better than her having an affair. I mean, men masturbate when they don't have the chance to have sex, right? Women do too. It's normal.