he wants her now, she is not ready for that commitment or responsibility as she has just separated herself. what she should do any advice??? she knows it wrong but on the other hand they are so right for each other.
2006-06-29 07:56:57 · 28 answers · asked by bealbtl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like some people need to get over their disillusionment. First, Friends don't do this. Period. So they are obviously not the friends one of them thinks they are. Secondly, anyone thinking clearly can see they are soo wrong for each other. He is married, unhappily, happily or other wise. Married is married. Why would you pursue a married man, and why would you believe that a married man would not have the same problems if he weren't married to his current wife? It takes two to tango, he is part of his marriage problem, wake up and get away, very far away.
2006-06-29 12:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's real easy to be so right for each other when there's no commitment or responsibility to one another. She should move on to a different man. In my honest opinion, if she doesn't she's not much of a friend. That is a complete betrayal of trust. The fact that she even told him about it makes me question her moral character. How would you feel if it were your husband? How would she feel if it were hers? Why do people take the institute of marriage so casually?
People like those in the situation you described make me sick. As do the people who support them or give any type of encouragement to such behavior.
2006-06-29 15:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by darkphoenix278 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm seeing the words "friend", "husband"...this means marriage. This is a no-no! Your friend will end up the "bad guy" should hubby decide to confess to his WIFE or if the WIFE finds out plus it is not right. IF this husband wants to be with your friend (who is separated from her husband) then he will need to leave his wife, there should be enough time between her separation and his before they begin a relationship. Best bet, they should both get a divorce. I sure hope there aren't any kids involved in this web.
A saying my grandmother use to say:
"What a tangled web we weave when we practice to deceive"
2006-06-29 15:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by MBELL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT!! life is WAY too short- i KNOW i have spent over 8 years with the wrong guy and finally found the RIGHT one, but i was married (my husband keeps contesting the divorce) and i am SO GLAD that i didnt wait until the divorce is final (even though i know its wrong) because for once in my life i am HAPPY- and i would never want to have missed out on this if i had waited
2006-06-29 15:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by blahblahblah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still married she needs to back off. And let them be married. She is not being a real good friend trying to steal her friend's man. Would you want that to happen to you? I know i wouldn't. If they are both separated then take it slow, very slow and work their way up to a committed relationship.
2006-06-29 15:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away. Any man that will go behind his wife's back to pursue her friend is bad news. What makes this woman think that he will be any more faithful to her than he is being to his wife? She needs to turn that off right now. And if he can't figure out how to pursue his wife only, then she needs to tell her friend that her husband is a lout.
2006-06-29 15:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by dramaturgerenata78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you...I mean...your friend should probably consider the consequences of a relationship that starts this way. First of all, there is your... I mean... your friend's friend. That is a guaranteed friend that is lost for good unless she is a really kind and forgiving person, which would make it doubly wrong on your...her part. SHE should also consider the possibility that if he is doing this to his current wife, then he will probably do it to HER also. You have to be prepared to be traded in for a newer model later on in your relationship.
2006-06-29 15:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by JAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as this guy is married she needs to steer clear of him. She needs to be honest and tell him that she isn't ready for a relationship and that she certainly won't be hooking up with him until his divorce is final. If he is really ready for a relationship with her, he will get a divorce and respect your friend's need for time and space.
2006-06-29 15:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NEVER right for someone if you or they are married. Thats number one. Number two a 'friend'....a true friend would NEVER cross the line like that. Someone needs to smarten up and get a dam clue real quick before someone gets hurt.
2006-06-29 14:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want her, he wants her body till the next gullable cute chick comes along. He has already proven to her he is a low life by wanting to cheat!
Run the other way and find a real man!
2006-06-29 15:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by divaterry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋