2006-06-29 07:56:05 · 15 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guys will do so many things to get your attention in the beginning. They like the chase. You've got to keep them guessing. That doesn't mean playing games especially at this stage of the relationship, but you still have to make him want you around. You should still have your own activities as well. And even more importantly, you need to still have dates like you used to. One night, cook him dinner and wait on him. On the weekend, make him take you for a date to your favorite restaurant or something. By working out a schedule like that, it will give you guys time together as well as time to have your own personal space which you still need when you are married. As for the flowers, if you want them, ask for them. Men will let things like flowers and such slide after some time. It doesn't mean they love you any less. You need to look at the other things he does for you. Actions speak much louder than words. What does he do for you? Does he put the sections of the newspaper that you like to read on the table in front of your chair? Does he buy things he hates (like a certain food or something) just because he knows you love it and you'll enjoy eating it? Look for these seemingly little details because they are a much bigger deal than they appear. If he's doing those things, then don't worry about it. He's just fine-tuned his way of showing you his love. But if he doesn't, you'll have to ask yourself if you married too soon, or even married the wrong man. Good luck!
2006-06-29 08:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband was dating me, everytime he came to my house, he would bring me flowers. I told him to stop spending his money all the time on flowers for me. He slowed down a little. Now that we are married, I only want roses on Valentine's Day and that is it. The reason is that we live together now and I know how much he adores me so I really don't need the flowers, I have him.
2006-06-29 08:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell?! I guess this is the pick on guys place. Holy crap!!!
Women do the same damn thing! They do it with attention, sex, etc. Get a grip. Maybe the reason all these women have such a low opinion of men is cause they are a bunch of fat, unhappy, cheetos eating women. God, get a life!
2006-06-29 08:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I immediately imagine sh*t! do I easily have a vase that matches those flora? Or how lengthy after the date am I gonna devour the finished field of sweet? Or how lengthy after he leaves am I gonna open the present if he would not favor me to open it instantly away? Then I relax and picture, wow, tremendous flora, i love the colors. What does this bouquet he picked out say about what he thinks of me? same for the sweet, contemporary, present.
2016-11-15 10:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by nader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called marriage- trust me been there! i read in a magazine once though that we (women) are supposed to be happy with the fact that the attention stopped because in a guys mind that means he is happy & content. UGH! yeah right! I want the love & the attention....
2006-06-29 08:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by blahblahblah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he needs told how you feel. Most men don't like knowing that they are disappointing their spouse. Maybe he doesn't realize he's doing it and needs to hear you say "How come you get me any flowers anymore? I always loved that!"
What is obvious to women isn't always obvious to men.
Communication is the cornerstone to every marriage. Talk to him!
Take Care,
Joyce
2006-06-29 08:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by joycestew2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol he was courting u before he had to like win u over and impress u..when u get married he knows u have been impressed and u are welcomed to a life of maybe getting flowers if he remembers important dates..thats just how it is lol... ahhh the fun-ness of marriage!
2006-06-29 08:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did all of those things to get you, and now he feels that he has you and that should be enough. thats marriage and men expect the world from you but you have to settle for whatever they feel is good enough to them. its a double standard, we do all the work they want all the credit.
2006-06-29 08:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by cmac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was only doing those things to impress you and get you to marry him. Now he feels no need to continue. Sad Sad
2006-06-29 08:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Ladybug H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations to ur man his show is done. well the only best thing you will remember later is the marriage. after marriage everything changes
2006-06-29 08:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by artichoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋