What is the perfect age to start having kids?

Question

I'm in my third year of college and am curious as to when people think the best time to start having kids. I'm 21 now and my roomates and I got into a debate about when was the best age to have kids at. I'd like to have 2 or 3 and would like to ask parents what their experience has been with the ages they chose to have children at. Thanks.

Answer 1

i say 25, not too young not too old. Just right!

Answer 2

Well I had my son after i was married at age 19. Marriage was a mistake, he was planned thouugh. I had my daughter at 23,(same father) and that was wonderful!! A much better experience than 19! So in my opinion, u should wait until you are narried of course, to a man you have absolutely NO doubts about and until you can truly afford to have a child. Poverty sucks and having a child before you're ready can cause a HUGE chain of disaster. But I say if it does happen, and it does happen, then make the best of it. Havibg a baby DOES change EVERYTHING though. from 25 to 30 yrs old is a good time I think. As long as you are ready then, i.e out of school and have a good job and a home.

With my experience I would've waited had i known.

Answer 3

HM well i think any age after the age of 18 is okay but then i also i have to say that there is no perfect age to have kids though after 18 you should more so ask yourself when is the perfect time to have kids having children to me is not based on perfect age its based on time are you financially stable for this,even the question can pop up if you are EMOTIONALLY stable and ready for this. This is a question you might have to ask yourself at times are are you in the position relationship wise to have a baby 56 percent of Americans in the united states Thai (111 millions people) gets divorces and 25% of the children actually live with there biological parents. having a baby is an important challenge in life you should be not almost ready but 110% percent equip ed for parenthood sit down and think try to pinpoint out certain and important possibilities.

Answer 4

I was 3 months shy of 20 when I had my first and 4 months shy of 23 when I had my second. If you are in a long term commited relationship then I would now advise 21-28. If you are wanting kids and still looking for the man, then slow down it is worth the wait. I love my kids more than anything in this world, it is undescribable how much a mother can love her kids. It will take away a lot from your life and give you a lot more back, but YOU must be ready to be fully responsible at ALL times.

Answer 5

The best time for you to start thinking of having kids would be when YOUR life is stable both emotionally and financially.. When you know that you will be able to provide to this child(s) everything that it needs and may want., that you know that you will be a part of this child's life and not just a temporary mom because most of your time will be spent working and studying.. then you will not be there for the child as much and that is not fair to either one of you... One thing is being a working mother, at least you could have more time, but studying and working, is really a hardship and you miss out on so many things, their first word, first step and the one that will be enjoying all of this will be the babysitter., and you want to make sure that your relationship is a stable and solid, so you may provide to this child a father figure in his life and you have that support . . Not that a mother cannot not do it by herself, but things would be easier for both you and your child with a full family... Age is just a number, the reason why we all get upset when these young girls get pregnant, is not because of the age, but the fact that they cannot provide anything to their kids and they expect somebody else, such as their parents to support them and the child . . . Your child should not be a burden on anyone else but yourself, grandparents are just grandparents, and they did their jobs raising you, so your raise your own little ones...

Answer 6

Let me just say this - when I was in high school I used to think I'd be married at 23 and start having kids at 25. 23 has come and gone 4 1/2 years ago and I am not quite at the point where I am ready to get married and have kids. Part of it comes from wanting to be financially stable and emotionally ready to have kids. The other part comes from me being selfish and not wanting to give up the life I live now where the only person I have to be responsible for is myself.

If I can give any advice it would be this - do NOT have kids before you are financially stable to support them. Get a good job, be secure with yourself and where you're at in your life - and then have kids.

Answer 7

The best time depends on who you are asking. The best time to have children is when you are ready emotionally and financially. I had my now 5-year old daughter when I was 18 years old. I don't recommend that. While I love her more than anything, I was not ready to deal with a child. However, I did what i had to do and she is my world. Now, I am pregnant with my second child, and I'm almost 24. This time, I feel ready, it was planned, and I'm not at all scared.

Some people start having children very early. Others wait until their late twenties or thirties to start. Whenever is right for you, I think that you should be leading a stable life (stable relationship, doing well financially, and of the right mind to raise a child). No one should bring a child into this world without these things. Trust me, while not impossible, it is VERY hard, both on yourself and your child.

Answer 8

ABOUT 23 24 OR 25

Answer 9

28

Answer 10

Around 25 years of age.

Answer 11

I'm 22 right now and would like to have 2-3 kids but there is so much I want to do first. I tell myself that I'll have them when I'm 30 (to give myself time) but I'll be happy whenever it happens. I've heard that mothers under the age of 25 have healthier babies though...)