Well I just had a b-day and all I wanted to do was hang out and drink a few beers. My husband didn't want to. But we did any ways. We went just 2 doors down and had a few beers with his uncle and a couple friends. He was worried about dinner, and my 3 kids just had some pizza. And my husband was hungry so he went home and expected me to go with him.(I didn't cause I wasn't hungry)Then he came back about 1 1/2 hr. later mad as hell telling me to we are done and to get my stuff and leave then he took our kids. So i went and got my stuff and left.
He's done that to me for the past 7years.We had our 1st kid when I was 17 and I haven't got to do anything.I sat home about 1-2 days a week for 7 years waiting for him to come home to me and he wouldn't untill 1or2 inthe morning(when the bar closed).Or I would leave fromwere we were and make dinner.I've only gone out 3 times in 7 years without kids. He won't let me do anything. He dousn't understand that I just want a little bit of me time
2006-06-29 07:42:57 · 11 answers · asked by mightymite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave this guy, he's controlling, selfish, and useless apparently........you deserve better having done the hardest job since you were 17!!
you don't need that guy, you can do better, and how dare he do all that on your birthday!
2006-06-29 07:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you in a bar with your kids? Even if not, it sounds like an immature scene. If you want me time you're going about it the wrong way. Apologize to your husband for that not going well. and next time plan better. Get a sitter. Most married couples w/ kids go to the park on the weekends or rent a movie at home. Try to do family stuff.
What you allowed in the past, you allowed.
2006-06-29 07:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a little controlling. I think you may need to do just what he said. Leave for a while. Give him a week and the tune might change. He was more than a little out of line to ask you to leave a group on your birthday.Your house is 2 doors away and he couldn't get back feed the kids and himself once on your birthday. What did you do screw up his surprise party? He needs to give you a little more space and time. If he wants a maid he'll need to hire one. You need to explain that he needs to loosen the reins a little. Give him a week without your being around and see what his response is . If not favorable, start planning where you'll be living with the kids and without him. This kind of controlling never gets better without the rude awakening.
2006-06-29 08:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be mad. He is treating you like you're his child instead of his wife. You guys need to sit down and talk about this and you let him know exactly how you feel. Tell him that you need some time alone too just like he does when he goes out. If he doesn't understand this or don't seem to care then the next time he is going out, you get dressed too and call the babysitter.
2006-06-29 07:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by da_stressbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother went through a VERY simialar situation. She wasn't able to run around at 18 because she had two kids to take care of. In the mean time my father went out partying with his buddies all the time. Now at 40 my mom loves to go out and my dad hates it. They fight about it a lot. I think it comes down to compromise. I have told them that over and over. You need to talk to your husband because it's essential that you live your life. It's not fair that he got upset with you. It sounds like you two really need to talk. You need to tell him what is going on and explain to him that you need to get out a little.
If he does this all the time (telling you to leave) then their may be a bigger problem you need to work on. Miscommunication may be a factor in this situation. Overall though you both need to open lines of communication and talk about what your feeling when it comes to going out. If he doesn't understand and refuses to let you go out periodically and enjoy yourself than maybe it's time to move on and find someone that will appreciate you as well as let you be yourself.
2006-06-29 07:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very mad. "Your day your way." But a baby sitter and a location with more friends outside of sitting in a house would have made the night better.
2006-06-29 07:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how you feel, or do you just expect him to know? Do you ask him why he gets so mad at you?
Make him understand that you need time too. Tell him why the situation is unfair.
2006-06-29 07:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by meisa777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset. but what you shold have done years agao is........The first time he behaved like that you should have put a stop to it. Now i dont think u can cause its a habit of his. I'll pray for u anways
2006-06-29 07:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by viddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to walk away from this guy, read these answers closely becuase theres great advice here. life is too short, you need to live and be happy with your life. leave this dude!
2006-06-29 09:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by rcross1222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you need to pretty much put your foot down.....dont ask, because it seems liek asking doesnt help anything.....just tell him your going out. if he has a problem with it then i think you guys need to talk about what each other really wants, if he wants to be with you, etc.....
2006-06-29 07:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋