I feel sad when he doesnt call yet i feel guilt bcause i think, what if she doesnt know and maybe he is cheating. but he is great and we havent done anything, except a drunken peck on the lips. but i say no i cant do this till he leaves her. should i wait a little longer. maybe there is something i can say to find out if i mean anything to him to see if its actually worth waiting for. i know the right thing to do, but i think i might be in love, maybe not, but i dont want to loose my chances with him and i dont want to help him cheat.
2006-06-29 07:41:19 · 14 answers · asked by sensory deprivation 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best thing to do is wait until he is not with his wife. If he and his wife are truly unhappy together then leave it to them to decide what to fo with their marriage. It's kinda hard to lose your chances, when you don't/shouldn't have any while he is married. If it's meant to work between you and him thinkgs will fall into place. But, while he's married just leave him alone.
2006-06-29 07:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by niknaack 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st how would you feel if you was his wife and he was cheating on you? Honey if he cheats on his wife what makes you think that if the two of you get together that he won't cheat on you? If he says that he can't leave because he has a baby with her, than he is trying to tell you that he only wants you on the side.Honey he is not going to leave his wife.OK don't get me wrong I think what you are doing is very wrong. Tell him that you are going to break things off with him all together if he don't leave his wife. See what he says to that. He will most likely say You know i can't do that. Thats when you say ok then its over. Forget about him. you don't need him. Remember once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-06-29 09:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him well alone. Baby or no baby if he was truly unhappy he would leave his wife. From what you're saying it sounds like he's a player... bottom line once he's got what he wants and has had enough he'll leave you high n dry...
One other thing from a married woman's point of view... would you want this happening to you if he were your husband? I think you owe it to other women to set him straight and lay it down that cheating is cheating, and it's WRONG! I seriously hope that if this ever happened to me, the woman would have the guts to put my husband in his place!!
I've done it, a married man who thought I would be his "bit on the side"... no way...
2006-06-29 07:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by nuttylouuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please believe me, you can and will meet someone who is right for you. He won't be married to someone else. Don't degrade yourself. You deserve a man who isn't a coward or a cheater. Please read the awesomely funny book written by a Sex in the City writer. It's called "He's Just Not that Into You." I'm serious, it will change your perspective on relationships for the better and you'll have a good laugh and cry reading it. I promise you that if you read this book you will know EXACTLY what to do with this relationship.
2006-06-29 08:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by BeccaBoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. I know that hard to do but for your own mental health - walk away. If he loves you - he will do what's right and not put you in this hard place. He wants the goodies and still be the family man. If he will cheats with you on his wife then what do you think he will do to you later. Save yourself the heartache.
2006-06-29 07:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by SisPrecious1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already did help him cheat. A drunken kiss is still considered cheating. He is married to someone else and has a baby. Stay away from him. Why do you want to contribute to his wife's' sadness?????????????What did she ever do to you????????What about that baby?????????How would you like it if you were married to him with a baby and some stupid girl did this to you???????You couldn't be any dumber if we cut your head off.
2006-06-29 08:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by New York Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him tend to his wife and kid. Everybody wants what they simply cannot have. Just leave him an if he divorces his wife later on down the road then maybe it was meant for yall to be together, but for right now leave him alone.
2006-06-29 07:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by d_landus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a no brain er! He's not going to leave her and if he was going to he would have done so already. Cake and eat it to remember that. Plus why by the cow when you can get the milk for free. He's using you, cut it loose.
2006-06-29 07:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lynette W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bla bla bla... all married man claim tio be miserable so naive girls like you feel sorry for them and give then what they supposedly don't get at home. It's the oldest trick in the book...are women still falling for that?
He has already told you that he is not going to leave his wife, so basically he is asking for a discreet mistress....
Fool!
2006-06-29 08:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE IS MARRIED!!!!!!!!! He is lying!!!!! If they just had a baby, they still want to be together! He is telling this to get you in the bed. I bet if you talked to his wife she would tell their relationship is good because they just had a baby. sleeping with another womens husband is as low as you can go. There are enough men out there. FIND YOUR OWN MAN.
2006-06-29 09:17:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋