I've been married for a little over 2 years and I'm absolutely crazy about my husband. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me. We are opposites in personality (I'm extroverted and he's very introverted), but we get along great.
I know some things about his upbringing that make him have terrible self-esteem issues. I try to tell him I love him as much possible. I tell him how handsome he is daily, how much I love and why, that I think he's sexy, that he's a wonderful father, etc.
I don't know if I embarass him or that I just shower him with compliments so much it just gets boring. If saying things like that all the time, does it make the comments less special?
I'm 41 years old and I think he is the most handsome man. I have to fight with myself to walk near him and not touch him or kiss him or hug him.
Is this too much for a man to handle?
Only serious answers please and I'd prefer answers from adults and not teenagers. Thanks!!
2006-06-29 07:40:18 · 12 answers · asked by joycestew2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband has never said that it's too much, then I'm sure it's just fine. Congratulations on finding someone that you love so much.
2006-06-29 07:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Keadabeada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is I mean youre married to the man and want to stay together forever not scare him away too much can do that. I mean he married you fro a reason and he loves you too and you or him should never have to be reminded there should always be that part of your relationship that should you wondering "does he really love me" i mean at night before bed just say I love you good night i say it t my husband every night because I love by the saying"if tommorow never comes he will know that ive loved him everyday "just a nightly thing dont make it an every hour thing he will get sick of hearing it and your showing him that your vulnerable like he know that whatevr he does or would do cheating, lie etc that you love him so much and you'd never leave him regardless of what happens and you dont want him to know taht you want to be hard to get as possible you wnat him to know that he needs you more than you need him and believe me once a man is married its hard for him to adjust without you
2006-06-29 07:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by C I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as what you say comes from your heart, they aren't less special. Most guys don't accept compliments well. It's one of the many differences between men & women. Most of us love to hear things like that all the time. Make sure he knows you mean every word by your actions. *Actions speak louder than words.* Talk to him about how you're feeling. And assure him that you mean every word. But don't expect him to change. Growing up like that is hard to live down. I grew up in an unaffectionate family, so I love that stuff now. My husband's exwife was affectionately demanding, and so he isn't into the goodbye kisses & that kind of stuff. But after 2+ yrs together, we've found a happy medium. Good luck.
2006-06-29 07:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by goddess17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do understand where your coming from with this question. I am 35 and was married for 10 years to someone who really didn't treat me that well. I am now dating a wonderful man who had a bad experience in his first marriage and left him with some scars too. I tell him all the time that I love him and that he is wonderful. I do think that it can become like a habit and lose it's specialness. Maybe we should find other ways to show them without the words. I am thinking like little notes in his car or something sweet he will find. I'm not sure. Good Luck, sounds like you got a good one!
2006-06-29 07:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one point, that's an oxymoron. On yet another that's love that twisted. Now if there never replaced into any, and continually replaced right into a lie, then this is the 1st one. yet love can start up off and circulate incorrect, exchange into pretend or faked. long married couples can discover themselves in a foul place of no longer loving the guy yet feeling they must or they could desire to try this, and that they're going to then pretend this. inspite of each and every thing, that's amazingly frightening to communicate it, what is going to ensue? What could the different guy or woman think of or SAY? we normally do no longer hear whilst the subject rely is emotional, we are in a place to hearken to our very own 'tape' on it, our very own weak spot can come to the leading element.
2016-10-31 22:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! I saw this question and had to answer it... Me and my best friend are feeling the same way about this subject. Every couple of seconds, my boyfriend says "I love you", and it starts to get old, or like he doesn't really feel it when he says it... It's weird that listening to someone say I love you too much can give you the opposite effect than it's supposed to. Sometimes when he says it, I don't mean to be ignorant, I'll just be like "Um, okay!", and he still does it! I understand where you are coming from though...
2006-07-06 06:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel exactly I used to do that a lot in the beginning of our marriage. But why not give him a chance to show you how he feels? It might not be a bad idea to step back a little bit not for him but for you. Sometimes when we love too much we get taken for granted. Its good to show that they have something great on their side too. If he has self-esteem issues you can reassure him as much as you want but until he decides to change that for himself his inner views will never change. Maybe by doing positive things for you, I'm talking joining a gym or a fun night class, he might be inspired!
2006-06-29 08:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ithink thats okay maybe u are helping his self esteem guys might get a little embarassed if ur calling him pooky and kissing his cheek like 24/7 but i think ur doi ng it for the right reasons besides u shud always say i love u cuz u never know if its the last time u will see or talk to a person......i think hes lucky to have such a loving wife!
2006-06-29 07:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If he is not the type of person to show his feelings outwardly then you are most likely making him feel uncomfortable if you constantly tell him that you love him, that he is handsome, etc. That doesn't mean that he doesn't appreciate it, but he doesn't know how to respond and that makes him uncomfortable. There are times that are appropriate for that even for him. You should be able to tell by his reaction, or lack of reaction, when those times are.
2006-06-29 07:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by JAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him how he feels that you express yourself so much i don't think you can express it enough i tell my guy i love him all the time but i try not to hug up on him to much because he doesn't like contact or the mushy stuff but he puts up with it and he's fine that i say i love you 10000 times a day he says it and will hold my hand or something for a minute but hell he handles sometimes he'll say baby smothering me and i understand he wants me to ease up a little he was rasied not knowing love so i give him an overabundance of it
2006-06-29 07:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋