Today, my husband came home for lunch and told him that he saw someone who works at our company (my husband and I work for the same home construction company). This guy saw me last night, and asked my husband today "Is your wife having twins?" When my husband asked him what did he mean, the guy just kind of laughed it off. Now, this has just made my self esteem drop through the ground!! This is my second child, and I am 14 weeks, so I know that I'm showing a lot earlier, but I'm not really THAT big (my doctor says I'm doing fine) The thing is, I am SO offended. I never really liked this man anyways, but I just feel like that was such a rude comment to make. I see him quite often, so should I say something to him, or should I just let it go? I would really like to let him know how offended I was.
2006-06-29 07:39:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He is just being a jerk-don't give him any more ammunition. Who cares how big you look if you have a healthy baby and you are feeling good? Of course, if you were to see him at a social function and he makes comments, you could always respond. In a classy way. "You look like you are having twins." "Well, I may look that way, but you just displayed your ignorance for all to see. Things aren't always what they seem, now, are they...since you LOOK so intelligent until you open your mouth."
2006-06-29 07:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the straight forward person that I am, I would definitley say something. You can get your point across in a very pleasant demeanor. Let him know that he offended you. Better yet, your husband should have eaten him alive when he said that about you. But, maybe he is not that type of person I dont know. I think if you feel comfortable with it, you should totally say something. GOOD LUCK either way!
2006-06-29 07:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think thats offesive, I am pregnant with my first and when I was 13 weeks I went to have a ultrasound to determine how far along I was, and the lady doing the sonogram was like "do you think you're having twins?" I may have been large for being 3 months but you have to consider I weighed under a 100 pounds before becoming pregnant and was underweight, I've gained like 70 pounds, but everyone tells me how healthy I look so I feel great. And so should you
2006-06-29 07:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by Heather H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is let it go. Accept he's a crass person. The fact is, it's far more important to have a healthy, happy baby after a relatively stress-free pregnancy. Don't let one creep ruin it. Besides that, having curves and not being a Hollywood model isn't so bad. I'm betting your husband loves your curves and even the baby tummy;)
2006-06-29 07:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you SHOULD say something to him! When I was pregnant with my first child I was SO excited and I showed my child's first ultra-sound picture to my child's father's best friend. Well he took one look and said it looked as though my child was going to be born retarded. He said he was making a joke, but I got pregnant at age 39, and my BIGGEST fear was having a child with Downs Syndrome. I think it is important for people to understand that comments that are negative in any way to a pregnant mother can cause undue worry and stress at a time when you should be the most calm. Tell this man how hurt you were and how inappropriate you found his comment...and CONGRATULATIONS to you and your yet to be born child!!!!
2006-06-29 07:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by everything's eventual 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the time being.. be the bigger person and dont say anything.. But if the rude comments are still being made... let him know how bad he hurt you... DO NOT talk back to him they will only make the situation more complicated!
2006-06-29 07:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren_Brooke_Reed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exchange the locks and hire somebody else. clarify which you have encountered some non everlasting financial problems and are postponing renovations till the kinks are labored out. Pay him for his artwork minus the fee of restoration and/or alternative of the table and the textile. next time, do no longer provide the main important to absolutely everyone. Make preparations to have the two you, your husband, or a designate meet the staff on the homestead.
2016-10-31 22:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm, I would let it go, I'm sure he didn't intend for that to be rude and maybe he has no social graces..... I mean at least you're actually pregnant and not just over weight.... in that case i would be pissed off!!
You should also take into consideration that you are a lot more sensitive now that you're expecting.
2006-06-29 07:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did your husband tell you that? Maybe he is the one you should have a problem with...I just don't think that their is any reason he should have told you, unless he thinks that way too, and wanted you to know that, but is putting it off on the other guy so he won't have to bear the wrath. And honey, you're fine whatever your body has to do to have that baby. It's truly amaziing what our bodies are capable of!
2006-06-29 07:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by hichefheidi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say something...you don't need to be offended by anyone.People are really offensive and rude these day.I wouldn't let him get away with it.
Good Luck!
2006-06-29 07:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by ForzaItalia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋