I wanna try to get it, cause I neva had it b4, but I'm afraid it will hurt. I tried using a 6 inch dildo on myself with lots of lube, but it still hurt. would the real thing feel better? I wanna know.
2006-06-29 07:32:38 · 21 answers · asked by Smooth 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It surely will if you don't take your time! I replied to an older post earlier in the gay and bisexual forum. I'll go copy and paste it for you and come back and edit it in. U really should know that even if u think u have enuf lube, go ahead and add some more. There are a few tricks to relaxing those muscles if you will finish all that I'm going to paste, you'll learn. Also, go to the web address I list , it's the BEST place there is to get info and how to's for sex! c ya n a few with that paste! Dang, its a REALLY LONG ONE! (post I mean) BUT VERY INFORMATIVE! srry bout the length! Well, I see u already have lots of answers which vary greatly in opinion, so, I guess I'lll add mine too. Remember that the only "stupid" question is the one you DIDN"T ask! Meaning, if you're curious, its stupid NOT to ask! You should be able to make an "informed opinion" about everything you learn.
So here is my reply... Dr. Freak at your service!
It can be messy if you don't prepare for it. But when you are prepared it can be great, if your partner practices patience with you. I'm not sure of your age, but I imagine you are fairly young. I will say a few things about my experience with this. I had a bf when I was younger, I loved him and wanted to please him, so I let him do it. It was uncomfortable, but not painful, and he was patient. ( and on the average to small side) He loved it, I could live without it, but I let him do it several times. Years later, in another long term relationship, I agreed to do it again. I was amazed at the difference a few years could make. I actually got soaking wet it was so good. ( You'll find as your body matures and you explore its senses more, parts of it you didn't know existed will "wake up") And finally to the here and now...
I've been married now for 15 yrs to a man with a very large penis. Of course, we discussed it years ago, he knew that I had done it before. I was afraid to let him do it for about 7 yrs. We tried, and it just wasn't gonna happen! So, now I'm in my thirties, I thought I'd found all my senses and knew them well... and all of a sudden, I want it again, but I'm still afraid of his size. We've used toys occasionally, and it was good, and I have found that I can get off that way. But then I wanted more. Still afraid, but well prepared for it just 2 days ago, and damn was it great!
So, what I suggest is to go to sexualhealth.com and follow the links to the "how to" section. Once u visit this site, you'll know where to go for great, non-judgemental info with nothing too taboo!
If you REALLY want to know why people do it, get some lube and lock yourself in a room and take time to explore how things feel.
When you successfully "wake up" those senses and want to know more, I suggest using an enema about an hour before. Using a thick water-based lube (and LOTS of it) And gently push against him as he enters slowly, patiently and GENTLY. Above all things don't let him go like a bunny! Let him go at your pace, you can pick it up if you feel the urge. Take the time to relax before and stay relaxed for a few minutes until its comfortable. If you feel anything uncomfortable, use more lube, more lube, more lube!
As for your question about it being a turn off....some like it, some don't.....but in my experience with "waking up", I'm glad that I was open-minded enough to try it again. Sometimes it isn't just the physical act of it, it's the emotional rush you get when you feel like you're being "bad" that makes it even better. And how hot you get the next day remembering how much you liked it.
BTW... did I 4 get to mention that I do this for my husband too, and I think I enjoy doing it to him just as much as he enjoys letting me do it.....
Damn, wish I'd had some old lady to write me a book about sex when I was your age! I surely wouldn't have wasted much time NOT doing things I was afraid of!
2006-06-29 07:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by FrEaKoNaLeAsH 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, However with some preparations you can limit the effect. First find someone who cares about you and want to make sure you have a good time. Your first time should be all about you and not them. Then go to the bathroom and use an enima. Make sure that you area as clean and empty as possible. Then BREATHE it'll be ok.
Have your lover prepare you. He can do this by making you a drink, turning the lights low, some candles and music. Then a great massage, While he is massaging the back and legs he can also start to lube you up and massage around the hole carefully working it open and relaxing it. After a while, and if you relax and enjoy this you will be ready.
Make sure he has a condom on and a LOT of lube. Have him slowly penetrate you. Now at first there is going to be some pain, but relax. If you relax after a few minutes it should subside and pleasure should take over.
The biggest factor here is that you want to try this, and it's not being force upon you. Say to yourself you can and will enjoy this, and relax.
2006-06-29 07:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some people it will always hurt no matter what. Some people can't handle it. Dildo always hurt me too. It hurt the first few times I had the real thing. But plenty of lube is a must and you have to relax. It's critical to relax or you're not going to enjoy it.
2006-07-04 22:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The best way to make it as painless as possible (besides lube) is to relax. Being all tense and clenchy will only make it hurt worse. Try loosening yourself up with your fingers or smaller dildos before moving on to something larger.
2006-06-29 07:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by bcabe111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, it hurt alot!! i had used alot of lube! and he fingered me awhile, i used to use a didlo also! and it hurt worse with the real at first! but in the end it felt better with the real thing..................while i was hurting the only thing that i let myself think was i love this person!! and it made me feel a little better
2006-06-29 13:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by kaikai 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The hymen closes the vaginal beginning or perhaps as sex takes position the first time the hymen tears and there is a few minor bleeding therefore. The anus has no such membrane , so any bleeding is from tearing of the anus or bowel. you should apply a lube and plan on medical remedy contained in the destiny.
2016-10-13 23:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has been so long since my first anal experience i think it does hurt a little but in a good way...after you are use to it a little it feels so good. an orgasm with a dildo or cock inside you is like nothing you have ever felt before.
2006-06-29 18:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by dananal00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurt, but go slowly, use lots of lube, and hopefully, your partner has lots of patience. Personally, i find it enjoyable, occasionally, but not all the time. After a few times, either you get used to it, or you a$$ does :-)
2006-06-29 08:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by Angela H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK - I'm not a man but am a bi-sexual female married to a man who loves to (try) with me. It does hurt (sometimes very much) but since he likes it so much - I try to accommodate. Anyway - I've noticed that as long as he doesn't touch me (doesn't put his weight one me) and lets me do all the work - I can take it as slow as I need it - and once I'm into it (if done right - it feels good and I usually "get there" in a matter of seconds) I can let him in further. But you have to be in control.
2006-06-30 06:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It didn't hurt the first time because we used enough lube, but on occasions since then, we haven't used enough lube and it has hurt.
In other words: Use lots of lube!
BTW, this is a female/male relationship, I dunno if it's different for you men out there ;)
2006-06-29 07:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋