HIm watching this makes me feel bad that im white. Am I wrong for it?
2006-06-29 07:25:50 · 21 answers · asked by contr0lx113xa0f 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
well, i would be asking myself a few questions....
do you not like it b/c it's porn or do you not like it b/c you feel that he is fantasizing about something that you can never be???
i don't think that you're necessarily wrong....our feelings aren't ever wrong, but you may be overeacting a bit.
talk to him about it. explain how it makes you feel...whether it's him just watching porn or if it's the asian factor....talk to him.
maybe he can only watch it alone since it bothers you. or, maybe if you both like to watch the porn you can get some that you both like.
usually women's and men's tastes in porn are different...so, try to work it out instead of just getting mad about it and demanding he stop.
take care and i hope things work out.
2006-06-29 07:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by joey322 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I guess my follow up question to yours is do you feel the same if he is watching, or if he watched white porn? or interracial porn? I am guessing by the structure of your question, you feel as if he has an attraction to asian women. However, you are his girlfriend, and you have had relations. He is obviously attracted to you, but he feels compelled to watch asian porn. This is a fantasy for him. Ask him if there is anything he would like to do - role playing (maybe he would like you to dress like an stereotypical asian woman, or re-enact a scene of his hentai or asian porn). Try watching it with him without feeling pressured,,,remember they are on the screen, you are there with him. Who has more a chance with him? And to answer your questions, no, I don't think you are wrong to feel that way, because it is your true feelings, but you may want to look at a different perspective and work it to your advantage.
2006-06-29 14:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Raidered81 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your not wrong it makes you feel like he would prefer to be with an Asian or Henri girl. That's understandable. Maybe let him know or bring your own porn with what you like, show him a variety and if he seems displeased or not turned on maybe you should talk about his sexual desire for you see if it is still there even though you are white. Chances are that it is. These pornos probably are just fantasy for him. Men are visual. Good luck
2006-06-29 14:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by spitly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! I have a similar problem with my boyfriend. Thing is, it simply dosen't turn me on. And, it makes me feel less sexy, since I'm not "exotic", just a plain ol' white chick.
I have found a solution. I told him to keep his Asian porn out of my sight. If he wishes to watch it, he can do it on his own time. I don't want it in my face. I think couples should enjoy some porn together, but people have a right to their own interests. Just like you have a right to dislike it.
I have nothing against Asians, it's just that I'm the farthest thing from "ethnic" & it honestly makes me feel less sexy.
2006-06-29 14:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by Red 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His color just adds some further intrigue to the situation for him, by watching asian women. I think the issue you should focus on is that he apparently does not care much about your feelings. I would suggest that you are not wrong and that you need to spend some time explaining this to him. If he continues to be willing to hurt you this way, he is not the right one for you.
Whatever your moral values are about pornography, that is not the issue here, it is just that the behavior offends you.
2006-06-29 14:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by Alan F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he like Asian better than white..... I would feel same way you feel because not fair for you to feel and he not respect you as a girlfriend. If both together watching that fine but one not and other do... not right picture in this.
2006-06-29 14:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be worried more about him watching any porn than watching a specific porn. It seems that something is missing in your relationship and your boyfriend is not satisfied completely. Tell him to stop seeing porn and start to excercise love.
2006-06-29 14:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by shkabaj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i totally understand that. no i dont think ur wrong for feeling that way. i bet u prolly feel he would rather be with an asian girl than with you. I would feel bad too if my boyfriend watched asian porn or with african american girls, etc. I dont think you are wrong for feeling like that.
2006-06-29 14:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by marriedin2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of males watch porn, mine included and for the most part it doesnt bother me BUT there are the occasions I feel like you and then I get mad and ask him if I am enough for him?
2006-06-29 14:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lenora B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would hate it if my husband watched any kind of porn. That is perfectly normal. It would be unnatural for you not to hate it because it's disrespectful and unfaithful to you. But what kind of porn or what race anyone is has nothing to do with it.
2006-06-29 14:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Consuming Fire 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋