what can i do to help her?

Question

my little cousin is 15 and when she was younger she was molested by a friend of the family, every since then her life has been a living hell she has let people take advantage of her im the only person she told but she wants to tell her mother what should she do

Answer 1

First of all just be there for her, she will need all the support she can get. Because something like that can make you depressed and feel bad about yourself. Tell her is not her fault no matter what anyone might say. Make sure you ask her if she wants you to go along with her to tell her mom. And just take her mom aside to a quite place and together tell her. She might need counseling, to help her get through it all. But just having someone their for you is the most important key.

Answer 2

Suggest her to seek professional help and 'confess' to her parents what happened. Knowing your parents are there for you and support you is important. But first they should get the chance to help. If they don't know they just notice the outside signs.

Apart from that molesting might mean there was some sort of criminal act going on which might not be left unpunished or without consequences for the person who did this to her.

Getting this straight might help her accept that wrong was done to her without her fault. Which might help her getting out of the situation and make her a happy girl again.

Answer 3

If she has trouble with the idea of telling her mom face to face, maybe you could see if it seems nicer for her to write it out in a letter and then give it to her mom and then talk about it after her mom gets to digest it a little more. Some parents aren't always the best ones to lean on so I pray for you and her and your family. I hope she starts getting the mental/emotional support from a professional as well.

Answer 4

She should tell her mother. Because if your family is still friends with this guy, that hurt her then she will see him. That could bring painful memories up. Or tell the police what he did, be could go to jail for hurting her. She needs to tell her mom because she needs help and professional help too. To get her through all of that.

Answer 5

Well, this is not an easy subjet to talk about. It will depend on how good her mother is. She should tell her, but if she thinks that her mother is not the type of person that she should talk to then you have the chat with her mother and explain everything to her.

Answer 6

Suggest that you both talk to her mother. Matters will only get worse if she doesn't tell and seek counseling. She is going to need support through this.

Answer 7

I have been in this same situation as your cousin. It happened to me twice. She should have told her mother when it happened if she really wanted too. Inever told mine but, I have learned to cope with it. I just know better then to hang around certain people alone. I always have someone with me and if i feel uncomfortable to leave.

Answer 8

Either convince her to tell her mother, or tell her mother yourself. She may be angry, but she'll forgive you and see how much better life is after someone is told. Plus, if she doesn't tell or if you don't either, you will never forgive yourself for letting her live that way.

Answer 9

You are already doing the best thing that you can do for her by being there. She needs to tell her mother and maybe to the police and she should DEFINITELY seek counseling.

Answer 10

sweetheart all you can do is be there for her. But I would have her tell some one who can help her out with telling her mom. She has to let someone know because its very important that this gets taken care of.