I love my ex. She broke up with me last week. I am trying to give her the space and time that she needs to think about what's happened and if it's what she really wants. BUT, I have the nagging need to get in touch with her. Even if it's just to chat and catch up.
Does anyone know any good techniques or exercises I can do to stop myself doing this?
I love her and I want to sort things out but I don't want to push her away.
Please be sensitive as I'm really fragile right now.
Thank you for your time and advice.
2006-06-29 07:05:34 · 18 answers · asked by chris0072k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is very difficult to stay apart from the people we love, but sometimes, we have to go on, living our lives. You should rediscover yourself, find new hobbies to practice and don't be afraid to meet and trust new people. I am sure that there is, somewhere, a girl for you, that will always love you. Maybe you haven't found her yet... In the meantime, try to treasure all the thing that life has offered you..I'm sure they are plenty... Hope it helped.
2006-06-29 07:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand how you feel, this is what you should do: respect her wishes to take time and sort things out. In the meantime maybe you can take up a new hobby like exercising or jogging. DO NOT CALL!!!!! That will be the hardest part, if you work then aybe you can take this time to push yourself into work 100% or if you are in school push yourself into your schoolwork 100% If you have kids, nieces or nephews maybe you can spend more time with them and more time with your family. Surround yourself with people that will be there for you just in case you have a break down. Now after about a month or so if she has not contacted you, you have a few options, you could: A. move on and start dating again, or B. call her and see what's up. Try to stay cordial in all things, she may come around but I think you are doing the right thing in giving her space. Hope this helps and good luck
2006-06-29 08:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by Love-Me-Only 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not contact her, no matter how bad the "nagging need" gets - just give her time and space until she is ready to talk. Now is the time to focus on you a bit - hang out with friends and family, enjoy an old hobby, or pick up a new one. Try not to do things that remind you of her and do not go places where you know she will be.
I know it hurts now, but you will be fine - whether or not she ever comes back around. Be strong and the best of luck to you!
2006-06-29 07:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok she has broken up with you gives her the upper hand so you need to call her and leave a message or talk to her briefly and your message or talk to her should be really short and you should be incontrol of the call no begging sobbing but be strong and tell that you really do respect her space and that you are there if she need you and hang up Please say no more than that and sound confident not overly confident but confident and slightly firm but caring and be short please do not carry on about how sorry you are or about what happen just do what I told you and you may be surprise let her be the one to prolong the call not you if she does it then you will be invited into her space if she sound as if she does not want to speak to you that is a sign to briefly say what you have to say and hang up! And oh yeah you will have the upper hand because you called if she listen to you at all that is a foot in the door and it will make her think about what you said and why you hung up so fast you will then be in her mind plant a seed and it will grow!
2006-06-29 07:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a relationship breaks up, for no matter what reason, its not easy to just shut off all your feelings and let go.
If your ex g/f wants space, then let her have it. give her a week or two to see if she misses you enough to want to go back with you.
I know its hard. but you must let her do this.
After a while, maybe text her if shes got mobile fone and ask how she is. if u get no answer then shes done with you, but she replies you could ask her to maybe meet just for a coffee and talk over what is going on and what will happen next.
You shouldn't expect to get back together tho, no matter how much you want it, she might have just grown out of the relationship..It happens hun and there is nought you can do about it but dust yourself off and give yourself some time to maybe find another person to share your life with.
Hope ive helped :)
2006-07-04 21:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sorry to hear about your troubles, it must be truly miserable for you right now.
I have a very close friend whose ex-boyfriend will not leave her alone. It is tortuous for BOTH of them; neither of them is able to get on with their life and they are just causing misery for each other.
Think of it this way; if you REALLY love her, then you will be prepared to make sacrifices for her - you will be prepared to resist your own urges in order to do what makes her happy. If she says that she was not happy within your relationship, then you must accept that, for her happiness and for your sanity. Tell her how you feel, make it explicit and make sure she understands, but just tell her ONCE, and then tell her where she can contact you, then leave her alone.
Instead of thinking as if your relationship is temporarily in trouble, consider that it is OVER completely. Then, IF one day you do happen to get back together it will be a bonus. But if you never do, and you MUST accept that is a possibility, you will have already begun dealing with the grieving process rather than having it all thrust upon you at once.
You must build a life worth living which does not involve your ex.
Look after yourself.
2006-06-29 07:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Alex should be working 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everytime you get the urge to talk to her, i.e. call her go for a jog or walk and "accidently" leave your cell on the charger, or leave it with a close friend.
Also try hitting the gym after work, or class, to take up time. Try taking more classes or tutoring. Just make yourself busy and pretend. It'll take some time but after awhile you won't be pretending to have a good time anymore, you actually will be.
2006-06-29 07:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sappho's_momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever you want to pick up the phone DON'T!Do something else play video games. Call someone else Just do SOMETHING and you'll see in a couple days it will start to get easier. If she calls you I don't really know anything to tell you but this is don't answer.
2006-06-29 07:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by NEOTEH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can tell that you really love her so i say you and her sit down and you tell her how you feel. tell her that you don't want to push her away but you love her and you can't live without her. tell her she's your everything and you want to see her happy. but remember just because you'll broke up don't mean that she don't love you she might just need time to think and if you'll love is really strong and true then give it time and she'll come back to you.
2006-06-29 07:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by THAT DEAL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she said she needed space, that means without you in it. Leave her alone. If she wants you back bad enough she will reach out to you. Go out with your friends and keep yourself busy.
2006-06-29 07:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋