My boyfriend hasn't told his parents about me could it be because he feels as though they won't accept me?

Question

This is the second time my boyfriend and I have gone out. We broke up the 1st time because our lives had gotten hecktic and we didn't have time to really see each other.When we were going out, he never told his parents, I told my mom. I asked him about it and he said that he just didn't want them to be nosey. He is Muslium and I am mexican and I think that is part of the reason he hasn't old them about me. His parents are very religious he says and I asked him if that was the reason he hasn't told them. He said "no that they will like you and if they don't then he dosen't care". now this is the 2nd time we are going out and He still hasn't told them. Am I just over reacting and rushing him? Or do you think that he should have told them?

Answer 1

I don't know about all that. My husband and I are an interracial couple (the first for both sides of the family) and I told my parents about him as soon as I felt that it was serious & I was in love & going to be spending alot of time with him. (as did he) I don't know your bf or his family, but I do know that in some Muslim religions it is shameful to date outside of your religion or race & is punishable by DEATH. Maybe he is afraid to tell & if that is the case I would be too, and I wouldnt pressure him to tell. Good luck :)

Answer 2

It all depends on how long you've both been going out and how serious it is. I would suggest you have dinner with him and your mother to show how important family is to you. Then explain to him that being introduced to his family is important to you (if it is). If you're looking at his parents knowing about you as a milestone though, just let it go. There may be things between him and his folks, and getting in the middle might be the quickest way to you two breaking up again.

Answer 3

you hit the spot. religion! i myself know, because i have friends that are muslim and none of them can date. yes they are very religious, and dont believe in dating. the parents will scold you for that, and thye dont want their children having to do with anyone else sexually. hes afraid that his parents wont accept you, and its probably true. i had a boyfriend that was gudgrati, and he didnt tell his parents. i told him to, because he should be honest with his parents and when he did tell his parents they made us break up. all indian parents are like this, protective. i hope i answered your question!

Answer 4

since u consider my opinion matters a little at least.....i wanna be frank with u.....the most imp part of Islam is that ,A MUSLIM IS NOT SUPPOSED TO HAVE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH A PERSON BELONGING TO ANOTHER RELIGION,BELIEF,OR FAITH.....there is a huge diff in faith ,belief,behavior,way of living,etc
IN CASE A PERSON MAINTAINS ANY SUCH RELATIONSHIP,HE IS NOT CONSIDERED MUSLIM.....HIS PARENTS WILL ACCEPT U ONLY IF U CONVERT....IT'S NOT ABOUT THEM,IT'S ABOUT Allah......
talk to your b/f about Islam,it's a beautiful religion,i'm no one to force u to convert,but i'd advice u to atleast know it a lil bit.....then ,make up your mind
HE'S NOT TELLING HIS PARENTS ABOUT IT,COZ THEY'LL NEVER ACCEPT U......HE KNOWS IT.....NOW,IF HE'S SERIOUS ABOUT U,HE MAY LEAVE HIS PARENTS,ASK HIM TO BE FRANK......TELL HIM,SPEAK UP......
BTW,what do u mean by mexican,are u a christian??????

Answer 5

Yes because maybe they don't want him to get serious to soon.And maybe in his religion he can't date until he is a certain age.

Answer 6

Yes, the same happened to me he might be sepperated from you if he tells them.

Answer 7

giv him encouragement..
sometimes u need to understand the difference in custom.. well u need to hav a lot of patient

Answer 8

I would keep my cool if he doesn't tell them before long you can always find another guy who will love you and his family will accept you.

Answer 9

yes

Answer 10

Maybe,