Am I crazy. Hes single, and a great dad. Am I just being crazy?
2006-06-29 06:43:50 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's normal to have a crush on authority figures. That's why people have crushes on teachers. Do you consider him an authority figure. Sometimes girls who don't have fathers or who don't have a good relationship with their fathers look for older men because they are looking for a man who loves them to replace their father.
If he is flirting with you, I wouldn't babysit there anymore. You can't let it escalate. In the end, you're jail bait.
If you just think he's flirting with you, you need to realize why you have this crush on him. Is it because you are seeking a surogate father? Or, do you often like authority figures? Once you know your problem, it's easy to fix the situation.
2006-07-02 06:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by millancad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're still very young to be serious about any kind of relationship. No your not crazy! If he is showing intrest in you, you need to step back for a minute and think real hard about it. Having a crush is one thing, but taking it to another level is something else. The only intrest a 30 year old has in mind for a 15 year old is getting in your pants. That might make you feel good you know this older man wants me feeling, but the truth is he would be taking advantage of you and using you. Don't do anything you will later regret. If he gets to into you or starts trying to approach you then it would probably be best for you not to baby sit any more. Just because someone is single and a great dad doesn't mean he is the best person in the world.
Your age difference would land him jail, you are not looking to be a mom and their is no future for a 15year old and and 30 year old. Keep the crush but don't act on it. That's all it is a crush.
2006-06-29 06:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by shania 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I highly advise you to stop baby-sitting for this guy.
You are a minor and he would get into serious trouble! He would be considered a sex offender and more than likely lose custody or visitation with his kids. Do you really want to put the 2 of you thru something like that?
I know that at your age this is all VERY exciting. I know this from experience. When I was 16 I had an affair with my step-dad. My mom is a severe alcoholic and that drove StepDad and I together. My mother found out and all hell broke lose. She sent me to live with my grandparents. My brother hated me. And I never even got the chance to talk to him again.
Remember that the things we do effect the people we love.
Good Luck Sweetie!
2006-06-29 06:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by andieangel2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, If he is attracted to you I suggest you find somewhere else to babysit. I wouldn't trust him around you. You are young and it's fine to have a crush on him, but be careful he doesn't take advantage of you. You should ask your mom for advice too.
He has children and he needs to set an example for them, if anything happened between the 2 of you that would not be a good example to his children.
You 2 have no romantic future, but for him to go to jail if anyone finds out anything happened between the 2 of you. I suggest you write about your feelings in journal and leave them there.
2006-06-29 06:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by lorialis1026 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man you babysit for ever makes a move on you call the police because he will be breaking the law. You are jail-bait!!! If you have any feelings for this grown man or crush it's just that a crush. Do you you have a daddy in your life? Don't babysit for him anymore!! you'll be getting yourself in alot of trouble!!!!
2006-06-29 07:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is flirting with you, that is a BAD thing. You do not want a guy that old. Think about it, would you be interested in an eight year old? And if he is interested in you it is for one thing, and one thing only. And if he gets that from you he can end up in prison for statutory rape. That means having sex with a minor in case you didn't know. The law says that until you are 18 you can't make choices like that for yourself, and they will put him away. Do you want that to happen?
2006-06-29 06:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by scottie2h2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a crush on a guy, man it's all good but if that said MAN is flirting with you it is WRONG!! He is an adult and you are a child!! You need to stay away because you don't want anything to happen to you.
2006-07-06 04:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by mslu_k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i thik ur crazy bcuz hes twice ur age, do u honestly wanna b a mother at age of 15 i may be 13 but im not crazy and foolish its ok to have a crush but dont get over board cuz then youll get ahead of yourself
2006-06-29 07:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by basktball_qt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Because there is no reason for a normal 30 year old to be interested in a 15 year old. Unless he/she is a pedophile.
2006-06-29 06:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be crazy, but he is too old for you. He would get to spend 20 years in jail for touching you. Start looking for boys your own age.
2006-06-29 06:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by Hugh Jorgan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋