Best Friends?

Question

Has anyone ever just drifted away from a best friend? I don't know how it actually happened, but I look around and most of the women whom I am friends with how are either work related or family.. how did I just leave my other friends behind.. it's not like it was a consicous effort.. for some reason I didn't keep the connection. Any one else out there going through the same thing? Any suggestions about getting them back?

Answer 1

Give them a call- let them know that u still think about them and then maybe suggest going for coffee to catch up a little. Then try to keep in contact from time to time. If they are your true friend, they would understand that there may have been some issues that you have been trying to deal with before taking on any additional "stress". I did that and I'm still the best of friends with a girl from high school of almost 12 years now.

Answer 2

It happened to me, so I know the feeling. I think alot of the time it's simply because you just grow apart, take up different interests, take different directions in life.
And, of course it's not a conscious thing, it's not like you PLAN to drift away from a close or best friend, it just happens.
If you are intent on trying to rebuild the relationship, then take the first step by calling and inviting them for coffee, or just a chat on the phone is great. You'll soon figure out whether there's still the same feeling or not. If there is, then that's brilliant, if there isn't then, as much as it might hrt, or confuse you, it's best to simply let go, remember the good things that you received from the friendship.
I recently got back in touch with a girl that was my best best friend for more years than I can remember, we drifted apart mostly because we simply didn't share the same interests, and now, even though we are back in contact after 5 years of no contact, I find that we still do not share the same close bond that we had before.
I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Do you really wanna get them back? I had this same experience once. I had this one girlfriend and for some strange reason we stopped being friends, even until this day I don't understand how it happened. We never had a fight or anything like that, we just drifted away. Many years later I realized that we are just not meant to be very close friends. And I think it works out better that way.

Maybe it just was not meant to be. If you really and truly want to get them back, then call them up and say what is on your heart and then you can hangout together and let the good times begin again! Good luck with it!

Answer 4

Sure! Life gets incredibly hectic and complicated...almost as if you wake up one day from a slumber party with your girls to find you have a husband, three kids, a house, a car pool, PTA, the home owner's association meeting and a bake sale to deal with and that's just Monday morning! *pant* Or is that just me?! But as that old commercial used to say REACH OUT AND TOUCH SOMEONE! Find old friends! See sources below or track them down through your parents, their parents (those phone calls and visits alone are a scream, let me tell you!). Trust me even people you weren't best buds with are usually glad to hear from you. By now we've all been through stuff in our lives that has taught us life is precious and time flies whether you're havin' fun or not!

Answer 5

Yes. We were best friends for almost 20 years. We both came to college and lived together, and she slowly started making new friends and little by little, she pushed me away. I can't even talk to her anymore, not about personal things. Right now, the person she considers her best friend is someone who is only friends with you when its most convenient for her. It's very sad, but to be honest I'll be here waiting for her when that friend finally fails her. My (ex) best friend recently got married and I wasn't her maid of honor. She never even told me that it was this other girl. You have no idea how much this broke my heart.

Answer 6

Life takes us to different places. While in college, you might all have been on the same page. But people get into their careers, they get married, they have kids, they change. It's natural. If you miss these friends, by all means, contact them. You might not stay in as close of touch as you once did or see each other as often as you'd like, but you might find they miss you just as much and have, like you, been busy getting their lives together. It just happens. With the introduction of myspace, it's been much easier for me to remain in contact with my old friends from college or making a habit of emailing them at least once a month to let them know what's going on in your life and find out what's new in theirs. Give it a try...it might not be like the old times, but you'll still be friends.

Answer 7

Eh Im in the same boat. They either come back or they dont. My friend used to get over our tiff's but not this time. We drifted apart and now Im pretty much with out any girls as friends. It sucks but it just takes time.

Answer 8

Everyone experiances this
You move
You go to school
YOu get a new job
YOu get a new realtionship, or get married
losing and making friends is part of life. Of you want to keep old friends call, call them up and grab lunch or something. friendships can take work, expecially if you do not see them everyday. but we have many to keep up with people, emails, cells, cars.

Answer 9

yeah, i've been through this several times. it just happens a lot with life - people get busy & wrapped up in what is going on with themselves. actually i just found an old friend's email thru the web - sent her a short message saying how it had been a while asking what she thought about catching up, it worked for us - we're starting to open up to one another again.

Answer 10

It's normal and it happens all the time. Yes, it has happened to me and probably most everyone else at one time or another. It's not intentional, but you know, that keeping in touch, does go both ways....You are not totally to blame...:)