2006-06-29 06:37:37 · 12 answers · asked by tonya340 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a tough one. However, the way you stated your question, no...and here's why ---- EVERYbody changes, no matter who you are. So the person you married a year ago, or 5 or 10 or 20 years ago is going to be different from the person you first married.
Now, if you suddenly find out that he was a mass-murderer, and he led you to believe that he was fresh out of Seminary, you've got some issues to deal with.
2006-06-29 06:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I makes the marriage difficult. I married a woman who is not what she portrayed while dating and engaged. It has hurt our marriage a lot.
I like sports, motorcycles, movies, outdoor activities, being very affectionate and hanging with the family. And while dating she stating and acted like she loved all of these things too. Then when we got married, I found out, because she wouldn't do these activities, that she hated sports, motorcycles, outdoor activities, being affectionate, etc. Talk about being hit hard. We have managed for more than 10 years and several kids, but I am at the point I think I can't take it anymore.
It all depends on the other persons ability to compromise. My wife doesn't compromise, she states it's who she is and to deal with it. But it wasn't who she portrayed.
2006-06-29 08:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by wn_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would he divorce you if you got old? Same point. People will change as time goes on. It's inevitable. But if you are hung up on him not being what he portrayed in the beginning, then you have a problem.
My future ex-wife is pulling that BS on me. Turns out she has a personality disorder. In any personality disorder, that person rewrites history in their head from everything from no sexual chemistry to the marriage should have never happened.
Think about it and seek counseling.
2006-06-29 07:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So have you not gained any weight? Are you not nagging him about B/S that isn't important? Do still you fix yourself up to look pretty? I could go on all day... If you fit any of these profiles then you probably aren't what you portrayed yourself to be either, so let him divorce you because you aren't the same person who he married.
I fortunately haven't had to deal with a woman like you.
2006-06-29 07:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you discovered the gun collection, or was it the whips and chains? Perhaps the 5000 porn videos? Maybe the pictures of him making out with a guy?
Yep, get a divorce.
2006-06-29 06:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still Love him? Is this new person he turned into so completely different? Is this new person someone that you can't live with?
Marriage takes work. People are not perfect. Maybe he is the same person, but maybe your head made him into someone he is not.
2006-06-29 07:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by meisa777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly it depends on how extreme the difference is. like if he says that hes a hard worker burt hasnt worked in 3 years and u pay all the bills, or if he treats you special and then turns around and pounds your face in everyday. but ppl will change when they get comfortable, but i wouldnt let him get that comfy
2006-06-29 06:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would not divorce him.i will try to understand y he did this and if his reason is genuine then i will forgive him and if not then divorce is the option.but as per my wise advise sit and ask to him and give him a chance.but later do what u feel like.
2006-06-29 06:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean "portrayed"? did you not know him well enough before you were married? if he is not who you thought you were marrying, why would you stay with him?
2006-06-29 06:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but that's a perfect reason to get an annulment
2006-06-29 06:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Peaches M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋