im 13 but im in love and he loves me 2 and we are thinkin of haveing sex i think im mature enough am i 2 young

Question

he is not forcing me to do anthing but where i live everyone already has tho thats not the reason i want to do it i want to have sex with him becase i love him & i know if i told him no then he would sil love me just as much & he would respct my choice but i think i am ready and i think im mature enough and we are goin to use protcection if we do but do you think we should?? does it sound like im mature enough?

Answer 1

its immature to say your mature because your not. your only 13. Sure that is the prime years that people think they are in love but also the prime years you will make all your mistakes because you think you are mature enough to make good desissions. what kind of life do you want in your future. a boy that young loves you because of his sexual thoughts. He wants to set Willie free. my first time was 14. as a boy, it was a point. Looking back I wish I had waited. at 16 I was on my 3rd girlfriend. my parents warned me of consecuences but I didn't listen. she got pregnant so the only choice was marriage. I was happy with that. but by the time I was 18 we got divorced. why? because interest change. why? because what you think is love is not mature love. Yes it is a love but not an experienced love. you can have love without sex. test him. tell him you want to wait till your married. I bet he will break up within a month because his hormones are in control of him. just because you love him now does not mean he is the one you will be with later. its rare for a couple to stay together from that age. my son is 20. he lives here with his 16 yo girl friend. They have known each other all there lives but now living together they are getting on each others nerves because she is young and he is crossing over to the more mature level. I laugh at him because I warned him. He would not listen. They might make it because they grew up together. his last girlfriend he broke up with because she was stupid (those were his words) yet they were together for a year. You are just starting your conversion process to an adult and it will last for a few years. your better decissions will be made when you are 16 or 17. right now you are making a terrible decission. although I believe in God, this was not a biblical view. its a view of experience and common sence. read some of my ohter answers for some good advice. good luck.

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Answer 2

You are much too young. Condoms break. Pills fail. If you do get pregnant, what are you going to do? Keep it and deal with being PREGNANT in the EIGHTH grade, have an abortion, give the child up for adoption? Children are so expensive and take more time than you have to devote to a child at this age. Abortions are expensive as well. These and adoption are emotionally taxing. Many people regret abortions and when you are an adult you will probably miss the child you gave up. And wonder if a child you see is him.
How long have you been with this guy? You're only 13, so what a year at most? I don't think you are in love. Just wait. I have never met nor heard of anyone who has regretted waiting. Some people are engaged and obviously in love, but they don't have sex. Because they understand the value of waiting. They understand that waiting will make it so much more important on their wedding night. Which should be important. I'm not saying you should wait that long. I'm just saying that if ppl can wait that long and be that in love, can't you wait?

Answer 3

13 is way way too young. it doesn't matter what everyone else is doing. wait until you are at least in high school, better yet wait until you are finished high school and married, this guy will probably be long gone by then. how can a 13 year old get any kind of pleasure from sex at that age, boy are supposed to still be yucky, or at least most girls should still be shy around them still at that age. What happens if you get pregnant, birth control is never 100%, not even condoms unfortunately. How would you feel as a pregnant tween, unwed and probably soon single if that happened? Plus at 30 a lot of people still don't know what being in love really is never mind at 13. And honestly consentual or not I think that is statutory rape. Hold off for at least 4 or 5 more years, please.

Answer 4

Please don't have sex yet! You may feel you are mature enough, but later on you will regret this.
Don;t beleive most people around where you live has had sex before, because most kids will say they have just to act cool.
Plus the boy will tell you anything, just to go all the way! Even if you use protection, it doesn't always work, I got pregnant with my 2nd child using condoms., and just think of all the diseases out there. Some cannot be cured .
If you can't talk to your parents, then ask a another adult or frinds parents to help you will this.
Good Luck to You

Answer 5

Please wait you are too young. If he loves you then he should be willing to wait guys do it all the time. There is no rush in loosing your virginity. Once you do it you can not get it back. You are only 13 yrs old so that means you will probably fall in love 3 or 4 more times in your life. Trust me you maybe mature for your age but so much more come with having sex. Take this into consideration and if you do decide to have sex please be careful. People at all ages die everyday from sex..... I'm 24 and I started early and I wish I would have waited.

Answer 6

You are a little baby. You are a 13 year old little girl. 1st off you don't know what love is at all. You are too young to know or be in love. 2nd what happens if you get pregnant. 3rd you are way to young to date. No child should date until they are at least 16 years old.
What kind of parent allows a 13 year old to date. Not good parents I can tell you that!!!
Does your little boyfriend have a job with health benfits? Does he have a house of his own, is he ready to marry you if you do get pregnant? Protection doesn't work 100% of the time. What would your parents do if they found out that their baby girl was having sex? Save your self until you are married! If he loves you he will put a wedding ring on your finger first!

Answer 7

Sweetie, you are far too young to be having sex. Don't do it! And you are so young that you don't have the experience to know when a boy is running game on you. A lot of guys will tell you they love you but they don't. I'm not saying that your boyfriend doesn't, but you just have to be sure and still, you are too young. Do you want to know what the right age is to have sex? It's when you are able to care for a child(and all that that involves) on your own without anyone else's help(other than a babysitter for a few hours) because to have sex is to run the risk of getting pregnant. If you can't take care of a child on your own, don't have sex. You are too young and NOT mature enough to handle the consequences. The fact that you had to ask us if we think you are too young to have sex is only one sign that you actually aren't mature enough at all.

Answer 8

No, you are definatly NOT mature enough! Please wait until you're married. This guy may not last forever, save your virginity for someone you love, not your current boyfriend. You could get deseases, such as AIDS, STDs, etc. Dont risk it now. When you are ready, and married, then the time will come. Also, condoms dont always work, and neither does birth control. You could get pregnant, and the kids that are doing it in your school are stupid, because they will have to drop out of school if they get pregnant, and are WAY TOO young. Dont fall under peer pressure! Stand above it and workon your school work and get good grades, guys will come in later. And so will having sex. Plus, you would disobey your parent's trust, and they could even kick you out if they are mad enough. " Trust may take years to build, but seconds to shatter" keep that quote in mind!

Answer 9

I hope I'm not answering too late! I'm an adult and I've worked with 11-14 year olds for over 15 years. I love your age group and working with kids your age. I understand that you think you are old enough but believe me, you aren't. Just that you need to ask the question means you aren't. Sex isn't just a physical act but is really emotional, especially for females. And even many adult women aren't totally ready for the heavy emotion that comes with sex. You need to understand that for you, this will make you feel so much more bonded and emotionally connected to him. For him, it will be no where near the same emotional experience. Don't be alarmed if he breaks up with you soon after. But if you decide to have sex then PLEASE use protection. Use a condom to protect yourself from diseases and the virus that causes cervical cancer (guys carry it but never know they have it). And by all means use it to keep from getting pregnant. You make think you are mature enough but factually, your body is not finished developing into a woman yet and is not yet ready to carry a baby. Good luck but I hope you decide to hold off for many years!

Answer 10

yes you are too young if you have to ask for our thoughts on the matter that shows you are not ready and shows a bit of fear so you are definately not ready and just so you know the only safe sex is no sex, birth control can fail you things like an antibiotic pretty much defeats the purpose of using birth control so don't get sick if you decide to go through with you decision. also condoms can break have tiny holes in them and even slip off not very comforting when you are 13 because whether or not you have began your menstral cycle you can get pregnant it has happened to girls who thought i have never had a period so i can;t possibly get pregnant.