I have expressed to him how uncomfortable I was about the situation and I asked him to stop. I am currently 6 months pregnant and he swears I am being emotional and overreaacting!!!!! He blames my emotions on this pregnancy and I can't stand that.
2006-06-29 06:18:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's okay, if it is alright with you. If it is not alright, and I presume it isn't, then the natural consequence is that there is a problem with your relationship. And that is never okay, solely because of this.
However, there may be reasons why this makes you uncomfortable.
Whether it is:
1) He doesn't respect you as much as you respect him.
2) There is clearly some boundaries that need to better defined.
3)You have reason to be concerned
4) There is an agenda going on
5) He's naive or thinks you are
6) You three each still have something to learn about do's and don'ts in a relationship.
Or some other reason, I don't know. Ultimately it doesn't matter. What matters is that you two are not communicating as well as he is with his ex.
My advice, now that you talked to the world, have a good talk with him. And be very clear about what you stand for, and why. Sometimes we don't do that.
2006-06-29 06:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Thinkithtrough 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first... are you secure in your relationship??? If so, then you shouldn't allow yourself to feel threatened by him communicating with his ex.
HOWEVER, a little common sense on his part should come into play... after all, she's an ex for a reason... there's nothing saying they can't be friends, however I would question why he has to talk to her EVERY day. I don't talk to my MOTHER everyday, let alone my ex.
I don't think this emotional turmoil can be blamed on your pregnancy... rather on his insensitivity. The two of you need to sit down and talk about why it makes you uncomfortable... and why he insists that it has to happen every day.
It is unreasonable to expect him to stop all communication with any friend, even an ex. By the same token, it is unreasonable for him to continue this current behavior at this level if he knows it bothers you... a little moderation from him and a little consideration from you is what is called for here.
Best wishes.
2006-06-29 06:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rev T L Clark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every day is a little excessive, I'll agree. But here's the kicker - do you trust him when he says they are just friends? If you don't, the DO NOT, under any circumstances, marry your fiancee. You can not love a person you don't trust. I'm guessing you are uncomfortable with him speaking to her because (a) you do not, in fact, trust him to do the right thing, or (b) you have self esteem issues that cause you to believe he will like/love her more and leave you. I'd figure out which one the problem is and deal with that. Once you figure that one out, your other problem will be solved.
2006-06-29 06:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by robotripper989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you will do it, do it yet do no longer communicate approximately it. inspite of the reality that this is over there must be deep hidden conection between your buddy and the ex except the destroy up replaced into via fact he replaced right into a foul guy or woman. you need to no longer additionally be having an off-the-cuff intercourse relationship besides. Do you think of which would be a number of what went incorrect with your buddy. Rember this men ara a dime a dozen yet friends are some distance and few between. Which one among them could you quite have around for an prolonged time?
2016-10-31 22:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is talking to her everyday, they are more than just friends. when a relationship ends its over. its ok to remain friendly but to speak to her every day on the phone? what kind of respect does he have for you? put your foot down and ask him whats more important you and the baby or the ex. if he tells you that the belly is making you emotional then you tell him that the phone calls are making you emotional. time to choose the ex or you.
2006-06-29 06:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. it's definitly not ok!they are not just friends! they might bo not but there's a pretty good chance that he could end up cheating on you w/his ex. You are not overreacting and he is using your pregnancy as an excuse. you need to confront him about it one more time about what's going on. and it's not fair to you that he's talking to his ex when he should be talking and comforting and taking care of you in your pregnant state. You need to staighten this out before you get married. and tell him that you will not marry him until he tells you the truth. if he still wont tell u the truth or he continues to talk to his ex evryday, leave! you deserve to be treated better than that! good luck!
2006-06-29 06:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday?? NO. I even don't talk to my female friends on the phone everyday. Guys love using the whole "You're just emotional because your pregnant" line to get out of having to take responsibility. Don't buy it!!
2006-06-29 06:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no! that is not ok. My roommies boyfriend goes out and visits his ex. they both live with me and one day while she was at work, I came home early and she was there! I whipped him into shape real quick! You need to be the #1! If he loves you he needs to respect you! so you need to tell him maturly...without getting into a fight...You need to choose! Is she that important that you would loose me over her? don't say that you are going to leave...or say that it's either her or i. just say Is she that important? Seriously! that's messed up! I'm a woman who isn't affraid to speak up! You need to learn to tell him (like an adult) that you don't agree with it! ask him if you did it would he get upset. tell him to put himself in your shoes! and if he keeps it up...then threaten to leave! write me back if you wanna talk! I'll fill you in on what I think! I am a young married woman as well...
2006-06-29 06:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by Kat = Super Cool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can not be friend's with women! They are just workin' up to a way to get into the woman's pants. You are not overreacting!He has no business being on the phone with her!
2006-06-29 06:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by mardaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are u retarded or some thing just friend men n women cant be friend why because the guy will also want more i say find out were she lives n give her a savage beating trust me it will make u feel better
2006-06-29 08:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by shredder97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋