I am a beautiful black woman who has primarily dated good looking white men. I have had gruff about my choices in relationships and have no problem dating men of my race. But for some reason, white men are all I seem to attract. Some of which who are very afraid to cross the marriage line. Are there any opinions on why this is? Are there any men out there who have felt this way and why?
2006-06-29 06:18:00 · 12 answers · asked by loveshy34 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would not feel bad about dating white men just as long as the have the qualities that you are looking for in a man.
2006-06-29 06:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by clae_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Black woman who is married to a Puerto Rican. We do get occasional stares, but no one has said anything to either of us yet. We mostly get the stares because we have 3 kids, 2 of which are on the darker side, so when they call him "daddy", people are flabbergasted!! I once picked him up from the airport, and people were actually tripping over their luggage because they were so busy looking at us like we were some science experiment!! But we love each other very, very much! I think that's all that matters.
2006-06-29 07:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by dorky_goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I can relate to your situation a bit. I am Mexican and my domestic partner of 3 years is Black. It has not been easy but we love each other and we learned to live with all the obsticles in the relationship. If the man you are with does not feel comfortable marrying a black women, then he might not be to sure about himself. I think that this is something that you really have to think about because if all that you attract is white men but they wont marry then it's not going to be so good for you. So just make sure that he will love you and really committ to you.
2006-06-29 07:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by bubblinbrownsugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am a white woman married to a black man for three years. We have two beautiful babies together & the scrutiny has never bothered me. And believe me I have had my fair share of it. I do not care what other people think (including my own family who ALMOST dosowned me in an attempt of getting me to change my mind about him) I don't think you can help who you fall in love with & I dont think the color of ones skin should even be a minor issue! Good luck :)
2006-06-29 07:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Herself The Elf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think of my self as Hispanic (but to make it complicated I am half Hispanic and actually half White), my BF is Black (but to make things complicated he’s actually mixed with many different things just like I am, like Native).
Anyways,
Where ever my heart takes me is where I will follow it to, it will not matter the race of which my heart picks to love and be loved by.
On the other hand, you must understand the dynamics that you may run into. Just as there is dynamics with the two opposite sexes, there is dynamics still in race. It doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing, it just means that the two must find common ground on expressing them selves openly and respectfully and learn from each other. For instance many White people have to work on their Whiteness, which can range from White Guilt to mildly racist to full out racist. If I was in a relationship with a White Male (and I have been before) I would demand to the fullest that he work on whatever Whiteness issues he NEEDS to work on. It’s the same with my sweetie in a way, I demand that we work on his patriarchal tendencies (which doesn’t mean he’s out right patriarchal it just means he needs to understand better where a woman who has been oppressed is coming from, and give me/women my/our space to openly and safely express myself/ourselves, so that we can keep the communication open between us, which is the key to any relationship)
2006-06-29 15:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by Am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wonderful when you can be happy with someone it does not matter what race are people. As long as you can be happy and treat each other with respect. My brother is hispanic and his wife is white this does not bother me. I see that he is happy that matters the most to me.
2006-06-29 06:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by beenie 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not one that would feel comfortable MARRYING a white woman at this point in my life. I cant lie. I feel like if you love yourself, then you want someone that is like minded and similar to yourself. I think that curiosity is a motivator but its not enough to get me to the alter.
2006-06-29 06:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Race never bothered me. I except people as people and treat everyone with the same degree of respect as they treat me. I've dated african/americans, latinos, asian... My problem is with white women. Very few know how to treat their man. They are more into money and what can you do for me!
2006-06-29 06:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am Puerto Rican/Mexican and my fiance is white... I never look at it like that. It's all good with me. The most important thing is if this person makes you happy or not.
2006-06-29 06:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I givesing you chances to beings datigns with me ok.
You white washing blacky?
2006-06-29 06:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋