If you were this kind of girlfriend , How would you want to be set free?

Question

I have a girlfriend, she's 28 and I'm 41 we have a wonderful child together, he's 2. She has a wonderful son that's 6 from a previous boyfriend, I have 2 boys 12 and 6 from a previous marriage, I have full custody of them, their mother choose personal freedoms over family life. She even Gave custody of her three other kids she had before we meet, to here ex mother in law. I love women, I am monogamous, and even when she's gone I won't have problems moving on. But I want to keep open the lines of communication, for our child's sake.

So the reason I'm thinking of breaking up is she does'nt love my two sons. And she just isn't into the family thing.

Answer 1

I am all about honesty. Just be honest about the reason for not wanting to be with her anymore and talk about what you expect from each other once it's over, and don't say or promise anything that you don't mean.

Answer 2

You are not telling us why you want to set your girlfriend free??? You have a child together and other children with you living as a family or maybe not? And what does your ex have to do with your relationship now? In your statement I hear more about your ex than your girlfriend.....possibly you have moved on but not ahead since her. People need to consider their children and what all these broken relationships do to them.....Pain, distrust, insecurity just to name a few. It is far easier to live for the moment than to the future.....there is always cause and effect.

Since your last details added........it is very confusing why couples have children when they aren't into the family thing....then why are they creating a family???? Especially, in this day and age when there is countless methods of birth control and availability. If you are upset that she doesn't love your children, the question to ask yourself is did you want her to step in and replace the mother that gave them up? The fact remains that their biological mother is their mother and your girlfriend should only need to be a friend to them. Why would you be upset that you feel she doesn't love them, when their own mother didn't love them enough to be there for them???
If you are a good father and love them....you have won half the battle, no one can come in and fix the damage their mother caused. Now you want to send another child away, which is worse? Why haven't you wanted to marry your girlfriend, but willing to have a child with her??? Could this be why she isn't into the family thing? We think moving onto another person will be better, but the sad truth is that there is always baggage from all the previous history. Children need their mother and fathers....for some reason we seem to believe new ones or people are able to take their place.
Does she know you want to send her off? If not, you both are not communicating or have a clue as to what the other is thinking. Number one question is: Do you love her and your child? If you do, then it is worth working out or on. Your children will be grown and gone some day and doing what pleases them, will you regret letting her go?

Answer 3

Be honest, that is the best policy. She might not like it but in the long run she will appreciate being told the truth.

Answer 4

then do so. everyone is happy and move on as long as the kids dont get confused??

Answer 5

you're not nice.