should i give up my dream?

Question

i am in ballet. my mom put me in it when i was really little and i have been dancing ever since. when i was little ive always wanted to be a dance teacher when i got older or go into a big dancing company.
But-my mom died about a month ago from breast cancer and i really don't know if i should dance in my recital this upcomming week. I don't know if i should dance anymore either.
im a family of 5 boys and 3 girls and they were never put in dance so i really don't know...what do you think?

Answer 1

your choice but i see yes

Answer 2

Everyone is saying not to give up your dream. But I think the question may go beyond that. Will you continuing dance hurt your family? You evidently come from a large family (like me). If that is part of your worry, like you need to be with them more, or it takes money that you don't have, etc, then this could be an even harder problem.

You see my dream is to sing opera. I am from a large family and I love them all dearly, if I was put in the same position I don't know what I would do. I think you have this dream for a purpose -Your mother saw that. I think you should do the recital. But as far as continuing dance I would make sure you are really serious about it and then call your family together and talk about it - you never know... They may have other worries that they were afraid to talk about as well. I think they will understand, and I think that your future will hold a lot of work and pain if you go through with this, but in the end it will be wonderful if you really want it. If this is one of the things that gives you a part of who you are, part of your strength, then don't give it up.

I hope you are a Christian - you have no idea how much comfort and advice and peace Jesus Christ can give if you aren't! If you are not I don't know how much this will mean to you, but I want you to know I am praying for you!

Answer 3

If you have a dream follow it. I know that losing a loved one is hard, and can be very painful. But just remember that your mother put you into Ballet when you were very little. Plus you love to dance. It doesn't matter if you grew up with other brothers and sisters that don't dance. Your different from them. Think about it this way. Your mother paid for you to do something that you loved to do. Right! She wanted you to follow your dream and I think that she would be proud of you if you continued it. Why through all that you work for away. If you get back onto that stage and dance your heart out, and show yourself and your mother that you knew you could dance all along. You would be proud of yourself. Because when your like 60 or older maybe even younger then that. Do you want to look back and remember that you were so close and let it all go. You will regret it and you should go back to dancing. It was your dream. Fight for it! Because nobody else will fight for you, only you and you alone!

Answer 4

You have a talent that was given to you by God. You obviously enjoy dancing and would your mom want you to give it up? I'm sorry for your mom's passing (mine died from Lung Cancer 10 years ago). While it's never easy to deal with, death brings along a lot of change. With that change comes confusion. Confusion is from the devil so don't let him in. The only one that can answer this question is you. While you are in pain, is not the time to try to make these decisions. Dance in your recital, think of your mom sitting there, as proud as can be. Think of how proud she would be for you to be strong and dance with all of your heart for her. Do it for her. If you heart is in your dancing at that time, you will know what is next. But, when you dance, dance from your heart, not your head. That's what a gift is all about. Don't think about anything else when you dance. Losing a mom is never easy (I know) and you won't get over it quickly so don't try to. Definitely move forward into your life. Your mom would have wanted it that way. Besides, if you opened your own dance company you never know if you'll be the teacher of the next greatest dancer ever. Take care.

Answer 5

Never give up your dream. You can certainly skip the recital, but that doesn't mean you need to stop dancing. My mom also died from breast cancer (in 1991) and for awhile I just completely didn't know where I fit in the world anymore. Nothing made sense anymore. I felt completely adrift.

But know that this is a normal part of the grieving process and that it will pass.

Also, dancing may be a really good way to express your emotions and help release them so that they don't become toxic.

Best of luck to you, and my deepest sympathies.

Answer 6

your mom knew how much dancing ment to you. never giv up your dreams. she wouldn't want you to just give up because she died.
do your recital she will be watching from heaven and cheering you on as if she was there.
i am sure that she is sad that she can't be there to tell you that you did an exelent job and bring you flowers when you are done. but she has the best seat in the house.
hav you seen the movie called save the lasst dance? i think you should
i am a dancer and i was good enough to compete in the intermational dance organization's competition last year. this is bacically the dancers olympics. my group got silver. it was unbelievable to achieve second place in the world. i just don't have the money to go back again so i might not ever dance again. this very thought makes me cry because it is my dream too. when i told my husband that i was thinking of quiting he was so mad and said that i must keep dancing even if he has to rob a bank.

Answer 7

I knew a girl who did ballet her entire life. She actually went to the University of Hartford (in Hartford, CT) to study dance and dance instruction. A couple of days before her college graduation, her mother died unexpectedly. This is a true story.

That was a year ago and in the meantime she is still dancing and doing what she loves: teaching. If dancing makes you happy then your mother will be happy for you. Obviously your mother thought that Ballet was something important and I'm sure you've learned things from Ballet that you could never learn elswhere.

Do what you love, mom will be proud.

Answer 8

Do what you think is best - do you still love to dance? Is your dream still alive? Do you still want to be a dance teacher? If you do, then go ahead. Or do you want to stop because you're grieving for your mom? If you feel you can't dance in your recital, that's fine - but as far as you giving up on dancing permanently, I'd say take a step back and think about it. Would you have regrets if you quit? Could you live without pursuing your dream? How old are your siblings? Do you feel you need to support them? Talk to them and see how they feel about you pursuing dancing. I'm sure they won't mind. Don't give up on your dreams. Follow your heart and do what you think is best. My deepest condolences to you and your family on your loss.

Answer 9

Wow, that's a tough one. No one can make this decision for you; ultimately, it has to come from your own heart. Now. I think you should try dancing for a little while longer, because right now you're probably just upset; maybe it reminds you of your mother, maybe everything makes you sad right now. Give it some more time, maybe a few more months, and then decide whether or not you want to continue doing it. If you hate it in a few months, well, wouldn't your mother rather you stop doing something that makes you miserable? And if you're still enjoying it, then keep on doing it. You've got to decide what you want to do, but don't rush yourself or come to quick decisions that you might regret. If it's your dream, don't give up on it so easily.

Answer 10

I would definitely do it. I had a six grade teacher who danced in class all the time in the early 70's. I would do the robot dance just to play around, but I always wanted to dance myself. I never pursued that dream, but my teacher gave me some really good advice.."When you start out dancing in life, you dance with life." Dancing in general has kept me happy and free flowing. I'd do the dance if I was you, just for the love of your Beloved Mother. I would think she would be so proud of you. Go for it!! Open your heart and move girl!

Answer 11

Would you mom want you to give up your dream? She put in dance for a reason, each person has it's own "dream" maybe your brothers and sisters have some other trait their good at. Of course not, do not give up anything, then what will you do? Dance for your mother, yourself, your siblings go and enjoy yourself fulfill those desires you wish, you'll look back and be glad you did, and your mother will be looking down from Heaven saying "That's my beautiful dancing angel" God Bless and take care.