the past 5 years me and my man have been together i'm ready 4 a baby. but he is not. I don't think he is ever going to be ready unless it just happens. What do I do?
2006-06-29 05:36:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The pull out method is a very unreliable form of birth control because sperm are also present in pre-ejaculate fluid. If you continue to use that method, you will get pregnant eventually. If you have used it for 5 years already, the odds are not in favor of preventing a pregnancy for much longer. Keep doing what your doing and you will get pregnant.
I truly recommend talking with him before this happens and talking about what his reasons are for not wanting kids right now and what your reasons are for having them now. You may be surprised by what you both find out. Pregnancy, childbirth and caring for a baby are very difficult tasks and it is much easier to deal with if your guy is "on board" as well. In the end, it is easier to have and care for a child when you are both in agreement. Children are a blessing, but they complicate life and relationships. If you are having trouble agreeing on when to get pregnant, what makes you think you will agree on how to raise and care for a child once it is here?
Good luck.
2006-06-29 05:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by MJL613 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think it is very, very important to know where your man stands. Having a baby is so difficult. Pregnancy is an emotional whirlwind and having support is essential. After the baby comes, you'll be exhausted from waking up every two hours to feed/change the baby. This goes on for weeks and the sleep deprivation makes it nearly unbearable to do it alone.
Would he help you? Would he take a 3 a.m. feeding so you can rest for a four-hour span? Will he change diapers? Will he get on the floor and play with him to give you a break every once in awhile?
Then there are the months and years that follow. Bringing up a baby alone is so tough, so if your partner can't handle it, you'll need to be prepared to go it alone. Babies don't bring people together. They challenge a couple, especially the first few years. I have a seven-month-old and he is wonderful, but I and several new moms that I hang out with all share one thing in common (aside from fatigue)...there is increased stress in all of our marriages since the birth. It seems few people are willing to share that with people thinking about becoming parents, but it's a reality for even the closest couples.
BTW, the pull-out method ain't really a method at all. You've been lucky if you've being relying upon that for five years and no pregnancies.
Good luck and I hope you find your path.
2006-06-29 05:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by SurferRose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one of you is not sure, then you should probably start using some birth control. My friend in high school got pregnant after dating this guy only two weeks and they were 'pulling out.' And my older sister just had a baby, she and her husband had been using this method for 3 years and one day it just didn't work. Luckily they were prepared, but if your man doesn't want a kid and you get pregnant, you run the chance of him leaving and you having a baby on your own. If u think ur not ready for that then I suggest you start using some birth control.
2006-06-30 04:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by redzodd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't ready to have a child with you, you shouldn't trap him into one. That is so shady, triflin', and just down right evil. Just talk to him more about it and ask him when does he think he'll be ready. If he doesn't want children at all and you do, then you may need to think about whether or not this is someone you'd want to spend your life with. Having a child is a big deal and if he's not ready for it, you should respect that. How old are you anyway? If you are a teen and unable to care for a child completely on your own, in my opinion you shouldn't be trying to have a baby anyway.
2006-06-29 05:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not ready to have a baby, then don't. It takes two people who are ready for the responsibility to raise a child. If you end up pregnant and he is not ready, you will only make things harder on yourself and the child you will bring into the world.
2006-06-29 05:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by rockinout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, are you SURE you are ready?? Like they say on TV, having a baby changes EVERYTHING! And if you don't have a partner who is willing to have a baby with you and help out, then you should just move on and find a man who IS!
There are plenty of them out there!
Good luck to you!
2006-06-29 05:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by SusieQFish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it or move on to a new man who is ready for a family.
2006-06-29 05:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 10:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont force the issue. men dont mentally mature til around the age 25. most men start having that urge for children in their late 20's, early 30's. absolutely do not stress the issue or u will bare the consequences of him not wanting the baby or u!
2006-06-29 05:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by foxzie006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are really thinking about it STOP!if you do that it may end your relationship for good.if he is not ready than yall are not ready.one of the biggest mistakes you can make for a baby is not being able to take care of him/her.trust me i thought i was ready and her daddy left cause he wasnt.
2006-06-29 05:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by Love the married life! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋