when you have a wedding coming up in august,you and your family are financialy tied into so many things surounding this wedding and you realize you dont wanna marry this person anymore.the feeling that you have is WAYYYYYY beyond cold feet.please no insults onyl serious answers.thanks
2006-06-29 05:27:52 · 13 answers · asked by mrs.dynomite 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been there- cancelled my first wedding 3 weeks beforehand. It wasn't easy and my family wasn't happy at first but after awhile they realized it was the best thing. (I was lucky and a lot of places gave us a refund) I just got married in August to a man that I had absolutely no hesitations about and it is well worth the pain I went through before. You've got to get out now or you will regret it for the rest of your life. Confide to a close friend first so you know going into it that you have someone on your side. Good luck!
2006-06-29 05:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the cost do NOT marry this guy if you do not want. You will only be creating more problems and even more broken hearts. Set your dude down and be honest with him. I dont know if you just want to postpone marriage or get out of the relationship altogether but in any event honesty is the best policy. Money has been spent but you know what....its ONLY money. G' luck
2006-06-29 05:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either deal with the oohs and ahh's now or you'll be setting yourself, and your fiance up for a lifetime of misery. You MUST step up to the plate, and honestly voice your opinion to everyone that matters, is easier than going through a miserable life,and divorce. You probably think that you can fake your feelings through the marriage, so that you don't have to go through the embarrassment of calling it off, but trust me that in the end you'd wish you'd stopped it. It's just money, but it's YOUR WHOLE LIFE. God Bless You, and do the right thing for yourself, I'm sure that you deserve happiness, and for everyone else involved. Heck allow them to read your posted question, and answers to break the ice, but you must not go through with it. Good luck.
2006-06-29 05:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by jusb4dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont get married just becasue you dont want to dissapoint people. It sounds like you have made up your mind about your feelings towrds this man...think about it if you felt this way about a guy who you hadnt made wedding arrangements you wouldnt stay with him right? So apply the same logic to this...you dont want to get married so dont. Some people may be aggrivated...but I would rather piss a few people off for a little bit rather then marry someone that I dont want to marry. Besides your family would probably be more dissapointed to see you get divorced shortly after your wedding....at least this way you may be able to save some money too.
good luck.
2006-06-29 05:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that your family would rather have you not wed someone your not in love with than have you wed them just because of the financial aspects of the wedding. The sooner you let everyone know that the wedding is off the better chance everyone has of recovering any financial investment they have made regarding the wedding.
2006-06-29 05:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to do what's right now before it's too late and ends in divorce later. My wife went through the same thing with her first husband. 2 kids and 5 years later she left him. They are friends now and he sees his kids when he wants, but they knew they weren't right for each other. Save yourself, and others lots of heartache and trouble later by going though a bit of trouble now. And don't let your Mom or anyone try and tell you it's just cold feet. I believe marriage is FOREVER, so do it right just once!
2006-06-29 05:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait a minute longer, that will only make matters worse. As for your family; if they want to see you happy, then hopefully they won't be too upset. In the long run, this will just have been another hurdle you will have leaped.
2006-06-29 05:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by RX2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel 100% that this is not what you want then dont do it.you may feel obligated or something because of the money but dont.once your married it is alot more money to get divorced.when you do get married it is suppose to be beautiful and your suppose to be happy not the way your feeling now.dont get married for any other reasons you will regret it the rest of your life.good luck sweetie
2006-06-29 05:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by lori b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my!!!!Do yourself a favor do not marry this person. There may be people upset and maybe anger but your happiness needs to come first. It isn't your job to make everyone else happy!!!
2006-06-29 05:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to break it off and the sooner the better! Maybe you'll be lucky enough to get refunds!
2006-06-29 05:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by angelpockets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋