I just spoke with my mother yesterday and told her that I'm moving in with my fiance this August. When she heard this she said that she would never talk to me again and dosen't even want me at her funeral. Then when I came home from my class she was acting like nothing happened and being nice to me. She is really confusing me. I'm 23 years old and I want to move out. I told her I would call everyday and see her as much as I can. But this didn't intrest her. I'm really confused what should I do? Should I move out or stay to make her happy?
2006-06-29 05:27:35 · 12 answers · asked by Nicole D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your 23, your old enough to run your own life and do what you think is best for your future. Our parents often don't agree with our choices, but they are ours to make. You should proceed with your plans and hopefully your mom will realize you are an adult and not her little girl any longer and respect that your old enough to make your own choices in life.
2006-06-29 05:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, I don't know the full circumstances of the relationship you have with your mother, but my initial advice would be to move. Even though we can have very close and loving relationships with our parents, we are individuals and have a right to lead our lives in the way we see fit - as long we don't cause harm to others. Have you discussed this with your fiance and friends? When I moved out from my mum's home, it was the best thing I ever did. I lived with my mum and sister, and my relationship with them has improved no end since moving out. I say go for it and live the life that you want to live.
Best regards
Amber
2006-06-29 05:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should do what will make you happy. I was 20 when I moved out with my fiance and my parents were not HAPPY, but things are fine now. You can't live with your mom forever and you are 23. BUT...after you get married you are gonna have to move out anyway. If you stay until you get married you may regret it. What does your fiance think?
2006-06-29 05:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I moved out a while ago and was they youngest of five and the last to leave home. my mum was not a happy bunny but she is ok now.
its a big change and your mum will get used to it- but do it!!!!! now the subject is in the air dont just forget it because you will just have to bring it up again another time.
your mum will just miss you and is probably havin a bit of an 'empty nest' moment. just give her a day or two but still do it. then have her round for a home cooked meal. show her you can look after your self and she will still be a huge part of your life. hope that helps.
2006-06-29 05:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by kookydoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta live your own life. You're already reassuring her that you;ve no intention of cutting her out of your life. Maybe to arrange a regular lunch date/ Sunday dinner or whatever might reassure her further. You need to go for what you want, and while you wouldn't intentially hurt your mother, you can't be too swayed by her current feelings. She will come round if she has any sense at all, after all, she has brought you up to be an independant adult and your taking the next step. It'l be hard and you'l have to be considerate and thoughtful of her, but you must do it- will it be any easier at 40yrs old?
2006-06-29 05:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out & live the way you want to.
You are not Mummy's little girl anymore.
You are an adult & no longer have to abide by your mothers rules.
Tell her that you want to be with the man you love, that he makes you happy & that you hope she will be happy for you but you are moving anyway.
If she loves you, she will come around. Maybe she pretended nothing had happened because she realised that she was wrong in blackmailing you into doing what she wants.
I hope it all works out well for you.
2006-06-29 06:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation where you don't try ro make anyone else happy, think of yourself. The people in your life that love you will eventually get over it and be happy that you're happy. So just do what will make you happy.
2006-07-05 17:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jay E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never disrespect your mother,but you are old enough to have a life of your own. Some mother find it hard to let go.Move out but try to keep communication line open with your mother if at all possible.Good luck
2006-06-29 05:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you. Ya your mom is gonna miss you,I think that all mothers act like that at first, but she will get over it. If you think you are really to move out, then I say you go for it.Good luck.
2006-06-29 05:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by queen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice and your life. But before you make the descisions ask your mother WHy her answeer was her answer. Later, write down...Pros and Con's of your desicion...Good Luck!
2006-06-29 05:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by SunnySideUp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋