my parents argue over little reasons, what should i do to make them feel better about eachother?

Question

Please help and this is a serious question.

Thank you everyone!

Answer 1

It's not your responsiblity to help them feel better about each other. Married people argue all the time, they just shouldn't do it in front of you. Try telling them how you feel when they argue, but it's up to them to make themselves happy, not you. You are the child, remember that, they should be taking care of you. Don't ever think that this is your fault and that you have to be the adult. NO! They are the parents, and should grow up!

Answer 2

I agree with charlie, you can not assume responsibility for your parents. Even though you are desperate for them to get along, there is nothing you can do. It sounds to me as if you are not only tired of their arguing, but you are scared this will come to a bitter end. It is unfortunate that parents who haven fallen out with each other don't consider how their conduct affects their children. Have you tried talking to them about this, each separate. If not try. If that doesn't work, or hasn't worked, I'm afraid you can't change things. You might be able to find an organization in you city that will help you cope with what's going on. Some cities have domestic hotlines that will talk to you.

Answer 3

Oh dear. I am so sorry, there is very little you can do about your parents arguing. First of all, it is not your fault and has nothing to do with you. Whether you are there or not they would argue.
Some couples actually grow stronger through argument and some see is as a natural part of the relationship.
Anyway, when they are not arguing and are all lovey-dovey, this is a good time to tell them how you feel about their silly behavior. Go ahead. It will change them.

Answer 4

Aww you sound like you have a wonderful, gentle heart. However what your parents argue about, and all of it, is their deal as a married couple. I would tell you that it also is very normal for couples to argue, communicate, you need to have, you want to, nobody can agree 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, ya know? So the best thing you can do, is to think of yourself, your own life, and get out of the area or have them remove themselves if it hurts you to hear it. I would also say, just keep thinking positive thoughts for them or if you have some kind of faith, pray for them, prayer alone is powerful and free!!! You sound like a good, sweethearted person! Just doesn't mean always for you to get involved,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,it's their arguments, their marriage to own for themselves!!!

Answer 5

I honestly don't know that there is anything you can do. You can't make people change. There could be more to there arguing than what meets the eye. You could try talking to them and letting them know how you feel. My parents used to do the same thing and still do even though they are seperated. I know it gets hard but hang in there. I hope everything works out.

Answer 6

Well you shouldn't be in the middle or try to settle it for them. If anything it will give them more to argue over cause you are upset about it. The best thing, get your mom's best friend to take her out for a day away from the stress. Have dad go with his buddies...you can set it up behind the scenes so neither of them know you were in on it....it works if adults can talk it out with their piers just like you do with your friends who knows it may end up a great weekend for all of you.....
If they are also worried about money...you may want to help out in doing babysitting jobs and such and pay for your extras that you want to help out with there pressures....things like that will help them more than you know.

Answer 7

There is nothing that YOU can do to make them feel better. It's a problem that only they can fix (maybe with the help of a counselor). I know this from my own experience....my husband and I have had our issues through life, and I don't think my kids could've changed any of it. Believe me, though, it does help to see your kids happy and smiling. That always makes my day...just knowing that no matter what I'm going through, my kids are still happy with the life I've provided them.

Answer 8

I'm sorry your parents argue so much. I know it is hard because I, and I think most people, have dealt with it. You just let them both know that you love them very much and you hate it when they fight. Then, you stay out of it. It's hard but their relationship isn't really anything that you can fix. It is up to the two of them to make it work and stop fighting. Letting them know that it is bothering you is important.

Answer 9

You can't make them feel better, but you can let them know how their fighting affects you. Let them know how you feel when they argue. Sit down and talk to them. They may not even be aware how often they argue with each other. Be honest with your feelings.

Answer 10

There is nothing you can do to help them. You do need to let them know how it makes you feel when they argue. Expressing your feelings to them may make them realize that they are affecting you too.