we have been cool for the longest and he just told me but i am against gayes (we just dont get along to good never have) what do i do in this situation
2006-06-29 05:06:40 · 25 answers · asked by ACE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just tell him that you don't like that and you would never be that way. don't just ditch him since he's been your friend for awhile. tell him that he better never try anything with you and to never flirt. tell him can't you just be the guy you always have been that made us friends when you're around me? tell him that you don't really need to know any details or anything about that part of his life. but try not to completely bash him n ditch him. i, too, am against gays, but i have a friend who's doin the whole gay thing and they know where i stand and they don't discuss that part of their lives with me and that's worked out fine. try it.
~just trying to help~
2006-06-29 05:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by spontaneousfemale1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you choose your friends for who they are and he is the exact same person - the only difference is you have changed because you have now been exposed to additional stimuli in your relationship - also, try to not to generalize - everyone is different - my guess is you may not be able to tell a straight guy from a gay guy all the time, just like the rest of the world - some are feminine and some are not -
ps - your friend has always been gay - don't let sexual preference get in the way -
pps - being a straight guy, when i get hit on by gay dudes, i feel flattered, but its like being hit on by a girl i think is unnattractive and not sexually appealing -
don't let this be an issue - you probably have too many REAL things to worry about - like bills, your family, etc...
one more thing - has he always been there for you as a friend? have you always been there for him? if you answered yes to both then i think you know what you should do.
2006-06-29 12:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Qmarc Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you get along good with this gay person don't you? Enough to consider him your best friend right?
His sexual preference should have nothing to do with your friendship.
So stop being childish and keep your mind open.
You may not have gotten along with some gay people but just like everyone else were not all the same.
2006-06-29 12:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you do get along with them you and friend were doing fine and he is gay they are people to they just prefer the same sex that's all get over it he is still the same person you have been cool with all this time and if you are a true friend you will continue to be
2006-06-29 12:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he is gay doesn't mean you have to stop being his friend all you have to do is tell him that you are not that way gay people are so cool to kick it with i have sisters and friends that are gay and i still love them the same we go out together they pay for every thing but if yall have been friends for a long time him being gay should not get in the way of yalls friendship. example let's say that you came out and said that you was gay wouldn't you want your friend to be there for you and support you i would that's what friends are for.
2006-06-29 12:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by baby girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still the same person you've been best friends with. Even though you don't get along with gay people, you know you get along with him, right?
I'd just tell him that you aren't gay, but you'd like to still be friends as long as he doesn't make a pass at you.
I'm against gays too, but it's not for me to judge.
I just treat others as I want to be treated.
2006-06-29 12:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude grow up.. if he's your friend and you didn't have a clue before than nothing should change .. i would let him know that you would never like to meet his boyfriends or know aanything about them . but if you were cool with him then why change..... on a diiferent note. ny gay friends have always respected my feelings and have told me that friends are friends and not to worry about them hitting on me. so i'm sure he wont hit on you either so don;t worry about that.... sometimes though there are advantages because they can clue you in on the oposite sex ( in a way )
2006-06-29 12:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing but continue to be his friend. His personal sex life is none of your business unless he sets his attraction
in your way then you have a right to let him know how you feel because now it involves you personally.
2006-06-29 12:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your friend for who he is, he wouldnt told you he was gay if he didnt trust you. I didnt never like gays either but I had to respect my uncles,cousins and friends for who they are. I may not like what they do but I will always love them for who they are.
2006-06-29 12:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by ms.hershey06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't like gays either. But if you are a true friend continue to be his friend. UNTIL, he tries you with that gay ****. Then you should stop being his friend.
2006-06-29 12:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋