My wife or ex filed for a divorce about 1 1/2yr. We both have lawers and so far we have arrengement with the children custody (2). About 2 week I started to see her and we are having intercourse relation. We have agreed to have this relation and still keeping our own space and still proceed with the divorce, is not completed yet. The next appointment with the judge is to split the assets during marriage and should be within a month. Do you think this is dengerous and healthy for both
2006-06-29 04:51:52 · 11 answers · asked by Juan o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The children and nobody knows that we are seen eachother. We live in California
2006-06-29 06:18:02 · update #1
i dont think its unheatly at all, if there is one thing that you can still do with her then do it, as long as neither of you are sleeping around, then yes it can be dangerous obvisously, i hope for you giys sake that the divorce is really want you guys want, but people always say that even though there divorced some things seem better that way, i think that you guys are being civil by sleeping with one another, yes could it be dangerous if one of you try to use it against the other in court, yes it could be but of course the other person will just deny it and then what your back to square one, who knows maybe yalls realtions will lead to something stronger and better than before and if there are any chances of keeping the lines of communcation open this is one way for sure, i mean there are still deep feelings inside you both that yet to habe been discussed and there is nothing wrong with that, its alot safeer to be with one another than someone totaly strange toeach of you, good luck wwith the divorce and for the kids sake keep things as civil as possible
2006-06-29 05:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states if you cohabitate after you file for a divorce, that action voids the divorce and you have to start all over again. You would be wise to check with you attorney for the law in your state regarding this. It is not uncommon for divorced people to have a sexual relationship after the divorce, but generally it ends in a mess. However, nothing good either way can come from this type of relationship. I mean you are getting a divorce for a reason and if you are not serious about stopping the divorce, consider the kids. This can be very confusing to them. Your playing with fire.
2006-06-29 12:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by c.nolan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know when assest start to come in affect this might mess up your relationship. Everythings good up until then. If yall are close as yall are then yall shouldn't need lawyers. Yall should be able to work this out on yall own. So that is just an suggestion.
2006-06-29 12:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by nino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dangerous! What kind of parents are you?? You are putting YOUR KIDS through a DIVORCE and have the nerve to still have SEX!!!!!! Do you see anything wrong with this picture??!!! Or are the two of you just selfish and don't care about your children's feelings??!!!
2006-06-29 12:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by jennymustafa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you settle for less? you had it all and it didn't work out do you think it will work out this way? if you do think it'll work you should of thought about it in the beginning of the relationship before tying the knot. so my opinion is to move on and make new friends you'll fing someone to your liking. remember keep your friends close and your enemies even closer.
2006-06-29 19:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you supposed to be moving on? My X husband wanted to do this while we were divorcing. I told him hell NO. To me it isn't healthy. I understand both have needs but it isn't worth confusing the kids let alone the emotions behind it.
2006-06-29 11:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very unhealthy.. but hey if you like it and it's working for you then keep on doing it.. but usually stuff like this has a way of getting ugly in the end..
2006-06-29 11:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are perfect candidates for THERAPY! You are playing with fire. You probably forgot the reason why you want the divorce anyway.
2006-06-29 12:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't let the judge know! I wouldn't do it, but if it works for the 2 of you, go ahead.
2006-06-29 12:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's either one or the other. You can't have your cake and eat it too, literally.... Either move on, or get back together, don't confuse your children, they have enough to deal with.
2006-06-29 12:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋