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I am having a baby in 4mo. and he lives 1,500miles away we got in a disagreement a week ago and he hasn't called he always asks if i am cheating on him I don't have much time to myself because I have other children and a full-time job and my family comes first but he's always bring up other men to me do you think he feels guilty for mybe cheating? or how can I tell if he's faithful??HMMM!!

I don't sleep around he is going overseas for a while that's why he's gone but when I ask him he get's very upset with me about him cheating.

I want to tell nighthawk thank you for the advice and you know how i am feeling thanks again!!

Answer 1

Wow, what a mess. Too bad you just made a baby before you felt good enough about your relationship to marry or at least trust each other.

I suppose something in your or his past has led him to believe you might cheat on him. I don't know what you can do to resolve this when he's 1500 miles away. I'd guess that he may be feeling a little guilty about not being there for you now, but that would just be a guess. He may be trying to stir up a disagreement to justify his breaking it off. I'd say that you should know this about him but it's obvious that you don't really know him all that well.

It looks as though you are considering giving this baby up for adoption. I say "bravo" if that is your decision. You seem pretty overwhelmed already, with your job and family. It may also be a blessing to not have this guy in your life. Your relationship leaves much to be desired. You could be much happier if you find "the right" guy.

Try to concentrate on what you have at home, your kids, job, and health, and not sweat his irrational accusations. I would even suggest that you not accept his callls, or at least end them quickly if he begins to harass you about being unfaithful. Just tell him ONE TIME that you are not being unfaithful, that you won't take that harassment from him, and if he continues to falsely accuse you, you will hang up. Then carry through with it.

Honestly, you don't need that stress and pressure with all the rest you have to deal with.

Good luck! I wish you strength and peace.

Answer 2

sounds like there isn't a lot of trust by either of you.

you probably get stressed being away from each other and instead of being vulnerable to that you both put on this "cheating" thing to try and be tough about the distance.

if i were you two, i would seperate and stay friends. that way the baby will have 2 parents who get along and are there for it.

if you stay together and things get bad, well, then the baby will suffer the most.

i'd try to be amicable and just be friends who share a wonderful baby!

take care.

Answer 3

Talk to him less on the phone, if you guys are talking to much. If its not often, he might be cheating on you. Give him a surprise visit, if he's your husband, if he's your bf, just break up and make sure he assumes responsability. Surprise him go visit, who cares if its in India? find a baby sitter, tell your job that you need a few days. If in your surprise visit you find him with another women (don't forget your camara) take pictures and tell him its over, be strong and don't put up with so much b.s. If you think he's cheating it could be because of distance or b/c he's cheating.

Answer 4

All us women know that when a man is accusing us of cheating that they are the ones doing it. And if hes not then he is insure and feel the need to put you threw this to make himself feel better with your reassurance. This is BS! Don't put up with this even if he is your Baby's Father. Tell him straight forward ONCE and if he keeps it up, blow him off. Tell him if he cant be happy with the way things are then to move on! You have other kids as well as your pregnancy to worry about.

Answer 5

I don't know. . . He's sounding pretty guilty to me! He's trying to make you the bad one in the relationship, when he is the bad one!

The only way I can think is to ask a buddy that you know. Friends always know, and probably feel very guilty about keeping a secret!

The other way is to maybe "surprise" him with a visit!

Good Luck!!

Answer 6

I'm guessing by "he" you mean the baby's dad? He is probably insecure. You should tell him that if he is that worried that your cheating on him,(from the sound of it, the only time you'd have is in your sleep) then he should move down there to be closer to you.

Answer 7

HMMM well you could stop sleeping around and getting pregnant by losers who could care less about you or the baby..

Answer 8

Do what he's doing, ASK HIM????? Start buging him about it and see how he likes it. Be careful with stress while your pregnant!!!!

Good luck!!!!