Help Me!!!!!!!?

Question

I'm 17 and i've been going out with this one boy for 3 years and i finally had sex with him two months ago and now he calls me every 3 days and when i call him he ignores my calls or his mommy says he's gone. I still loves him but know i feel stupid because i gave it up to him and know i feels that he got what he wanted and know he dont want me nomore. He told me he still loves me but he dont have time nomore. Yesterday i found out that i was pregnant. WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Hi,

First of all let me tell you that there is something wrong with both of you since you haven't used obviously any protection!any haw this is another discussion you should have with him...

Then, talk to the guy! Either way you have several ways ahead:
1. become a 17years old parent (alone or not)
2. stop the pregnancy
3.give the child for adoption

Considering that you are just 17, and the entire life ahead of you and i seriously doubt that the guy will be responsible(i hope that i am wrong), i will stop the pregnancy, do some counseling and go on with my life.

Either way, is a big responsibility, and should be taken only after consulting the father...

Keep me posted please with your decision. Maybe i can help. No matter what you decide.

Hazzard

Answer 2

Well, I can only tell you what *I* would do, which may or may not be helpful.

First things first: I wouldn't have the child. You're too young, and have no resources to raise it. If you want children, have them later, when you have some way to DO it.

Next: sue this bastard for your medical costs. I assume you can prove that he's responsible, so make him pay up.

After that, be sure to flush him out of your life. Treat him like the refuse he is, and put him out of your life. Believe me, there are men who will treat you right; he's proven to you that he won't.

After you have sorted all this out, get on with your life. Finish school, or whatever your plans initially were. Most importantly, forget this guy, he's nothing but heartache, and you don't have time for that, really, you don't.

Answer 3

Tell your parents first and foremost. If you decide to have the baby just realize you will be tied to this guy the rest of your life.
Have more respect for yourself and don't let him use you anymore. Be true to yourself and know that at that age it is going to be tough but if you have the support of your family you can get through this. Right now forget about him and worry about yourself and where you are going to go. Think this thing through. Speak to your mom or an older women who can give you insight on what you are fixing to face and know that you have several options. You aren't limited in your decisions.

Answer 4

I got knocked up at 15 on purpose because my boyfriend and I thought if we got me pregnent that our parents would let us get married. I moved in with him but after 3 weeks I ended up moving out cause he was cheating on me with the 13 yr. old next door. After that we were off and on for 5 years and he was a crappy father. Now our daughter is 19 yrs.old and he has not been in her life because his wife of the last 14 years told him to choose between her and our daughter and he picked the wife.I am happioly married and considering everything my daughter has grown to be a healthy wonderful woman. I tell you all this cause it sounds like you will end up like I did alone with a baby and I just want you to know that things can still work out for you and your baby. Take him for child support. He should help you with taking care of your child.

Answer 5

when he calls lay it all out on the table for him. tell everythin; how u feel and that ur pregnent. he might b scared right now tho. jus tlk it over wit him. i think that if u can, try and save ur relationship but it sounds as tho this guy needs to gro up some now that he is goin to hav a child. if he wont gro up then as soon as he has a job take him to court and get child support so that u can take care of ur baby. if u dont think u can take care of ur child u shuld either hav an abortion or put the baby up for adoption. but u shuld think about this hard and tlk to ur elders bc they r wise and shuld kno how to hlp u and b open to advice from them. if u r mature about it u will b ok. i kno so much bc someone in my family did the same thing and im giving u the same advice she was given and she is doin great. GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

you need to keep your baby .
because god commands u 2.
we all make mistakes in life but honestly, it's not the baby's fault for this happening.
if you can't care for it, put it up for adoption.
there's a lot of people in this world that can't conceive, have children & i'm 1 of them. i'd do anything to be able to get pregnant(nothing bad that is). children are blessings from god.
now w/your b/friend, pray for him. pray & ask god to help u with this situation.
let him know about the pregnancy, see what happens from there.
if he wants no part of you or the baby, then he's the 1 that will lose out. remember: we reap what we sow, what comes around , goes around.
it's best u find out now what your b/friends going to do then later on.
don't come down on yourself for this decision, get up , forgive yourself, move on.
with god, all things are possible. god will help u thru this tough time in your life, he's closer to u then what u think.
right now, u need 2 take care of yourself, your pregnancy & that innocent child that is in your womb/tummy right now.
good luck & i'll be praying for you.
remember: what's happened has happened. can't cry over spilt milk. time to move on, look to the present & future. your life is going to change now, it's not your b/friend & yourself 1st anymore. the baby is your 1st priority & only your 1st. it's not the baby's fault, so don't take your frustrations, anger, worry, mistake out on it because it doesn't deserve that at all. the baby had nothing to do with the decisions u 2 made. love your baby w/all your heart. because the lord does......

Answer 7

It is the age old adage!!! You gave it up and he ran. Now you are pregnant and he will tell you it is not his :-) Dont think for a minute he is going to own up. He has proven that by not calling or accepting your calls! Get on with your life and keep your legs closed till you meet some guy that is worthg a ****.

Answer 8

HEY GIRL! OK ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS THIS! I WAS 17 WHEN I GOT PREGNANT WITH MY FIRST KID AND I DON'T REGRET HAVIN HIM. ANYWAYS ABORTION WAS TOTALLY OUT OF THE OPTION! I WASN'T ABOUT TO KILL A LITTLE HUMAN BEING. THIS BABY DIDN'T ASK TO BE CONCEIVED. AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT THIS GUY. BUT U NEED TO LET HIM KNOW. YEAH U R YOUNG. SO WAS I! DON'T KILL A BABY! IT'S NOT HIS FAULT HIS DADDY DIDN'T PULL OUT! YES U LOVE HIM BUT U 2 NEED TO TALK LONG AND HARD ABOUT THIS. IF HE DOESN'T LISTEN THEN GO TO HIS PARENTS. IF FU 2 HAVE PROBLEMS IN THE RELATIONSHIP, DON'T GET MARRIED. MAYBE WITH IN TIME HE WILL REALIZE WHAT IS ALL GOING ON! BUT PLEASE DON'T CONSIDER ABORTION. IF U REALLY DON'T WANT THE BABY. GIVE HIM/HER UP FOR ADOPTION. BUT DON'T STAY OUT OF THE BABIES LIFE. THEY WILL NEED U DURING THEIR LIFE. SO IF U DON'T WANT THE BABY, AND GIVE HIM/HER UP FOR ADOPTION, KEEP CLOSE AND LET THEM KNOW U R THERE EVEN THOUGH THEY HAVE ANOTHER FAMILY. THEY MIGHT NEED U FOR MEDICAL RECORDS OR SOMETHING. I JUST WANNA SAY CONGRATS ON THE BABY, BUT DON'T STRESS URSELF I KNOW THAT UR PARENTS WILL STAND BY U AND LOVE THEIR GRAND BABY! TRUST ME MY PARENTS R HERE FOR ME WHEN I NEED THEM. TAKE CARE AND KEEP UR HEAD UP HIGH! HOLLA BACK AT ME IF U WANNA TALK ABOUT IT! MY E-MAIL IS [e-mail]
LTRZ DEB

Answer 9

You better let him know now go to his house call him whatever it takes but don't let him out of this responsibility

Answer 10

I'm sorry you're going through this, but this fella seems like a jerk!
No offense, and I know you love him, but you should totally forget him!