i really like her..but i dont know if i want to get inot a relationship with...but the things we did are done only on relationship basis if u know wot i mean.But this is the first girl i ever kissed and never fantasize them.Wot shud i do?She told me to think bout it for a few days...bout getting invloved..although she keeps insisting.Wot shud i do?Am i really a lesbian?
2006-06-29 04:17:51 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it's to early to tell if your a lesbian or not. But I would encourage you to take time and really try to find yourself before you commit to any relationship. It's only fair to yourself as well as any person getting involved with you. Don't let anybody pressure you into a relationship, that's not healthy and probably won't work out in the long run. Good Luck
2006-06-29 04:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I see alot of ppl jumping to agreement that ur a lesbian... I realize you didn't say n e thing about a dude, but shouldn't I just assume that since you've never been active with a girl b4 this, that naturally, you would like guys ? Then I confirmed it by looking at the questions you've asked previously. So, no, u r not lesbian, unless, of course in the future you decide u don't care for men n e more! For now I would say ur Straight with the ability to be affectionate with other females. This is not a bad thing, it's just a new thing to you. It may never turn into even bisexuality. Most young people will experiment with things now days, since our society is so accepting of alternative lifestyles, and if you enjoyed it, I don't see a problem with it, so stop beating ur self up over it! Tell ur friend u enjoyed the experience, but ur not certain enuf or experienced enuf to make a commitment to a lifestyle change! If she gives a damn about ur sanity, she will be patient. If she is crushing on you hard, she may feel hurt. Let her know u care, but remind her how hurt she would be 2 weeks from now if u suddenly decided u would rather have a guy...
2006-06-29 11:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by FrEaKoNaLeAsH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone -- male or female -- pressure you into a relationship unless YOU"RE ready for it. If you like what you felt, fine and dandy. If you're not certain, back off and think about it until you either say yes or no. It won't matter if you're a lesbian or bi or straight. Just be a good person; but do remember to make your own decisions on your relationships.
2006-06-29 11:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, lots of people "experiment" with friends of the same sex. It's part of discovering who we are.
Ann Heche was in a long term relationship with Ellen DeGeneris and went on get get married and have a child with her husband.
Maybe you lean both ways. Whatever you find out about yourself, don't let your friend be to pushy. Accepting who we are sexually takes time and a good friend will support you in the process, not push you.
2006-06-29 11:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lily how old r u ? Take your time don't rush into anything and be honest with her and with yourself. I'm not sure is one time makes you a lesbian. I guess you will need to find the answer as you get to know yourself and what it is that you really want.
2006-06-29 14:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you did that with a girl you must like her and I say go for it. By the way that does make you a lesbian.
2006-06-29 11:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by the_one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a true friend she will not push it on you, also know that you could loose a good friend if things do not go right. I don't think your a lesbian just your hormones going into hyper mode.
2006-06-29 11:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by bootjack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not being pressure lol she told you how she feels and gave you a couple of days to think it over!! so do just that think it over, pro's and con's...this doesnt make you a lesbain lol maybe bi if anything young and learning about what you like and dont like. its doesnt have to be a forever thing lol just have fun
2006-06-29 11:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by starjessiegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes listen to the first girl, actually listen to you, because, i would hate to see that a girl such as yourself would be wasted on another girl, that there is probably a guy out there that would kill to be with you. id definetly stay straight, but you gotta listen to your heart, itll tell you what to do
2006-06-29 11:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by Adam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that alone, ok it was cool you and her did the do or whatever but you don't need to get in to that tooo deep. you will end up hurt in the long run.
2006-06-29 12:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋