We just adopted a baby girl named, Monica Jaime
My life is way too busy. I have a 12 year old and a 14 year old girls and MY LIFE IS TOO BUSY! I am a single parent. I need help! plz! help!
ps she is about 18 months old
2006-06-29 04:03:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I meant "WE" like I and my daughters, because they were greatly invalved.
2006-06-29 04:07:44 · update #1
why would you adopt a child if you have no time for it? thats just wrong. you should have known from your experience as a parent that babies that age need a lot of attention.
2006-07-05 15:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Coltsgal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then why did you adopt a baby if you are way too busy to take care of her?
Sheesh.
If it is temporary call on trusted family to help you.
Otherwise, re-evaluate your priorities. And, remind yourself why you did this in the first place.
Having a baby is a huge responsibility. And, requires a lot of work - I'm sure you knew this beforehand...and from past experience know that it gets better.
Do you have any girlfriends that would help?
Also, try a Mom and Me club. They are wonderful for support and trading babysitting...and are working/single/mom friendlly.
Good Luck!
2006-06-29 13:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if ur single, who is we
secondly why would you adopt a new kid if your to busy to take care of her
third TAKE TIME, TO TAKE CARE, stop, take a breath, and set down, place the baby into a daycare when you cant stop and do that, get the girls involved in a summer activity program to keep them busy, but all this said a done you still need to TAKE TIME, TO TAKE CARE, and make it work, think about how you can take care of those kids, its almost like seeing the matrix when you can work your on problems out
2006-06-29 11:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by Derrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slowly. Ask you older girls to help out more around the house. and try to find activities that your older ones can do though the school. to give you a lot of time to bond with the baby and your girls. also look into day care centers. and some whop replied to you question stated tr and find support groups. Just be patient and it will work
2006-06-29 12:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair to a child to adopt them and not have time to spend with them. Especially a toddler. When adopting an older child they have to have all the love and attention that you can lavish on them...same as if they aren't adopted. Maybe you should have let her go to another family who's lives are not so hectic.
2006-06-29 11:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have family you can call on? You know the 12 and 14 year olds can help alot. You can ask them to do certain chores everyday, like vaccuum, dishes, dust, take out the trash and such. Order out for food for a little while. Don't get overwhelmed, and remember that you asked for this, so you can handle it.
2006-06-29 11:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you adopt a child if you knew you wouldn't have enough time to take care of her and you and your other children? I mean I could understand an unplanned pregnancy and having to deal with it, but you CHOSE to have this child and now you have to figure out how to make your life and schedule work with this new addition to your family.
2006-06-29 11:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by WREAGLE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your adoption agency usually has support groups. Also, you have girls at the age where they are usually very helpful. With organization, prayers, support groups -- life should settle down.
2006-06-29 11:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Starr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did u adopt a girl if u dont have time for her
it doesnt make sense for me
but with what do u need help
2006-06-29 11:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by sebyta262 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sure what your question is, but why would you adopt a child if your life was already busy, busy, busy.. just curious. are you regreting adopting her now?
2006-06-29 11:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋