Why does the gay community have such a strong dislike for bi-sexual people?

Question

What if you truly like both sexes just the same?? Why is that so wrong?

Answer 1

like other people have stated, i don't think that the whole gay community thinks badly of bisexuals. those who do probably think in black or white, male or female, gay or straight. they probably feel that bisexuals are gays who use bisexuality as a way to still be socially acceptible because they can be out with members of the opposite sex, and yet in the privacy of their bedrooms, are sleeping with members of the same sex-the whole having your cake and eating it too. they also want to believe that these people are lying to themselves, of course it doesn't help when there are a large amounts of married people who are looking for a same sex lover when their husband or wife is away. and the rise of bi-chic girls-the type of girls who make out with each other when at clubs/parties/ on videos such as girls gone wild, or the "i'm 100% straight male, until i'm drunk and horny, then whatever is available" guys, they don't quite paint bisexuals in the best light.
there is nothing wrong with bisexuality, love is love no matter who is it with. the things that make you sexually attracted to a woman is completely different than those that make you attracted to a man. i think as long as you and your partner/partners have no problem with your bisexuality, then you have no problem at all, and never mind those people who don't understand about you, straight or gay!

Answer 2

This question comes up a lot so look back in the discover area to find more answers.

Lesbians and gays do not dislike bisexuals, but there are some that are ignorant or uneducated about them. There are many myths and sterotypes about bi people. Sadly some people in the gay community cannot see that they are doing the same thing to bisexuals that many straight people did to them, telling them they are not real or can be "cured" to pick a side. It's hurtful but with the right education they can learn the truth. Bisexuals are as real as anybody else, live with it.

Go to the HRC web-site for bi myths and the truth.

Answer 3

I don' t have any dislike for bisexual people, my lover of almost 15 years is bisexual -- he just prefers being with me, I'm the first guy he was ever with and he still likes straight porn. We are very, very happy -- but for some people its not that easy.

We know an adorable little gay 18 year old who was with his partner, who was bisexual from 14 up. His parents booted him when they found out he was gay and the two of them lived together. His partner is a year and a half older. They started college and worked and had their little apartment. He caught his friend by total mistake (he came home earlier than expected from work) cheating on him with a female friend. It devastated him. What was worse, his friend then beat the **** out of him for catching them. Not so difficult to do when our little friend weighs only about 100 lbs and is 5'4" with wrists not all that much thicker than my two big toes put together. He cried for days, not because of the pain, though he was very bruised -- but because he wanted his b/f to come back. He didn't care what he'd done or who with or that he'd hurt him -- just that he not leave him.

How will he feel about bisexuals? Probably not as positive as I do. Is what really happened the fault of his partner's bisexuality? -- no -- but most people who encounter these types of occurrences, gay and straight -- blame it on the bisexuality of the other person.

Reyn
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Answer 4

I wasn't aware that the gay community has a strong dislike for bi sexuals. Several years ago I used to spend alot of time with a group of gay men. (I am a straight female) This subject came up often. They had no problem with bi sexuals. One of their close friends considered himself bi and I used to tease him that it just meant he'd never go home alone at the end of the night! lol
In my opinion, and this has no scientific basis at all, I think bi sexuals do have a preference they just chose not to label themselves. In doing that, they leave their options wide open.

Answer 5

I settle for them. I truly have 2 bisexual guy acquaintances, and per chance a bi lady, apparently. I advise, why no longer settle for them? i does no longer be any diverse from the homophobes who hate homosexuals. yet there are some homosexuals who dislike bisexuals. i visit't precisely bear in mind listening to a gay keeping something undesirable about a bi man or woman (yet having pronounced that, i have not talked to too many homosexuals besides), yet i imagine i have study it on Wikipedia once.

Answer 6

Because there are stupid gay people just like there is stupid straight people. Many don't believe you can be bisexual. To straight people if you like people of the same sex, you are gay, plain and simple. To the gays if you like people of the opposite sex, you are a traitor. There is a lot of discrimination in the Gay community. To some I'm too fat. To others I'm too masculine. To some I'm too Hispanic (yes there a lot of racist in the gay community). Until discrimination ends in our own community, then we will always be fighting a losing battle.

Answer 7

I doubt the "entire" gay community dislikes Bisexuals.
Some gay people think that if someone calls themselves "bi" they are minimizing their gayness so they "don't fit into the gay mold" out of fear of being labeled a 'kweer', etc.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with bisexuals.
There's as much diversity in the gay community as their is in the straight community.

Answer 8

I can't say as I've met anyone in our area who doesn't like Bi people....well, anyone in the gay area, I should say. There's nothing wrong with being Bi. You have your pick of the entire population and not just a half! Maybe they're all jealous of that! Enjoy yourself, honey.

Answer 9

I wish I knew. I am almost more persecuted in the gay community than the straight. And people wonder why I dont come out of the closet. LOL

Answer 10

I used to call myself bi, and I faced a lot of discrimination from some gay people, though not all. They call it being wishy-washy, undecided, greedy, uncertain, and confused. I realize now that I was only lying to myself, but that doesn't say anything about other bi people. My best friend is bi, she is attracted to both men and women, and I see nothing wrong with that. You like who you like.